Uwulawula njani umsindo okanye umsindo ngokufanelekileyo

Kuqhelekile ukuba iingcali zeengqondo zibonise abantu abangakwaziyo ukulawula umsindo, umsindo okanye umsindo; Nditsho nokufumana iingcali ezijolise kule ndawo. Kuba yingxaki eqhelekileyo, besifuna ukuthetha ngayo kwaye sichaze ezinye iingcebiso eziqinisekileyo zokukunceda okanye umntu omaziyo.

Yazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni umsindo

Ngaphambi kokuqonda ulawula njani umsindo, kufuneka siyazi intsingiselo yomsindo kunye noonobangela bawo.

Umsindo okanye ingqumbo ichazwa njengemvakalelo, ebonakaliswa kukucaphuka. Oku kuguqula indlela yokuziphatha emzimbeni kunye nokuqonda, okuchaphazela kakhulu umntu oziva. Ngokophando, umsindo uchazwa njengothotho lweendlela zokuziphatha ukuze ubonise umhlaseli ukuba ayeke izoyikiso zakhe.

Eyona ngxaki iphambili kwaye ekufuneka silawule kuyo umsindo, umsindo okanye ubushushu, kukuba ngelixa umntu ekuloo meko, uphulukana namandla akhe okuba nenjongo kunye nokuqonda iziphumo zezenzo zakhe. Ngeso sizathu, amaxesha amaninzi xa umntu enengxaki yomsindo, banokuthetha okanye benze izinto bengakhange bacinge emva koko bazisole.

Yintoni unobangela Womsindo?

Phakathi koonobangela bomsindo esinokuwufumana ukungabikho kobulungisa, iintlungu, uloyiko kunye nokudana. 

• Ukungabikho kokusesikweni, umzekelo, kunokuba xa umntu ephula amalungelo ethu.
• Ubuhlungu bunokuba ziindidi ezininzi, kodwa kuqhelekile xa senzakala ngokwasemphefumlweni.
• Uloyiko luya kubakho xa sisoyika into eza kwenzeka.
• Unxunguphalo lwabo luya kubakho xa besala isimilo sethu.

Umsindo uhlala wenzeka kwiimeko ezintathu. Eyokuqala ziimeko ezikhathazayo, ezinokuthi xa singazifezekisanga iinjongo zethu; owesibini ngulowo sele ekhankanyiwe malunga nokungekho sikweni kwaye owesithathu kuxa singafumani mvuzo wokuziphatha ngokufunda, umzekelo, ukungafumani nyango emva kokubeka ingqekembe kumatshini wokuthengisa.

Zazi iimpawu zomsindo

Umgada uneentlobo ezimbini zeempawu, Isixando sokwenzela kunye nesiphukuphuku.

• Ukucaphuka ngumsindo kunokuba neempawu ezininzi, njengokuphulukana nomnqweno, ukuzibekekelela ekusileleni, ubuqhetseba bengqondo, ukuzibek 'ityala, ukukhulisa isimilo, kunye nokuphepha zonke iintlobo zongquzulwano.
• Kwelinye icala, umsindo onomsindo uneempawu ezinjengokuba sesichengeni kweemvakalelo, ukukhula kwentiyo ebantwini okanye kwizinto nokuzama ukukhuthaza iimeko.

Iingcebiso eziphambili zokulawula umsindo ngokufanelekileyo

Nje ukuba siqonde yintoni umsindo, oonobangela kunye neempawu zayo kubantu ababandezeleka yiyo (enyanisweni sinako sonke ukubandezeleka kuyo ngaxa lithile); ngoku siza kuchaza ezinye zeendlela lawula umsindo kwabo bantu bahlala benengxaki yomsindo.

Ukuthintela ukwakhiwa komsindo ukulawula umsindo

Ukuba songeza iziqendu zomsindo ngokungaphenduli kwiimeko ezigwenxa ezinje ngezizathu ezichazwe ngasentla, kancinci kancinci siya kuwufumbela ngaphakathi kuthi umsindo. Oku kunokubonwa njengendlela esebenzayo yokulawula ukuhlaselwa ngumsindo ngamaxesha athile. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungaphenduli kwaye siqokelele umsindo, siya kuzenzakalisa ngaphakathi kwaye sonyuse ukubanakho 'ukuqhuma' nangawuphi na umzuzu; okuhlala kusenzeka kubantu abancinci abonisiweyo, umzekelo, kunye neqabane lethu xa iingxaki zibangelwa ngumsebenzi.

Musa ukucinga ukuba kuhlala kukho ophumeleleyo kunye nolahlekileyo

Ngamanye amaxesha sikholelwa ukuba mabini kuphela amacala: abaphumeleleyo kunye naboyisiweyo. Le ngxaki iqhelekile, kuba kukungakwazi ukugqitha okanye ukufikelela kwiinjongo zethu; Sinokuziva ngathi siyasilela okanye siboyisile. Ukuze ulawule umsindo, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukwamkela ukuba awusoloko uphumelela kwaye xa usilwa ngamanye amaxesha uphumelela ngaphezulu.

Ukuphumla kunye nokuphumla kuyimfuneko

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu aphumle ngokwaneleyo ukuphepha ukucaphuka. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka uququzelele ubomi bakho ukuze ukwazi ukulala kwishedyuli eqhelekileyo ekuvumela ukuba uphinde uchache kudinwa okubangelwa yimisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla. Yonke imizimba yahlukile, ke ngokuxhomekeke kuyo kunye nemisebenzi eyenziwayo emini, umntu ngamnye uya kuba nexesha leeyure eziyimfuneko ukuze achache ngokupheleleyo.

Kwelinye icala, zuza imikhwa yokuphumla njengokucamngca inokukunceda ukulawula umsindo. Olukhetho olukhulu kukuba ziqhelanise neyoga, esele ikhankanyiwe ukucamngca okanye ingqondo. Kananjalo nokuzama ukwenza iindlela zokuzibamba ebavumela ukuba baphinde bafumane isizathu ngexesha lomsindo.

Wulawule umsindo ngokucinga ngemiphumo

Umntu ophethwe ngumsindo uhlala engayazi i iziphumo zezenzo zakho; kuba ezi zenziwa kuhlaselo oluthethiweyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa amanzi ehla, bathanda ukulibala ukuba yintoni ebangelwe zizenzo ezenziweyo.

Xa umntu eyazi into ayenzileyo okanye ayithethileyo, kuza iziqendu zokuzisola. Ingxaki kukuba badla ukukulibale ngokukhawuleza okanye bakholelwe ukuba uxolo lwanele ukulungisa ingxaki; xa enyanisweni kufuneka behoye impilo yabo yengqondo kwaye bazame ukulungisa okanye ukulawula umsindo wabo, nokuba kukodwa okanye ngoncedo lwegqirha (esisincomo sethu, njengoko iya kukubonelela ngezixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nengxaki. ngokufanelekileyo).

Lawula umsindo ngokuphepha ukuya kwiindawo okanye ukuthetha nabantu abanengxaki

Ukuba siyazi ukuba asiyithandi indawo okanye umntu onokusicaphukisa; kungcono ukubaphepha. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba akunjalo, siya kuba nethuba elihle lokungakwazi ukulawula umsindo ngokufanelekileyo.

Kukho iindawo esingenakuma kuzo, kunye "nabantu abanetyhefu" ezingathandekiyo kuye wonke umntu. Kwimeko yokuqala, kuxhomekeka kwindawo, sinako okanye singabinakho ukukuphepha; Ngelixa owesibini, ukuba ngumntu, sinokuncokola naye ukumisela iimeko kwaye ke siphephe iingxaki ezizayo.

Olona khetho lulungileyo kukuya kugqirha wezengqondo

Nangona kuyancomeka ukuba ujonge kwi-Intanethi indlela yokulawula umsindo, olona khetho lulungileyo kukuzinyanga ngokwakho ngengcali egxile kuloo ndawo. Amaxesha amaninzi iingxaki zengqondo zinokubangelwa zizinto esingazaziyo thina; Ngelixa iingcali zengqondo ziye zafunda indawo yengqondo kakuhle kakhulu ukuze zikwazi ukumisela uninzi lwezifo zethu.

Ngenxa yeso sizathu, sicebisa ukuba uye kwingcali kuloo ndawo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ungakwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho.. Nangona kunjalo, silindele ukuba nasiphi na isigqibo osithathayo (sizame ngokwakho okanye uye kugqirha wezengqondo) uyakufuna amandla kunye nokuzingisa ukufezekisa utshintsho.