Ulwimi lomzimba (ulwimi olungathethiyo) lubaluleke kakhulu xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano. Uphakama njani umntu, indlela ahamba ngayo, into ayithethayo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amagama… konke oku kuthumela imiyalezo kwabanye malunga nokuba ungubani kwaye ucinga njani. Ngesi sizathu, ukuba ufuna ukuthatha ithuba elingaphezulu kunxibelelwano kwaye ulisebenzise ukuze uzive uzithemba ngakumbi, ke qhubeka ufunda.
Ulwimi lomzimba lubala i-80% yonxibelelwano. Oku kuthetha ukuba abantu benza izigwebo kunye nokucingela malunga nabanye abanokuthi bangakwazi nokubazi, ngenxa yendlela abazibonakalisa ngayo ngomzimba. Ngamanye amagama, ukuma ngeengalo zakho ziwele kungangabonakala ngathi yinto enkulu, kodwa kubo bonke abanye abantu, ibali elihluke ngokupheleleyo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele indlela ozibambe ngayo, ngakumbi kwiimeko apho uzama ukubonakala uzithembile kwaye wenze umbono wokuqala oncomekayo. Ukutshintsha ulwimi lomzimba ukubonisa ukuzithemba kunokuba luncedo nakubani na. Ke, Zenzele inceba kwaye ugcine ukufunda ezinye iingcebiso onokuzisebenzisa yonke imihla.
Ukuma kwamandla
Le posu ibandakanya ukuma nkqo kunye nokubeka izandla zakho esinqeni kwisimo sejug, ukubeka isifuba sakho phambili. Oku kuphakamisa imood yakho kunye namandla akho omzimba. Kukwenza uzive uzithembile kwaye ungaphantsi koxinzelelo kubonga kulungelelwaniso lwengqondo yomzimba womzimba. Ungawutshintsha kwangoko umzimba wakho chemistry, ukonyusa i-testosterone kunye nokunciphisa i-cortisol, ihormone yoxinzelelo.
Thatha indawo engaphezulu
Ukuba ngesiqhelo uzama ukuthatha indawo encinci xa uhlala phantsi, ukuba ngokuzithemba uthatha indawo eninzi ukuya kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo, uthumela umyalezo wokuba ufuna ukuba kulapho ukhoyo, ngaphandle kwemibuzo. Iya kubonakala ngokulula.
Yiba ngowokuqala ukuxhawula
Xa udibana nomntu omtsha, yiba ngumntu omangalisayo, ophumayo okhuphayo afikelele kuqala ukubambana ngesandla. Oku kukwenza ubonakale uzithembile kwaye kuqinisekisa ukudibana kwamehlo okunentsingiselo.
Musa ukufaka izandla ezipokothweni
Abantu abaneentloni bathanda ukufaka izandla zabo ezipokothweni. Kodwa oku kungathumela umyalezo ongalunganga. Ukufihla izandla zakho, nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, kwenza abantu bazibuze ukuba ikhona into oyifihlayo. Ke ukwenza umbono olungileyo kungcono ukugcina izandla zakho zisemehlweni.
Beka izandla zakho phezu kwetafile
Gcina izandla zakho emacaleni akho ukuba umile, okanye ukuba uhleli, zigcine etafileni. Oku malunga, kwakhona, ukubonakala kuvulekile kwaye kuthembekile. Xa umntu engaziboni izandla zakho, bayazibuza ukuba ufihle ntoni. Ukuze ubonakale unyanisekile kwaye unokuthenjwa, bonisa izandla zakho.
Sebenzisa izijekulo xa uziva usoyika
Izimbo zomzimba zezandla zinokukunceda ukuba uveze umbono wakho ngokugxininisa amagama athile kunye nokubalisa ibali elinyanzelisayo. Kodwa banokukunceda ukufihla uvalo, ukuba unayo. Ukuthetha ngezandla akuncedi kuphela ubuchule kunye nokucinga, kodwa kukwavumela intshukumo emzimbeni. Ukunciphisa ukubonakala koxinzelelo, ukoyika, okanye ukungonwabi, vumela iingalo zakho zithethe kwaye izandla zakho maziphelise olo xinzelelo.
Iprojekthi ngakumbi ukuzithemba ngokuma kwakho
Ukuma kakubi kunokukwenza ubonakale ukrokrela, nokuba akunjalo. Ke khumbula ukuma ngentloko phezulu kunye namagxa akho emva. Iposi ayipheleli nje ekuzithembeni kwaye ithi ukhona, yomeleza uqhagamshelo lwakho kuwe. Nge-chin ephakanyiswe kancinci, amagxa ajingayo, kunye nesifuba esivulekileyo, Ukhanyisa ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba ngokwakho kunye nabantu odibana nabo.
Khumbula ukumjonga ngamehlo
Ukudibana kwamehlo kuko konke. Ukwenza unxibelelwano ngamehlo kubonisa ukuba utyale imali komnye umntu kwaye uyababona ukuba bangobani. Ngendlela enye, Ixelela omnye umntu ukuba ubalulekile kwaye unexabiso kwaye ufuna ukunxibelelana nabo.
Melana nomnqweno wokuwela iingalo zakho
Abantu abaninzi beme ngeengalo zabo ziwele phambi kwabo, ngesiqhelo kuba zikhululekile. Kodwa, kwiingqondo zethu ezivavanya kwangoko ulwimi lomzimba, le pose yenza ukuba ubonakale ukude kakhulu. Ingabonisa ukuba uvaliwe okanye awunomdla kwinto ethethwa ngumntu. Ukuveza isifuba ngokunganqamli iingalo kukhokelela kwimvakalelo yokuba sesichengeni. Ngelixa oku kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo kwabanye, kubonisa ukusondelana kunye nomdla kwabanye, ke kufanelekile ukwenza nabantu abalungileyo.
Qiniseka
Ngexesha elizayo xa ufuna ukwenza inqaku okanye ukuphumelela impikiswano, khumbula ukunamathela kuyo. Musa ukuxhomekeka, hlala ngaphakathi okanye uncike. Gcina intloko ithe nkqo, ingagobanga ngasekhohlo okanye ngasekunene. Oku kuyakubonisa ukuba uphakamisa intloko ... gcina uqhakamshelwano lwamehlo emva kokuveza ityala lakho okanye ukubuza umbuzo, ade omnye umntu aphendule ... nokuba ithatha ixesha elingakanani.
Vumela umzimba wakho ukuba ulinganise
Xa usungula ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nomntu, naka ingqalelo kulwalathiso lomzimba wakho. Bazise ukuba uyakhathala ngokuqinisekisa ukuba iinzwane zakho, iqhosha lesisu kunye namehlo zihambelana kwaye zikhomba kwicala labo. Ngokulungelelanisa ezi zinto zintathu ziye kwicala lomnye umntu, uyenza icace into yokuba ujolise kubo nakwincoko, kwaye apho banikela ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo.
Zonke izandi zilula ngokulula, ukanti ezi ntshukumo zincinci zingenza umohluko omkhulu ngokubonisa ukuzithemba, ukuphumelela impikiswano kunye nokwenza umbono wokuqala. Ke, zigcine ngasemva kwengqondo yakho kwaye uzisebenzise xa kunokwenzeka. Ukusukela ngoku unokuba yingcali kulwimi olungathethiyo kwaye Awuyi kukwazi kuphela ukufunda umzimba wabanye, kodwa uya kuba nakho ukuhambisa eyakho ukuze izibonelelo zakho zobuqu.