Ukuzithemba luluvo lwakho ngesiqu sakho. Abantu abanokuzithemba okusempilweni bayazixabisa kwaye bayayixabisa impumelelo yabo. Ngelixa wonke umntu engazithembi ngamanye amaxesha, abantu abazithobayo baziva bengonwabanga okanye bengonelisekanga ngabo amaxesha amaninzi. Oku kungalungiswa, Kodwa ifuna ingqalelo kunye nokuziqhelanisa nemihla ngemihla ukwandisa ukuzithemba.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unexabiso eliphantsi, sukuzivalela, ungayitshintsha kwaye woyise. Kuya kufuneka wenze indima yakho kwaye ufuna ukuba ngcono kunye nawe. Uluvo onalo ngawe lunokutshintsha, ukuba nje uyaqonda ukuba uxabiseke kangakanani. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba unobunzima kakhulu ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwakho, okanye ukuba ukuzithemba okuphantsi kukubangela iingxaki ezinje ngoxinzelelo, ungathandabuzi ukuya kugqirha wakho umxelele ukuba uqhuba njani.
Iimpawu zokuzithemba okuphantsi
Emva koko siza kuphawula ngezinye zeempawu zokuzithemba okuphantsi ukuze ube nakho ukunaka ingqalelo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba yenzeke kuwe. Ngale ndlela, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuyaqala ukukubangela iingxaki ezininzi, ungaya kwingcali ukuze ikuncede woyise kwimeko apho ungenakho wedwa.
Ezinye zeempawu zokuzithemba okuphantsi zezi:
- Uzigxeka kakhulu
- Beka phantsi okanye ungazihoyi iimpawu zakho ezintle
- Ucinga ukuba ungaphantsi kwabanye
- Usebenzisa amagama amabi ukuzichaza
- Uyazijongela phantsi
- Unencoko nawe ngendlela engeyiyo
- Awuthembi amathuba akho
- Uyazibeka ityala xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle kwaye ukuba zihamba kakuhle, ucinga ukuba ubenethamsanqa endaweni yokuba uzive ubalulekile ngaphakathi.
- Xa umntu ekuhalalisela, ucinga ukuba bayakwenza oko ukuthobela, kwaye abayenzi nyani
- Awuzithembi izimvo zakho
- Uhlala ucinga kakhulu
- Uyoyika ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kwaye unexhala lokungoyisi
- Ulukhuni kuwe kwaye uyabaxolela abanye
- Uhlala unokudideka ngokweemvakalelo
- Uhlala unamaxhala rhoqo
Izizathu ezinokubangela ukuzithemba okuphantsi
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuhamba kunye noonobangela ababangele oko, ngokuthe ngcembe babesenza isimbo kubuntu bomntu ochaphazelekayo. Ngale ndlela, ungaphoswa zezinye zezinto ezinokubangela, ngale ndlela uya kuba nakho ukwazi ukuba kuyinyani na ukuba zenzekile kuwe ezi zinto ... Ezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zihlala (nangona kunokubakho ezinye ezininzi):
- Ubuntwana obungonwabisiyo apho abazali (okanye abanye abantu ababalulekileyo abafana nootitshala) babaluleke kakhulu
- Ukuqhuba kakubi kwizifundo esikolweni kukhokelela kukungazithembi
- Isiganeko sobomi esiqhubekayo soxinzelelo, njengokuqhawuka kobudlelwane okanye iingxaki zemali
- Ukuxhatshazwa liqabane, umzali okanye umntu okhathalelayo, umzekelo ukuba kubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo
- Ingxaki yonyango eqhubekayo enjengeentlungu ezingapheliyo, ukugula kakhulu, okanye ukukhubazeka emzimbeni.
- Ukugula ngengqondo njengokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo.
Kwaye ukuba unobangela ubangelwe bubuntwana obubi, bahlala befumaneka ngaphambili:
- Ukohlwaywa rhoqo
- Ukungahoywa rhoqo
- Ukuxhatshazwa okungapheliyo
- Imithetho engqwabalala yabazali
- Ukuxhatshazwa / ukugxothwa
- Kukufumana uxinzelelo okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba komnye umntu.
- Ukungabikho kwendumiso, ukufudumala, kunye nothando
- Ukuhlala kusapho okanye kwiqela apho amanye amalungu acalucalulwa
Ubuntwana kuxa senza indlela yethu yokubona ubomi, oku kuchaphazela indlela esicinga ngayo, Kungenxa yoko le nto onke amava amabi okuqala enokuba nesiphumo esihlala ixesha elide ebudaleni.
Ukoyisa njani ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye nokungakhathali
Xa unokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye ungena kukungakhathali, unokuziva ngathi awunakuphuma apho. Oku kunokukuthintela ekuthatheni amathuba okanye kuthintele imiceli mngeni emitsha. Oku ke, kuya kukwenza ukuba ungabinamava anelisayo ebomini, nto leyo eya kwenza ukuba ukuzithemba kwakho kubesembi ngakumbi kwaye uza kuwa kungekudala okanye kamva, kwintambo yokudakumba. Inokude ibangele ukuba ulahle ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuchaphazela iimvakalelo zakho, wena kunye nokusingqongileyo okusondeleyo. Iingcinga zakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakho kuxhomekeke kukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye imbono yakho yehlabathi iphosakele. Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into ekufuneka ibe mbi kangaka, kukho izinto onokuzenza ukoyisa ukuzithemba kwaye ubenakho ukuphila ubomi bakho ngeyona ndlela ibhetele. Emva koko siza kukunika iingcebiso ukuze woyise ukuzithemba okuphantsi.
Zijikeleze nabantu abanethemba
Ukuba unokuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye uzingqonge unganathemba okanye ugxeke kakhulu okanye abantu abanetyhefu, Kungenzeka ukuba oku kukuchaphazele kakubi, ngenxa yoko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abakunika amandla kwaye abenza uzive wonwabile ngawe kunye nehlabathi elikungqongileyo. Aba bantu baqinisekileyo kufuneka bakuxabise ngenxa yoko ukuko kwaye bazi iimpawu zakho.
Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni
Awudingi mntu ukuba azive elungile, kufuneka uzinikeze ngenkxaso oyifunayo. Ungoyena mntu ulungileyo kwaye kufuneka uzive ukuba yonke imihla yobomi bakho. Uxabisekile kwaye ufanelwe kukuziva wonwabile. Ke chitha ixesha wedwa kwaye uthathe ixesha olifunayo ukuze uzazi. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uzixabise ngakumbi. Yenza uluhlu lwazo zonke iimpawu zakho kunye namandla akho kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ulifuna, ulihlole kwakhona ukuze wazi ukuba ungumntu onexabiso.
Yazi into ekufuneka uyitshintshe
Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, akukho mntu uzalwa ephelele. Kuya kufuneka uyibone le nto ukuze ugcine intloko yakho phezulu xa ufuna njalo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele apho ufuna khona utshintsho ukuze ukwenze. Ukuba awuyiboni kwaye uhlala uhlala ubambekile kwinto enye, awuzukukwazi ukuphucula okwangoku. Kuya kufuneka ukuba uyazi into ekufuneka uyitshintshile kwaye wenze iinzame zokuphucula.
Khumbula ukuba iingcinga zakho zihlala zihleli ziqinisekile kwaye ungaze, ungaze! Thelekisa wena nabanye ... nganye into uyiyo kwaye sonke sixabisekile ngokulinganayo!