Umntwana onokuzithemba okuphantsi Ngumbono olusizi kakhulu kwaye abazali bahlala bengayiqondi le meko. Ngelishwa, amaxesha amaninzi, ngabazali ngokwabo abanoxanduva lokuzivavanya kwabantwana babo kwaye abaqondi ukuba ngabo kuphela abanokunceda umntwana ukuba aphume kule meko.
Kunokubakho ukuphazamiseka kokubona abantwana okanye abantu abancinci abomeleleyo ngokukhethekileyo kwaye benesibindi kodwa unesifo sokuzithemba okuphantsi. Kukwenzeka okufanayo nangenye indlela. Aba bantu, ngokuziphatha kwabo, bazama ukuzifihla ukuba bangoobani kwaye bagqibela ngokuchitha uninzi lobomi babo bezenza njengomnye umntu.
Ukuba nemvakalelo esempilweni yokuzixabisa kubalulekile njengokuba nemfundo elungileyo.
Umntwana onesifo sokuzithemba uhlala esenza Uyazahlula kwihlabathi, enika umqondiso wokuba neentloni. Uninzi lwabazali lubekek 'ityala ngokuba neentloni.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi ebantwaneni kubangela ukulibaziseka kuphuhliso lwemfundo kunye nokukhula kuba abantwana boyika ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Abantwana ababuzi imibuzo eklasini xa bengayiqondi into kwaye bashiyeka ngasemva kwimfundo yabo yesikolo, edibanisa ukuzithemba kwabo.
Iziphumo zokuzithemba okuphantsi ebantwaneni zihlala ziyintlekele. Abazali kufuneka bayazi indlela yokufumanisa olu hlobo lwengxaki ukufumana isisombululo ngokukhawuleza.
Iimpawu zokuzithemba okuphantsi ebantwaneni.
1) Iintloni: umntwana ophethwe kukuzithemba okuphantsi uba neentloni kakhulu kwaye uya kuthintela ukudibana nabantu abatsha okanye ukujongana neemeko ezintsha.
Into ekufuneka abazali bayiqonde kukuba le ntloni ixhaphakileyo ayiqhelekanga. Iintloni ukuya kwinqanaba elithile zamkelekile kodwa ukuba umntwana uyala ukunxibelelana nabantu lixesha lokuba afumane isisombululo.
2) Ukungazithembi: Ukuzithemba okuphantsi ebantwaneni kuhlala kukhokelela kukungazithembi. Umntwana ongazahluliyo kunina uhlala engumqondiso wokuzijongela phantsi. Ngale ndlela umntwana uziva ekhuselekile kwaye eqinisekisa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba athethe nabani na.
3) Uloyiko: Abantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi bayoyika ukuzama izinto ezintsha kuba sele becinge ukuba baya kusilela.
Umntwana onokuzithemba okusempilweni uhlala engakhathali kwaye akacingi kabini malunga nokutsiba eludongeni. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana onokuzithemba okuphantsi unokulumka kwaye angangxameli.
4) Ukuzibekela amangomso izinto: ukuhlehlisa luphawu olulula kakhulu ukuba abazali baqwalasele.
Olunye lweempawu eziphambili zabantwana kukufuna ukwazi. Bahlala bejonge ukuzama amava kunye nezinto ezintsha. Nangona kunjalo, umntwana onokuzithemba okuphantsi uhlala ethanda ukuzibekel 'amangomso. Uyenza kuba esoyika ukusilela. Awunakho ukwamkela ukusilela ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ungakhe uzame.
5) Ukuphelelwa lithemba: Aba bantwana bahlala bephelelwe lithemba ezintliziyweni zabo kwaye bemadolw 'anzima ukuzama izinto ezintsha kuba besiva ukuba bazokungaphumeleli. Abazali bahlala beva amabinzana anje ngokuba "andazi ukuba ndenze njani" okanye "Sele ndikuxelele ukuba andazi ukuba ndenze njani."
6) Ukugqibelela: abantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi ikakhulu bafuna ukugqibelela. Ukuba abenzi izinto ngokugqibeleleyo, baziva ngathi abazenzi kakuhle kwaye abakufanelanga.
7) Ukuxhomekeka: abantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi bahlala bexhomekeke kakhulu kubazali babo. Bakhetha ukungazenzi abahlobo, phantse abanabo, kwaye ke baphela ngokuhlala ekhaya.
Aba bantwana, ubukhulu becala, baswele amandla okwenza izigqibo kwaye baziva isidingo sokubuyela kubazali babo rhoqo.
Asinakho ukungahoyi zonke ezi mpawu zabantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi. Ukujongana nale ngxaki, Abazali mabathathe amanyathelo. Inkqubo yokusombulula le ngxaki iqala ngokuchonga isizathu. Zininzi izizathu ezibangela ukuzithemba okuphantsi komntwana: inokuba sisiphumo sotata osemthethweni ogqithisileyo, wokuthelekisa nomzalwana osebenza kakuhle, ...
Nje ukuba kunqunywe unobangela, yihla uye kwishishini. Abantwana banobunono kwaye banomonde Singayitshintsha loo mvakalelo yokungaxabiseki.
Ndingamnceda njani umntwana onesidima? Njengomama, ndingakunceda ngantoni?
Intombi yam ineminyaka esibhozo ubudala kwaye iya kwibanga lokuqala, kodwa ndiziva ngathi akazithembanga kuba uhlala eyazi ukuba abo afunda nabo bathetha naye okanye hayi, oko kumchaphazela kakhulu kwizifundo zakhe, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba Ukwehla kwamabanga akhe.uyathanda ukuphuma endlwini kwaye unamathele kum. Nangona kunjalo, ndiyaqaphela ukuba kwezinye izinto uthetha njengomntu oqolileyo, ucula kamnandi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha athi ungoyena mhle kwiklasi, ukwathi unengqondo. Ke andazi ngenene ukuba unesidima okanye ndiyamchaza ngoluhlobo kwaye mhlawumbi intombazana ayizithembi. Ndingathanda ukwazi ukuba ucinga ntoni ngezimvo zam? Ndingumntu oqhawule umtshato, sahlukana xa wayeneminyaka emibini iinyanga ezisibhozo. Utata wakhe ukude kwaye uyayiqaphela.
Molo uRebeca, mhlawumbi intombi yakho ikhule ngakumbi kunabanye afunda nabo kwaye iziva yahlukile, yiyo loo nto ihlala ifuna imvume yabo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ekhula ngakumbi, uyaqonda izinto ezintle anazo. Kuya kufuneka abambelele kwezi mpawu zintle anazo ukuze ukuzithemba kungachaphazeleki.
Qinisa ezona zinto zakhe zintle ukumenza azive omelele. Kwaye akunakulimaza intlalontle, andithethi ngesikolo, kodwa kubumelwane bakho, nabamelwane bakho, abazala, ...
Sukuwunika ukubaluleka kakhulu lo mbandela kuba intombazana iyakwazi ukubona inkxalabo yakho kuwe kwaye ungamosulela ngolo xhalaba.
Ukubulisa
Ndicinga ukuba akazithembi, ndicinga ukuba yahlukile, ndithetha ukuba inokuba lilolo, njengodade osele ekhulile nam ndililolo ke abantu bacinga ukuba ndinento ... Ndithi ikhethekile kodwa Kuya kufuneka unike ingqalelo ukuba inika imiqondiso engaqhelekanga ngakumbi kufuneka uyijonge nomntu onamava ... Ndiyathemba ukuba ndingakunceda.
Inokuba ndikhuthaze ukuzithemba okuphantsi.
ima kwintombi yam? Ndicinga ukuba ndihlala ndimazisa ukuba uyacotha, ukuba akazenzi kakuhle izinto, ngamanye amaxesha ndicinga ukuba ukungabi namandla kwam kuyamsebenzisa, bendikhe ndangatshatanga ukusukela oko wayenenyanga ezintlanu ubudala kwaye ngoku sele eza kugqiba iminyaka eli-5. indala. Kufuneka ndenze yonke into naye kwaye ngaphandle kufuneka ndisebenze kude kube ngeempelaveki.
Ndingenza ntoni ukuncedana? Kuba nasesikolweni uphantsi kakhulu kwizifundo zeMathematics nezeNtlalo. ENKOSI!!!
Jonga, akufuneki umxelele lonto, ngamanye amaxesha bayandixelela kwaye ndiziva ngathi andibalulekanga, akufuneki uyikhuphe kuye, cinga ngaphambi kokwenza ... inyani yile, ndigqithile kwelinqanaba kwaye bekunzima kakhulu, mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba awonelisekanga zizinto azenzayo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ngamaxesha onwabile uyalibala yonke into kwaye enze into efanayo njengakuqala, ndicinga ukuba akazithembi kodwa kufanelekile. Nika ingqalelo ... ndiyathemba ukuba ndingakunceda ...
Ndidinga uncedo kwimeko yesihloko sokuzithemba ebantwaneni kunye nobudlelwane bayo kunye nokufunda, ndingavuya xa ndisiva uluvo lwakho malunga nawo enkosi:
Molo, ndicinga ukuba unyana wam unokuzithemba okuphantsi, uhlala egxininisa iimpawu zabo bonke abantwana kwaye andixelele ukuba akakwazi, nakwimisebenzi okanye iindawo azilawulayo, ndingenza ntoni ukumxhasa?
Hi Liz, kwenzeke ukuba ndibhale inqaku namhlanje apho ndithetha ngalo. Ungayifunda apha.
Inye kuphela into ekufuneka uyenzile kukumxelela ukuba unako, ndiyakholelwa kuwe ... oko kungamnceda, kodwa ukuba uyaphinda, mxelele, masizame ... andazi ukuba ingakunceda na
Molo, inkwenkwana yam eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ayithethi kwanto eklasini kwaye ayidlali nabantu afunda nabo, kodwa ekhaya nasezitratweni sisivunguvungu, ubonakala engumntwana owahlukileyo kwaye unxibelelana ngokugqibeleleyo nabanye abantwana nangona Kunzima kuye ukuba aqale kodwa uyakwazi ukungazichazi okanye aqonde kwaye akwazi ukukunceda unxibelelane noogxa bakho kuba bayimini yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Ndicinga ukuba ekubeni ndinobuso obubini, obuhle kunye nobubi, kodwa andicingi ukuba uzithobile, ndikhetha ukuthi unomdla eklasini kwaye akanasizungu, ndithi makazuze Ukuzithemba, kodwa ukuba umnika ukuzithemba uza kukunika okufanayo ... ndiyathemba ukuba ndiza kuba nakho ukukunceda
Mholweni. Intombi yam iguqula iminyaka emi-4 ubudala kwaye iyoyika le intsha, nokuba kukutya okanye imisebenzi okanye amava. Ndingu? ndinexhala kakhulu kwaye andazi ukuba mandithini. Khange ndiwuhlalutye umba wokuzithemba, ndinengxaki enkulu ekuzithembeni kwam kwaye ndiyoyika ukuba ndiyidlulisile yonke le nto kuwe. Ndingakunceda njani?
Ewe, okokuqala, awufanelanga ukuba lusizi, kufanelekile ukuba wonwabe nangona kunzima, ndiyazi ukuba akukho lula kodwa yomelela njengam, ukuba intombi yakho injalo, izakuba yiyo kuba yoyika ukusilela. , kodwa njengoko ndihlala ndisitsho ngesandla esinye, yonke into inokwenzeka, mnike uncedo, mhlawumbi njengokuba ekhula uyatshintsha ...
Molo, ndifuna uncedo, unyana wam uneminyaka eli-12 ubudala, akazithembi, ufuna ukunxibelelana nabantu afunda nabo ngaphandle kwabahlobo kuphela, uyadana ngokukhawuleza, ngamanye amaxesha unochuku kwaye, ngaphezulu ... Ndicinga ukuba Ngokwenxalenye ndinyanzelisa kakhulu, ndilawula kwaye ndikhwaza kwaye ndlongondlongo kunye naye kwaye ndifuna unyango kuye okanye
Kuba wam ndiyamthanda unyana wam kwaye kubuhlungu ukumbona eneentloni kwaye kunzima kuye ukuba achaze njengoloyiko kwaye azifihle ezinye izinto kuba esoyika into ebuyela kum endinceda ukuba ndiyenze
Eli bali laziwa ngumama kamzala wam, umama wakhe wamngxolisa, wambetha wamxelela ukuba akaxabisekanga ... Okokuqala kufuneka umnike ukuzithemba kwakho, ndiyazi ukuba kunzima kodwa ukuba uyakufihla izinto kuwe Kungenxa yokuba esoyika ukuphoxa uthanda ukuba ubafundise ukuba nembeko kodwa ukuba sele ubafundisile ukuba bayiphinde bayikhumbule, banokuba nengxaki yemithambo-luvo ekufuneka uyijongile nomntu onamava, inyani kukuba yiba nomonde andinguye ugqirha wengqondo kodwa ndiyazi ukuba xa bekhwaza umntu kwaye loo mntu umngxolayo ubaluleke kakhulu kuye okanye ucinga ukuba akenzanga ngokwaneleyo, ndithetha oku kuba ndigqithile koko ... chitha ixesha, xelelanani iimfihlo, ndithi musani ukumshiya yedwa ... akukho tyala kodwa bakhona oomama abashiya bodwa abantwana babo kwaye batshintsha isigxina, ndicela ningalahli ... ndiyathemba ukuba ingakunceda ..