Ubomi buzele kukudana. Ukuphoxeka yinto eyenzeka kuwe yeyona nto iqhelekileyo emhlabeni, ukuba nje uyazi ukuba ungayiphatha njani kwaye ungafunda kuloo mava. Kukho ibinzana elithandwayo elihamba ngolu hlobo: "Xa ufunda ukwamkela endaweni yokulinda, uyakuba neentloni ezimbalwa" ... kuninzi onokukufunda kula magama anobulumko!
Ngale ndlela, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba kukho into enokuqikelelwa ebomini, kukuba uya kuziva uphoxekile ngandlela thile. Inokwenzeka nabazali bakho, nootitshala bakho, nabo ufunda nabo, nabahlobo bakho, nabantu osebenza nabo, neemeko zobomi ... Maninzi amaxesha apho unokuziva udanile kwaye uninzi, kusenokwenzeka kubangelwa zizinto zangaphandle kuwe. Ukungcatshwa kuhlala kuyinto eqhelekileyo ekuphoxekeni.
Izinto ziyenzeka ...
Kukho abo bacinga ukuba ukuze ungaphoxeki akufuneki ube nokulindela, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukungabinakho xa uhlala kwilizwe elinyanzelisa ukuba lifune ukuba uphendule. Mhlawumbi kulindeleke ukuba uhlale usenza "into elungileyo" kwaye uzame ukufikelela kwiinjongo zakho.
Xa uzilungiselela ukuba nethemba lezona zinto zilungileyo kwaye awunazo, kuyakuba xa uphoxekile kwaye ungasiqondi isizathu sokuba kwenzeke kuwe. Ukudana okubangela impendulo yomzimba kwingqondo yakho. Uziva ngathi unomdla woxinzelelo, uye ungakhathali, kwaye ube nobunzima bokuziva unomdla. Ingqondo yakho ikuthintela ukuba uphile ... Kodwa lukhetho lwakho ukuhlala uphoxekile okanye uqhubeke.
Izinto ziyenzeka, cinga ngokwenzekileyo ... Awunakho ukuyiphembelela okanye ukutshintsha okwenzekileyo. Kuyinyani ukuba unokucinga ngokwenzekileyo kuwe kwaye ufunde kwiimpazamo okanye ezingahambanga kakuhle. Ungacinga ngento onokuyenza kwaye yintoni ongayenzanga, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uyamkele into eyenzekileyo kuba inyani kukuba uphoxekile.
Isitshixo sokujongana nokuphoxeka kukungakuvumeli ukuba kuchaphazele ixesha elizayo, ukungakuthinteli, nokungakuyekisi ekubeni ngulomntu ufuna ukuba nguye. Musa ukuzifihla emva koloyiko lokuphoxeka kwakhona, kuba uya kuba nazo ezi mvakalelo kwakhona. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukujongana nabo ukuze kwixa elizayo, babe sisifundo endaweni yokohlwaya.
Umbono wakho ngundoqo
Ukuba uziva uphoxekile, beka into elungileyo kuyo yonke loo nto. Thatha umva uze ujonge okwenzekileyo kuwe ngokungathi unesihlalo eNyangeni… yonke into ikhangeleka incinci kwaye ingabalulekanga kangako! Ukuziva uphoxekile akumnandi kodwa ukubona inyani yinto eyimfuneko. Unokuba nemigangatho ephezulu kunye nolindelo lwakho. Uleqe into kwaye ayisebenzi ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye. Oku kunokubonwa njengethuba lokufunda, ukujonga kwakhona kunye nokuphucula.
Xa abantu bedanile baba krakra kwaye banethemba lokuba yonke into iyakutshintsha iyodwa. Oku akwenzeki, ukuba ufuna utshintsho kufuneka ushukume ... ubuncinci tshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo! Ukudana kufuneka kukufundise ukuba ungalandela eyona nto uyifunayo, uqonde okwenzekileyo kwaye ufunde kumava, usenze uxolo kunye nawo!
Yamkela ukuba ukuphoxeka yinxalenye yobomi
Ukuphoxeka yinxalenye yobomi, yinto eyenzeka kuwo wonke umntu ehlabathini kwaye iyakwenzeka nakuwe. Kubalulekile kwaye kuluncedo kuwe ukuba uqale ulungelelanise imeko ... akukho nto yenzekayo ukuze udane! Nangona ikubangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo ekuqaleni, kodwa ungafunda kwiimeko.
Akukho mntu uhamba ebomini engaziva edanile. Abanye abantu bafumana ukuphoxeka okukhulu kunabanye, kodwa wonke umntu ufumana amava amakhulu okanye amancinci. Yamkela ezi mvakalelo kwaye ungafuni ukubaleka kuzo ... zonke iimvakalelo ziyimfuneko qonda ubomi kwaye wazi ukuba kufuneka utshintshe into okanye hayi.
Guqula incoko yakho yangaphakathi
Ukoyisa kwaye ujongane nokuphoxeka, kuya kufuneka utshintshe imeko yakho yexhoba kwaye usebenzele ukukhula kwengqondo. Ingqondo yexhoba iya kukushiya ubambekile kuba yonke into embi iyenzeka kuwe. Endaweni yoko, ukukhula kwengqondo kuyakukunceda utshintshe indlela ojonga ngayo kwaye uqonde ukuba ngomzamo kunye nokuziphatha okuhle, ubomi bunokuba yindawo emnandi ngakumbi, nokuba kuya kufuneka uphoxeke.
Enye indlela yokuqala ukwenza oku kukutshintsha incoko yababini yangaphakathi. Endaweni yokuthetha nawe ngolu hlobo yeyona nto imbi inokwenzeka kuwe, tshintsha ulwimi lwakho lube yinto enamandla ngakumbi (kodwa iseyinyani): "Kwenzekile kwaye ngoku kufuneka ndibone amanyathelo am alandelayo." Okanye "Ukuba nokudana kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye oku akuyi kundithintela ekuqhubeleni phambili." Okanye iingcinga ezinje: “Ndididekile, kodwa ngubani oxelela ukuba ndihlale kuloo nto? Ndingenza into eyahlukileyo ngoku ukuba ndinokukhetha. "
Ukuba ukhe uzibone uthetha izinto ezingathandekiyo ezinje, "andinakuqhubeka ngoluhlobo," vumela la mabinzana ukuba abe ngunobangela wokuzinyanzela ngokuzithandela ukuba ube nengxoxo entle nawe. Ukuba uyenza yonke imihla, uya kuba nakho ukuziqonda zonke izibonelelo oya kukunika zona ebomini.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ngesicwangciso!
Nje ukuba wamkele ukuba kunokubakho ukuphoxeka ebomini, uya kuba namandla ngokwaneleyo ukuze ube nesicwangciso. Le yindlela yokuya phambili xa uziva uphoxekile okanye unamathele kwinto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze izicwangciso ezinkulu, yazi nje ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo oza kuwathatha ukuze uzive ungcono ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye uyazi ukuba le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo kuwe. Khumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha eyona ndlela ilungileyo ayithethi nokuba yeyona ilula, inokuba yoyikisa kancinci ... kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, iya kuba sesona sigqibo sihle senziweyo.
Qala ngokuthatha amanyathelo amancinci, ngokuzithemba uhamba kwicala elikwenza uzive ungcono kuwo nawuphi na umzuzu. Ngale ndlela uya kwazi ukuba awenzi mpazamo. Cwangcisa usukelo ofuna ukulufikelela kwaye uhambe ngokukuko! Ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lwempumelelo kungathumela umyalezo engqondweni yakho nakwiimvakalelo zakho onokuzenza, ke qhubeka uyenze! Kwaye kuthekani ukuba uyaphoxeka kwakhona? Kuya kufuneka ufunde kumava kwaye uhambe kwakhona!