Isifundo esenziwe yiYunivesithi yaseWake Forest sigqibe kwelokuba ukuba unoluvo olulungileyo lwabanye abantu izikhombisi zakho zokonwaba ziya kuba phezulu kakhulu kwaye uya kuqokelela uthotho lwamaxabiso anje ngehlombe, isidima kwaye uya kuba ngumntu onengqondo elungelelene kakhulu. Sisigqibo esisengqiqweni kuba imeko yakho yokuba nembeko entle kwabanye sisalathiso sokuba wanelisekile bubomi bakho.
Kunoko, Ukuba uhlala ugxeka abantu onxulumana nabo, amathuba akho okungonwabi anda kakhulu. Kule meko, abantu abagxeka abanye bahlala bezicingela bodwa, bakrakra kwaye bahlala bekhokelela kwiingxaki zokudakumba, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nokunye ukuphazamiseka kubuntu.
Ngokwolu phando, ukucela umntu ukuba avavanye omnye kusinika ulwazi kungekuphela malunga nomntu ovavanyiweyo kodwa nangomvavanyi ngokwakhe, kuba projekthi iimvakalelo zakho kwabanye.
Yeka ukugxeka abanye
Ndikushiya izimvo ezisi-7 eziza kukunceda uyeke ukugxeka abanye:
1) Hlakulela ixabiso lovelwano: zama ukuzibeka endaweni yabanye, uqonde izimvo zabo. Akukho mntu waziyo ngokweemeko umntu anokujongana nazo kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Mhlawumbi ugxeka umntu ngemo yakhe engalunganga kwaye awazi ukuba lo mntu unakekela unina imini nobusuku kuba une-Alzheimer's.
2) Baphathe abanye ngokungathi ngabazalwana bakho.
3) Ngaphambi kokugxeka umntu, hlalutya ukuba unjani... ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana isiphene.
4) Kungcono ukuhlala uthule kunokuba ugxeke umntu.
5) Gxila ingqalelo yakho kwizinto ezintle lomntu ngaphambili kwiinkalo zawo ezimbi.
6) Sukwenza into ongathandi ukuba yenziwe kuwe.
Ukugqibezela, ndikushiya nevidiyo ene-monologue emfutshane ngumhlekisi waseSpain kunye nomsasazi kamabonwakude, u-Andreu Buenafuente, isixelela ngalo mkhwa mbi, wokugxeka abanye: