Baninzi abantu abathi bazive betyumkile xa bebona umntu esitratweni obenza bazive bethandana ngendlela ekhawulezileyo nathe ngqo, ezinye izifundo zide zenziwa kwaye kufunyenwe ukuba Uthando ekuboneni okokuqala unokulufumana ngaphezu kwesinye ngemini, nangona olunye uphando lubonakalisile ukuba alukho.
Okwangoku akukabikho bungqina buqinisekileyo bokuba bunokubakho, nangona abantu abaninzi besithi baziva beziva ngathi batyumkile ngexesha elithile ebomini babo xa bebona umntu otsala umdla wabo esitratweni, kwikhefi, phakathi kwabanye.
Luyintoni uthando ekuboneni kokuqala?
Igama libonisa ukuba lithetha ntoni. Luvakalelo olomeleleyo lothando olunokuviwa ngumntu xa ebona umntu okokuqala naphi na. Eminye imizekelo yale meko inokuthi xa abahlobo ababini bedibana nomhlobo wabo, kwaye xa bevela unxibelelwano luvakala lubangela amabhabhathane esiswini, imibala efudumeleyo ebusweni kunye nezinye izinto ezinokuthi zixatyiswe xa kukho uthando. .
Le nto ityunyuziweyo ingangqinwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, okubalulekileyo kunye neempawu zayo kukuba iyadlula, oko kuthetha ukuba yeyomzuzwana nje, kodwa inokuba yomelele kangangokuba umntu lowo uziva isidingo sokuthetha nomnye umntu ukuze umazi.
Iimpawu zothando ekuboneni kokuqala
Ngokwendlela yonyango, ngalo mzuzu kanye umntu awela ngawo eluthandweni, inkqubo yekhemikhali inokubonwa emzimbeni ngenxa yokuba ikho imfihlo yehomoni, eyaziwa ngokuba yi-oxytocin ngoobani abajongana nokwenza ubuso bakho bube bomvu, yiva ukubila, imithambo-luvo, phakathi kwabanye
Xa umntu ehlala umzuzwana apho eve uthando ekuqaleni, kunokubakho uvakalelo oluqhelekileyo lothando oluqhelekileyo, kunye nezinye ezinokuba ngunobangela wezenzo ezingazalisekanga ngalo mzuzu wenzeka ngawo.
Ubungqina obuninzi babantu abaye bahamba okomzuzwana onje kwaye abanalo ithuba lokuthetha naloo mntu, kwaye ngenxa yoko bamazi, bahlala benempendulo yetyala kunye nokudana kwabo, umzekelo woku iingcinga ezinje "Kutheni ungathethi naye? "Akwaba bendibuze igama" Phakathi kwabanye abaninzi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuye kwenzeka ukuba imvakalelo yomelele kangangokuba umntu uye abe novalo ngokupheleleyo ukuze bangakwazi nokubiza igama elinye, baphelelwe sisimumu phambi komnye umntu, elinokongezwa koku kulapha ngasentla njengempendulo engakhange athethe nto.
Ingcinga yaloo mntu inokuboniswa kangangeentsuku kunye neeveki, kude kufike umhla wokuyeka emsebenzini apho umntu anikezela ngokulula kwaye aqale ukulibala olo thando ludlulayo.
Esinye sezona ziphumo zomeleleyo ze-oxytocin kukunyuka kobushushu bomzimba obunokubangela abantu xa bekufuphi nomntu obatsalayo, kungoko kunokwenzeka ukuba babe namava okubila ezandleni kwaye baphakame nethoni yobuso njengempendulo yendalo. .
Iimpawu zokufumanisa uthando xa uqala ukubona
Zininzi iindlela zokwazi ukuba ukhe waluva uthando xa uqala ukulibonaInto ebalulekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukwenza oko ubuncinci kukuseka incoko naloo mntu, nangona kukho ithuba, ezinye iimvakalelo ezinokuthi ziqwalaselwe kuzo zonke iimeko zikwenza ukuba ubonakale.
Imithambo-luvo: Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe kwicandelo ekubonakaliseni uthando olukhawulezayo, imithambo-luvo iya kuhlala ikhona xa uziva ngolu hlobo, kwaye yimpendulo yendalo abantu abanayo phambi komntu obenza bazive begcwele. lula.
Unxibelelwano lwangoku: Kwimeko apho kukho incoko phakathi kwabantu bobabini kunokubakho ukuziva unxibelelwano olukhethekileyo oluya kukwenza uzive ngathi niyazana iminyaka emininzi, kunye nokubandakanya ubomi bangaphambili.
Ufuna ukubiza uthando: Ngaphandle kwento yokuba bazana okwethutyana, okanye bengazange bathethe bodwa, kunokubakho uvakalelo olunamandla kangangokuba inyanzela umntu ukuba abonakalise indlela abaziva ngayo ngomnye umntu.
Umntu ukholelwa ukuba ugqibelele: Kuba le mvakalelo ixhaphake kakhulu ngalo mzuzu, umntu unokucinga ukuba umntu odlula phambi komntu uhlukile kwaye uphelele kwaye awunakufana nantoni na awakhe wayibona ngaphambili ebomini bakhe bonke.
Uthando ekuqaleni kokubona ngokwesayensi
Kwilizwe lezenzululwazi esi sihloko khange sinikwe ukubaluleka okwaneleyo, nangona kutshanje iqela labaphandi abavela eNetherlands baqala ukwenza uphando olwenziweyo malunga nezifundo ezahlukeneyo ukumisela ukuba abantu bangathandana na ekuqaleni.
Ukuba umbono wokuba umntu angathandana nenyaniso elula yokujonga omnye ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuthetha naye, umazi kwaye umqhele, uyahlalutywa inokuvakala ngathi iyintsomi, kuba abantu abaninzi bafanelwe lixesha elilungileyo lokucinga ngothando, nto leyo eyaziwa ngokuba yintabatheko ethe ngcembe, ngenxa yoku yayikukuba iqela lezenzululwazi laqala ngeprojekthi yokufumanisa ukuba ingaba iyinyani.
Ngexesha lenkqubo, abantu abaliqela besini esahlukileyo babemenyiwe ukuba baye kwisantya sokuthandana ukuze bakwazi ukufezekisa isiphumo sothando ekuqaleni kokubona ngendlela efanelekileyo, emva koku kwenziwa iphepha lemibuzo kulowo nalowo undwendwe, kwi Inxalenye enkulu ibanga ukuba baziva imvakalelo echazwa njengothando olukhawulezileyo, nangona bekunokwenzeka ukubonisa ukuba enyanisweni izifundo zaziva ngathi kukutsaleleka ebantwini endaweni yentabatheko enjalo.
Umnqweno wesondo unamandla kakhulu ebantwini, ke umzuzu iqabane elinokubakho libonwa naphina apho linokubangela uvakalelo lolu hlobo, nangona kwinkcubeko ithathwa njengothando xa uqala ukuyibona Kodwa ngokwenene yinkanuko nje
Inyaniso yako konke oku kukuba akukenzeki ukucacisa iipesenti eziyi-100 ukuba ingaba ezi mvakalelo zinokuthetha ntoni ukuba umntu ngamnye angaziva kwaye azokuziva ngamanye amaxesha ebomini bakhe, nokuba kungenxa yezizathu zenkanuko okanye thanda ukubona nje omnye umntu kube kanye.