Ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, sithetha ngaphandle kwamagama, ngumzimba wethu othetha kakhulu ngathi kwaye asinakukuqonda oko. Ungatsho ukuba uyavumelana ngento ethile, okubi ngakumbi ukuba awuvumelani ngokwenene, nolwimi lwakho luya kukunika. Kuphela ngumntu oqonda ulwimi lomzimba oya kukwazi ukuba awuvumelani ngokwenene Nokuba uthi ewe okanye uzama ukukholisa ngenye indlela kunokuba ucinga.
Ukuba awazi ukuba sithetha ntoni xa sithetha ngolwimi lomzimba, lifikile ke ixesha lokuba uqonde ukuba zeziphi iintlobo, Iimpawu eziyichazayo kunye neminye imizekelo yokuyiqonda ngcono.
Iindidi ezi-4 zolwimi lomzimba
Ngaba ukhe waluphawula ulwimi lwakho lomzimba? Ngaphandle kokuthetha, unxibelelana ngokungathethi yonke imihla ngolwimi lwakho lomzimba. Indlela ohamba ngayo, ukuhamba, ukuhlala, kunye nokuma kunokukunika ukuqonda okungcono ukuba ungubani. Bonke abantu baveza ulwimi lwabo lomzimba ngeendlela ezine: ukukhanya kunye nentshukumo enamandla, intshukumo egudileyo kunye nolwelo, intshukumo eguqukayo nezimiseleyo, okanye intshukumo echanekileyo nenesibindi.
Nganye kwezi ntshukumo ineentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kwaye idibanisa enye yeendidi ezi-4 zamandla. Iprofayili yamandla yinkqubo yeprofayili yobuqu esekwe ekuhambeni, kwaye yonke into kwilizwe lethu lendalo ikhokelela kuhlobo lwamandla olubalaseleyo. Ezona zixhobo zovavanyo zimbini zinamandla xa ufumanisa uhlobo lwamandla akho ziimpawu zobuso bakho kunye nolwimi lomzimba wakho.
Makhe sijonge kwiindidi ezi-4 zolwimi lomzimba ukuze uqonde ukuba zithetha ntoni. Ngokuqinisekileyo uziva ngathi ungumxube wezinye zazo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ubenamandla… Ungaphoswa!
Chwetheza i-1
Uhlobo lwe-1 lunento yokwenza namandla aphezulu, okukhanya kunye nokuqina. Uhamba ngenqanawa edadayo kwaye echwayitileyo endleleni yakho. Uhlala kwaye ume ngokunyakaza okuninzi, utshintsha indawo yakho rhoqo. Unokubonakala ungonwabanga kwabanye, njengoko ungathandi ukuhlala okanye ukuma ngxi, ujonge kwinto enye ixesha elide. Uhlala uhlala unemilenze enqamlezileyo okanye ukhululeke kakhulu phantsi.
Umzekelo: “Umntakwethu wayehlala eneentloni ukuhamba nam kwiipaseji zesikolo sethu. Uthe wayexhalabile kwaye wayehlala ejikeleza ngathi libhabhathane, ehlala egila izinto nabantu. "
Chwetheza i-2
Uhlobo lwesibini lumalunga namandla agudileyo, ahambayo. Uhamba kakuhle nangobunono. Uthatha amanyathelo amade kwaye iinyawo zakho zisondele emhlabeni. Akukho bounce kumanqwanqwa akho, endaweni yokuhamba kakhulu. Uhlala kwaye ume ngohlobo lwe-S-curve okanye ijika ekhululekile, ugcine intloko yakho kwelinye icala.
Umzekelo: Ndihlala ndisekupheleni kweqela, ndihamba ngamanyathelo ama-2-3 emva kweqabane lam kunye nentombi yohlobo lwe-3. Ngenye imini intombi yam yohlobo lwe-3 yayisithi, 'Yiza mama, khawuleza!' Ndamxelela ukuba akufuneki singxamile wathi, "Ndingu Type 3. Ndiyathanda ukubaleka!"
Chwetheza i-3
Olu hlobo lunamandla amakhulu asebenzayo, asebenzayo. Uhamba ngokuzimisela kwinyathelo lakho, ngesityalo esiqinileyo ezinyaweni zakho, ngokukhawuleza nangamandla. Wonke umntu uyakuva xa usiza. Abantu banokukuva xa uhlala phantsi, ngenxa yokuhamba kwakho ngabom. Udala ii-angles xa uhlala phantsi kwaye uphakamile. Imilenze iwele, umlenze omnye uphakanyiswe phantsi kwakho, intloko yakho ithambekele kwelinye icala, izandla zakho zisesinqeni okanye umzimba ugobile esinqeni.
Umzekelo: “Ngenye imini ndahamba ndisiya kwelinye icala lendlu yethu ndisiya kolunye usapho lwam. Xa ndingena egumbini, ndiye ndaphawula ukuba wonke umntu ujonge kum. 'Kwenzekani?' Ndibuzile. Akhonto, utshilo umyeni wam. "Besicinga unomsindo, uhamba ngoluhlobo." Andizange ndiyiqonde!
Chwetheza i-4
Olu hlobo lwamandla luhlala luhleli. Uhamba nkqo kakhulu, awushukumi kwaye unobungangamsha, ungashukumi kangako emilenzeni nasemzimbeni. Uhleli ngokuthe tye, ngokuma ngokuthe nkqo, zombini iinyawo emhlabeni, izandla zisongwe okanye zixhonywe emacaleni. Uhlala ujongeka ngokusesikweni. Uninzi lweemodeli zeenqwelo-moya zibonisa uhlobo oluphambili lwamandla: ngokwendalo ethe nkqo, elungeleleneyo kwaye yakhiwe ngokuhamba, ngamagxa athe tye kunye nokuma okugqibeleleyo.
Umzekelo: “Umyeni wam wohlobo olu-4 uhamba ngesantya esingagungqiyo, naphina apho aya khona. Ngokwesiqhelo ayicothisi. Kwaye ukuba ufike emva kwexesha, awuzukungxama. Ngapha koko, ukuba ndiyayingxamisa, iya kuyeka ukuhamba de ndiyeke ukungxama. Ubeka phambili ukuba ligunya lombutho wakhe ”.
Iimpawu omele uzazi
Ngeminyaka yo-1970, u-Albert Mehrabian, isifundiswa sezonxibelelwano se-UCLA, wavusa inguquko kwindlela esasiqonda ngayo izakhono zokubonisa. Uvavanyo lwabo lubonise ukuba impendulo yomphulaphuli kwiimvakalelo zesithethi yayinento yokwenza nayo. nembonakalo yobuso kunye nethoni yelizwi lesithethi kunangowona magama wayesetyenziswa sisithethi.
Ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-40 ezayo, abasasazi kunye nabacebisi bacinga nzulu malunga nokufunyenwe nguMehrabian, besithi babonisa ukuba unxibelelwano olungenamlomo lunentsingiselo ngakumbi kunamagama esithethi. Nabani na oye kwinkomfa yekholeji uyazi ukuba oku akunakulindeleka. UMehrabian wayengathethi ngentsingiselo kodwa ngeemvakalelo kunye nesimo sengqondo. Ungakholelwa xa umntu ekuxelela ukuba uthetha kakhulu ngethoni kunye nolwimi lomzimba kunamagama.
Nangona kunjalo, umsebenzi kaMehrabian uyenza icace into yokuba izakhono zakho zokubonisa kufuneka zibandakanye ithoni kunye nolwimi lomzimba, kuba ukungalunganga kunokonakalisa umyalezo wakho ngokubangela impendulo engeyiyo. Ngamanye amagama, intetho yakho ihlala ingaphezulu kwento oyithethayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha, ukubamba inkomfa okanye ukwazisa, unoxanduva lomyalezo wakho. Kuya kufuneka usebenzise izakhono zakho zokubonisa ukuze uzenze ngokucacileyo nangokufanelekileyo. Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ulumke nomzimba wakho. Kufuneka ubonakale wendalo kwaye unomdla. Iimpawu zolwimi lomzimba Umboniso ngumbonakalo wobuso, ibhalansi, ukubekwa kweenyawo, kunye nokuthambo komzimba.
- Imboniso yobuso. Kufuneka ibenomtsalane kwaye ibe mnandi. Eyona ndlela yokufezekisa ezi mpawu kukuncuma. Uncumo luyabuphilisa ubuso bakho kwaye lukwenze ube nomdla ngakumbi. Ikwenza abaphulaphuli bathande wena ngakumbi kwaye ikuncede unxibelelane nabo. Ke jonga abaphulaphuli ebusweni kwaye uncume.
- Umlinganiso. Oku kuthetha ukuhambisa ubunzima bakho ngokulinganayo phakathi kweenyawo zakho. Yima iinyawo zakho ububanzi ububanzi egxalabeni kunye nezandla zakho emacaleni akho (ngaphandle kwaxa usenza umqondiso). Nokuba uthini na umyalezo wakho, esi sikhundla sikuqinisa ngokudlulisela ukungafihlisi kunye nokunyaniseka. Iiprojekthi zokuma kakuhle zamandla; iiprojekthi zokuma ngokungakhathali okanye ukungaqiniseki. Xa uthe tye kwaye ulungelelene, kubonakala ngathi ulungele nantoni na. Ubume abuthethi ukuba bungqingqwa.
- Ukubekwa kweenyawo. Oku kuthetha ukuhlala endaweni ngaphandle kokuhamba, ukuhamba, okanye ukubetha, zonke ezo zinto zibonisa umbono wovalo. Ukugxininisa ingcinga, ungahamba umgca othe tye, kufutshane nabaphulaphuli, kodwa xa usenza njalo, yima, bonisa ingcinga, kwaye emva koko ubuyele kwindawo yokungathathi cala.
- Izimbo zomzimba zivela egxalabeni, ke zibandakanya ingalo iphela. Bakude nomzimba kwaye bahlala besenziwa kuvulwe isundu. Yenza ingalo enye ngexesha, kuba xa ushukumisa izandla zombini, izandla zakho zihlala zilandela, yintoni ebonakala ngathi kukuhamba komdaniso. Kwaye sebenzisa izijekulo zakho ukubonisa oko ukuthethayo.