Siza kuqala eli nqaku litsha lizama ukuhlalutya kutheni siphinda-phinda sikhubeka kweli litye linye. Ilizwi elithetha lonto "Umntu ngumntu kuphela kwesilwanyana esikhubeka kabini kweli litye linye".
Kuyenzeka ukuba woyise ukusikelwa kwethu umda, ukusilela kunye neengxaki. Nokuba singakhubeka kangaphi kwiliwa elinye, akufuneki sidimazeke kwaye sizame. Esinye sezikhundla zeNeurolinguistic Programming sithi akukho ntsilelo, ziziphumo ezingafunekiyo kuphela.
Ukuba ulapha kungenxa yokuba ufuna ukufumana indlela yokoyisa ngempumelelo loo njongo elichasayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo oko kuchasana yimveliso yokungabikho komnqweno.
Ngokuqinisekileyo umntu otshayayo ongaphumeleliyo kwimizamo yakhe yokuyeka ukutshaya unomdla wokuyeka kodwa KUKHO u "WILL" ngoonobumba abakhulu. Nabani na oziva ngokwenyani, ufuna into, wenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ayifumane. Ngokuqinisekileyo loo mntu utshayayo ongazifumaniyo iziphumo azinqwenelayo akaziva ukuba ibalulekile.
Abantu abakhubeka phezu kweli litye linye asikho zingqondweni ezisinikelayo, ayisivumeli sitshintshe, loo nto isonakalisa. Kutshanje ndilivile ibali elisebenza njengomlinganiso wokuqonda le ndizama ukuyicacisa.
Inkawu eyayizingelwa
Kwiindawo ezithile zaseAfrika iinkawu zizingelwa ngendlela ekhethekileyo kwaye enobuchule. Umzingeli ushiya ipeanut kumngxunya omncinci phakathi kwamatye ekuthi kuwo kuphela isandla esoluliweyo singene.
Xa umzingeli emkayo, inkawu, ebijonge lo mbono, isondela ize ifike, ibambe ipeanut kodwa ubanjiwe kuba engavumi ukuvula isandla sakhe nokushiya ibhaso lakhe. Isandla sakhe sivaliwe njengoko sinobuncwane bakhe obuxabisekileyo. Umzingeli usondela ngomnatha aze ayibambe inkawu kuba ingakwazi ukunikezela ngobuncwane bayo.
Kwenzeka into efanayo nakuthi. Sikwindawo yethu yokuthuthuzela kwaye asifuni ukwenza iinguqu ezithile kuba ziyabandakanya imibingelelo ethile esingakulungelanga ukuyihlawula.
Intlungu kunye nolonwabo
Ekuphela kwendlela yokungakhubeki ilitye elinye yile tshintsha isicwangciso sethu. Kuphela ngabo benza izinto ezahlukeneyo bafumana iziphumo ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba akukho nto itshintshayo ngaphakathi kwethu siza kuhlala sikhubeka kaninzi.
Imalunga nokuphonononga iingqondo zethu kunye nokuphanda ngento ekufuneka siyitshintshe ukufezekisa iinjongo zethu. Ngokuqinisekileyo sinako nxibelelanisa ulonwabo notshintsho kunye nentlungu nokuma.
Umntu uhambela ngokwemigaqo yeentlungu kunye nolonwabo. Balekela kwintlungu kwaye ufune ulonwabo. Ukuba siyakwazi ukunxulumana okanye sandise iintlungu kwimeko yethu yokungahambi, mhlawumbi ukungabikho zingqondweni kwethu kuya kusikhokelela kutshintsho olufunayo kuba le iya kuba yeyona isonwabisayo.
Ityala elisebenzayo
Ndibeka i- imeko esebenzayo esebenza njengokhuthazo:
Umntu omnye waqala ukuthatha izihlunu eziphumlayo (Itrankimazines) kwintlungu yomqolo ndihlupheke. Lo mntu wayenovalo kakhulu malunga nokuba iitrankimazines zimnike uxolo angazange alwazi ngaphambili. Wayekwazi ukudibana nabantu ngaphandle koloyiko kuba wayekhululekile. Nangona kunjalo, nangona wayehlala kobu budlelwane kakuhle, abo babenxibelelana naye bafumana isantya esincinci kakhulu kwiincoko kwaye bagqibela ngokukruquka.
Ukongeza, ukuthatha iitrankimazines ezenziwe ukutshaya iisigarethi ezininzi.
Kwakunzima kuye ukuyeka ukutya la mayeza mihla le kwaye wawathatha nokuba umqolo wakhe awuzange wenzakalise. Ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakhe lwalunobunkunkqele kuba ebesemafini "imini yonke.
Ngenye imini wazama ukuyeka ukuthatha iipilisi. Nangona wayexhalabile ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakhe nabanye, wayengumntu owahlukileyo. Wayenomdla wokuthetha ngokutyibilikayo kwaye ubudlelwane bakhe nenkosikazi yakhe baphucuka kakhulu. Waqala nokuzivocavoca kunye nokutshaya kancinci.
Ndabuyela umva. Ndihlala ndimxelela ukuba makajonge izibonelelo ezimzisela yena Sukuzithatha ezi pilisi: Ndandinexhala ngakumbi, kulungile. Kodwa oko kunokulawulwa ngokuzilolonga okanye ukucamngca. Kwakhona, olo xinzelelo belunamandla ekuqaleni (kubangelwa kukungabikho kweepilisi) kodwa ukuba bendinomonde iyaphela.
Uphele sele engumntu okhutheleyo kwaye wafunda tshintsha onke amandla akho kwizinto ezinomvuzo nezisempilweni.
Wanxulumana nokonwaba nenyaniso yokuyeka iipilisi (ubudlelwane obungcono nenkosikazi yakhe, ukutshaya kancinci, ubudlelwane obungcono kunye nabahlobo bakhe) kunye nentlungu ukuba uyaqhubeka nokuzithatha (ukonakala kobudlelwane bakhe ekuhlaleni, ukutshaya ngakumbi, ukuhlala phantsi).
Enkosi ngokubakho kwaye sivuyisane nabo kuba uyinxalenye yegcuntswana elifuna utshintsho lomntu.