Siza kukubonisa uthotho lwe Amaqhinga okudlala ngothando kuWhatsApp Ngale nto unokukhulisa ukuqala kobudlelwane okanye, ubuncinci, wenzala ethile kwinxalenye yomntu ekubambe. Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka sithathele ingqalelo ngalo lonke ixesha ngendlela esifuna ukusondela ngayo kubudlelwane, Oko kukuthi, ukuba sifuna into engaqhelekanga okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, sicinga ngento enekamva elingaphezulu.
Ukudlala ngothando kuWhatsApp, qala ngokufumana inombolo yabo
Xa kuziwa ekuncwaseni kuWhatsApp, into ecacileyo yeyokuba siza kuqala sidinge umntu wokudlala ngothando, nokuba yintombazana okanye inkwenkwe, sikushiya oko kukhetho lwakho, nangona sicinga ukuba ulapha kungenxa yokuba Inyathelo osele ulithathile, kungenjalo iya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga.
Kodwa masihambe siye kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo, kuba siyakudinga nenombolo yakhe yomnxeba, kungenjalo akunakwenzeka ukuba sinxibelelane naye.
Ukuba sele siyigcinile ifowuni yakho, sinenxalenye enkulu yendlela esiyihambileyo, kodwa ukuba akunjalo, kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba nawuphi na umhlobo okanye umntu ojikeleze indawo esinokuthetha naye unayo, sinokubuza okanye singazama ngokuthe ngqo ukufumana isingxengxezo (kodwa esisilumko nesithembekileyo) sokumbuza ngqo. Umzekelo, singathetha nomhlobo ukuzama ukudibana ngexesha elithile, kwaye ukusukela apho unokucwangcisa intlanganiso neqela elilungileyo labantu, kwaye oku kuyacaca ukuba kuya kufuneka nitshintshane ngeefowuni, Ke ngoku uya kuba nenombolo yakhe yomnxeba kwaye loo mntu ngekhe akrokrele nto kwaphela, ngakumbi ukuba lowo ubuzile ngumhlobo wakho ayinguwe.
Kodwa masiqhubeke; Nje ukuba songeze umntu esimthandayo kuWhatsApp, into elandelayo kukwazi oko ukungxama ngabacebisi abangalunganga, kodwa ngokucacileyo asinakuphumla nakanjani na kuba kungenjalo omnye umntu unokuqhubela phambili.
Zama ukuba yindalo kwaye ungakhangeli ujonge
Eyona nto iphambili xa udlala ngothando kuWhatsApp kukuzama yindalo ngangokunokwenzeka, kwaye nangona oku kubonakala ngathi yinto nje encinci, enyanisweni kuphela kwendlela esinokwazi ngayo ukuba likhona ikamva nalo mntu. Khumbula ukuba akubalulekanga ukuba sithanda umntu kwaye siyamthanda loo mntu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba kukho into phakathi kwethu ukuze ubudlelwane bube nexesha elizayo ngokwenene.
Ngokucacileyo, ukuba injongo yethu kukwazi nje loo mntu kwaye asithathi cebo ngokuya phambili ngokwezibophelelo (Oko kukuthi, siqwalasele ubudlelwane obungaqhelekanga), asisayi kuphinda sikhathazeke kakhulu ngento yokuba esazi ngcono okanye embi, kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba anganguye umntu wobomi bakho, kungcono uzame ukuyenza icace kwasekuqaleni indlela oyiyo, kuba ngaphandle koko kamva bafika iingxaki kunye nexesha elinzima ngokwenene.
Ngale ndlela Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sikhohlise okanye sithethe ngokungathi besithetha nebhokhwe, kodwa sizakuzama ukuyenza njengoko sinokwenza nomhlobo (okanye umhlobo) wendalo yethu, ukuze bangarhaneli iinjongo zethu, kodwa bacinge ngqo ukuba singabantu abalungileyo kwaye sifuna ukuba nengxoxo esempilweni kunye nendalo naloo mntu sisenokuba sidibene naye okanye sikwithuba loqhakamshelwano lokuqala.
Abafowunelwa bokuqala kufuneka babe mfutshane, bangabonisi umdla omkhulu kuthi kwaye kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kwaye njengoko sibona indlela asabela ngayo umntu lowo, sele sizakuchukumisa ubuqu okanye incoko yabucala kwincoko. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ugcine engqondweni ukuba ekuqaleni akufuneki sazi ukuba sinomdla kuye, kuba amaxesha amaninzi oko kudala ukungonwabi kwaye umntu uvale ukusazi ngokwenene.
Umyalezo wokuqala kuWhatsApp
Lifikile ixesha lokuba sibhale umyalezo wokuqala, kwaye apha ngokuqinisekileyo siya kuba ne-cisco yethu yemithambo-luvo, eqhelekileyo leyo kodwa kufuneka sizole ukuyenza ngokuchanekileyo.
Njengoko besitshilo kwicandelo elidlulileyo, ezethu iinjongo ziya kuba qala ingxoxo njengabahlobo, ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na enye injongo (kuyaqondakala ukuba iyabonakala), ukuze kube lula kuloo mntu ukuba abe nomdla wokuhlangana nathi, kwaye koku sinokusebenzisa izixhobo esizisebenzisileyo ukufumana inombolo yakhe yomnxeba.
Ukuba ekugqibeleni ubusimamele kwaye uzame cwangcisa ikedadaNgokucacileyo umhlobo wakho kwaye iya kuba nguwe oya kuthi ukhathalele umbutho, kuba inguwe ocebise umbutho, kwaye ngale nto siza kuba neencoko ezininzi esinokwabelana ngazo nalo mntu sifuna ukudibana naye.
Umzekelo, ungaqhakamshelana nokubuza ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwesiselo osithandayo, ukuba uyasela okanye awuseli, ukuba ukhetha ukuba itheko elo libanjelwe kwenye indawo okanye kwenye, kwaye ngokubanzi eminye yemibuzo enokubuzwa kuyo nayiphi na iindwendwe ethekweni, ukuze sele siqala incoko kwaye apho iinkcukacha zingavela, kodwa sele sikuxelele, ungabanyanzeli kwaye awufuni ukunika yonke into kunxibelelwano lokuqalaSele uyazi ukuba itraki ibaleka kakhulu ekugqibeleni iyaphela ibhukuqeke kwaye amaqanda aphele wophukile, kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba awuyifuni lonto.
Ungaze ungene kwiziphetho ngeWhatsApp
Ukuhoya kakhulu ukuza kuthi ga kweli nqanaba, kuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuthi ukuba siqale ukucingela izinto ezingenamsebenzi xa siyabona ukuba umntu ufundile umyalezo esiwuthumeleyo kodwa akakasiphenduli, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha asazi ukuba abantu banokuxakeka ngalo mzuzu kwaye abayenzi ngokwalo naluphi na uhlobo lweenjongo ezimbi, kuba ngokufuthi kuhlala kuchasene, oko kukuthi, abafuni kuphendula ngokulula endaweni yoko, bafuna ukuthatha ixesha ukubhala impendulo efanelekileyo kwaye babenakho nokuncokola kancinci nathi.
Uyabona ukuba into ebonakala imbi ekugqibeleni yayilunge njani? Iminwe encinci isamile, baya kwisonka. Ngenxa yeso sizathu, ukuba uyabona ukuba lo mntu uwubonile umyalezo kodwa akaphendula, sukungxama okanye ucinge nantoni na engalunganga, kuba kuya kufuneka uyinike ixesha okanye mhlawumbi uyasivavanya ukubona ukuba luhlobo luni lweenjongo esinalo naye.
Nika ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezincinci
Kukwabalulekile, ukuba sifuna ukunxibelelana noWhatsApp, ukuba sinike ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezisincedayo ukuba sazi lo mntu sinomdla kuye, into engasoloko ilula kuba kunabantu abavule ngakumbi, kodwa ezinye zivaliwe ngaphezulu kwepistachio esemsebenzini iincoko ngeWhatsApp. Ngayiphi na imeko, kungekudala okanye kamva siya kuba nakho ukufumana ulwazi malunga nokuba unjani loo mntu, luhlobo luni lweencasa abazithandayo, ukuba bayathandwa okanye bayangeniswa, ukuba uninzi lolwandle okanye iintaba ... iinkcukacha zibala, kwaye enye yezibonelelo ze-WhatsApp kukuba siya kubagcina ukuze sikwazi ukuphinda sifunde kamva kwaye silungiselele isicwangciso esihle.
Umzekelo xa usebenzisa enye yedatha esiyifumanayo ngumzekelo ukufumanisa ukuba uyazithanda izilwanyana, kwaye kwincoko onokuthi uzibeke ngaphandle kokunyanzela, kunokuba ngumdla ukuthumela ifoto yakho kunye nesilwanyana sakho ( okanye umhlobo wakho, kodwa ungaze ube ngowomhlobo wakho nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya, ungabi ndim ...).
Ngayiphi na imeko, umbono kukuyilungiselela kakuhle ngaphambi kokuba ithuba lokuyithumela lifike, ujonge zonke iinkcukacha, kuba ngale ndlela sinokuqinisekisa ukuba sisithombe esifanelekileyo apho sibalaselisa khona onke amanqaku esiwacingelayo anokuba nomdla kuwo uninzi, njengaleyo yencwadi kaSchopenhauer ngasemva, ezona mbongi zibalaseleyo zikaGustavo Adolfo Bécquer, isixhobo somculo, njl. (susa ifoto ye-PlayBoy ngaphambi kokucinezela iqhosha), nangona siza kunika loo mntu ukuba aqonde ukuba sisithombe esisithathe nje ngendlela engacacanga, ngokungathi kwigumbi lethu bekuhlala kukho imbiza eneenyibiba zasendle kunye nengxowa enokutya kwendalo esondla ngayo iintaka yonke imihla kwifestile yethu (fihla umpu we-pellet, awapholi) kodwa ungagqithisi, ekugqibeleni ayizukubakho indawo yakho. Ngoku nzulu, zama ukunyaniseka ngokusemandleni, ukuba ubuxoki bunemilenze emifutshane, kwaye ukuba injongo yakho kukufikelela kwinto enzima kwixesha elizayo, akufuneki siqale ubudlelwane kwisiseko se-quince.
Ukuba uyayamkela, lixesha lokuba ubhekane ubuso ngobuso
Kungenzeka ukuba siwalandele onke amanyathelo, sabhiyozela elo theko besithetha ngalo ekuqaleni kwaye, ekuhambeni kwexesha, siye saqhubeka nokugcina ubudlelwane bobuhlobo naloo mntu, ukuze siqale ukubona ukuba ingaba banomdla wokwenene okanye abanawo kuthi. Kwimeko apho sicacile ukuba sinokuba nomdla kuwe, iya kuba lixesha lokucebisa ukuba sidibane ngenye imini ukuze sisele kodwa ngendlela esempilweni, ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uhlobo lobukrwada kwaye akukho nto inokukwenza ucinge ukuba sahlukile indlela esiyiyo ngokwenene (okanye ngokuzama ukuyifihla, mangurrián, musa ukulahla enye yeeperile zakho zoluhlobo "Masibe nekofu, kwaye ukuba emva koko siye ekhaya siyokundinceda ngomgubo").
Ukuba siyaqhubeka nokuthandabuza kodwa siyafuna yiya kuhlaselo ubuso ngobusoSiza kuphinda sisebenzise umhlobo wethu ukuhlela into elula kunaleyo yeqela, njengokuhlangana ikofu okanye into esivumela ukuba sihlangane kwaye saziwe nguloo mntu ngendlela ethe ngqo kodwa ngaphandle kokuzibophelela nakubani na.
Kwaye khumbula ukuba ukudlala ngothando kuWhatsApp kuhle kakhulu, kwaye kunokuba yeyona ndlela intle kakhulu nesebenzayo yokwazi umntu, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo loo nto, ukuba umazi ngokwenyani loo mntu kunye nokuba kungenzeka ubudlelwane bube khona ngoku okanye kwixa elizayo, kubalulekile ukuba sidibane ngesiqu kunye masiqale ukwabelana ngaphezu kwamagama ambalwa kwifowuni.
Ke, i-romanticones, lungiselela amabinzana akho aphambili kunye nobuso bakho obubalaseleyo kwigalari, kwaye siyakukhuthaza ukuba wabelane nathi kunye nabo bonke abafundi ngamava akho abaya kuthi enkosi kubo ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwazi amaqhinga asetyenziswa ngumntu ngamnye kwaye ngenxa yoko afunde kwiimpazamo nakwimpumelelo, kwaye ungangxoli uze uyiphathe kakuhle le ntombazana, siya kujonga kuwe ukuze ubone indlela oziphatha ngayo.