Ngaba kukuzonwabisa okanye ukuzithemba okuphezulu? Mhlawumbi ukuba umazi umntu oziphethe kakubi uye wazibuza lo mbuzo ngamanye amaxesha. Nditsho nabantu abanesiphene sobuntu ekuthandazeni ... Nangona kukho imiqondiso enokwenza kube lula ngakumbi ukukuchonga. Indalo yomntu iyazingca amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa umntu othanda ukuthanda izinto angayithatha ayigqithise.
Abazixabisi iimvakalelo zabanye abantu kunye nezimvo zabo kwaye abazihoyi iimfuno ezingezizo ezabo. Xa une-narcissistic personality disorder, sijamelene nokugula ngengqondo, into eyahlukileyo ekubeni neempawu zobuntu, kunale, inokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kuluntu ... Kuya kufuneka kuvavanywe yingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Igama elithi "narcissist" livela kwintsomi yamaGrike apho uNarcissus, mfana mhle, uyayibona imbonakalo yakhe emthonjeni kwaye uyamthanda. Wayexakeke kukujonga umfanekiso wakhe kwaye wagqiba ukuphosa emanzini. Apho umzimba wawa khona, kukhula intyatyambo entle eyanika igama intyatyambo iNarcissus ngembeko yenkumbulo yalo mfana.
Yintoni
Abantu abanale ngxaki yobuntu banokuba nazo zonke iindawo zobomi babo ezichaphazelekayo. Banobuntu obuyityhefu kwaye banefuthe elibi kubume babo ekufutshane. Abakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obusempilweni nabanye abantu kwaye banokuba nobunzima ekuqhubeleni phambili ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukuvelana nabanye okanye babone ukusilela kwabo kunye nokusikelwa umda. Esi sifo sinokunyangwa kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, iziphumo ezonakalisayo zinokunyangwa.
Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu beNarcissistic yipateni ehlala ihleli yamava angaphakathi kunye nokuziphatha okubonakaliswa kukuzingca, ukungabikho kovelwano, kunye nemvakalelo yokuzibaxa yokubaluleka. Njengakwezinye iingxaki zobuntu, esi sifo sinendlela yokuziphatha ehlala ihleli kwaye ichaphazela kakubi iinkalo ezininzi zobomi, kubandakanya ubudlelwane boluntu, usapho kunye nomsebenzi.
Ezona mpawu zayo ziphambili kukuba aba bantu baziva bekhulu phambi kwabanye, abanalo uvelwano ngabantu kwaye banesidingo esikhulu sokunconywa rhoqo. Abantu banokukubona njengomntu onekratshi, ozicingela yedwa, onobuqhetseba kwaye ofuna ukuba nawe kodwa ngaphezu kwako konke, nabanye. Kwakhona banokuba nemibono emikhulu kwaye bakholelwa ukuba bafanele unyango olukhethekileyo kuwo wonke umntu.
Esi sifo sihlala siqala kwishumi elivisayo okanye kulutsha. Isimo sengqondo siyabonakala kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntu onesifo sobuntu esingathandekiyo. Aba bantu bacinga ukuba babalulekile kwaye babhetele kunabanye. Bazama ukuzihlikihla kubantu abacinga ukuba nabo bakhethekile okanye bafanelwe yingqwalaselo yabo ngandlela thile ... abanye abantu, bayabadelela.
Musa ukubhidanisa ukuba yiNacisist nokuzithemba okuphezulu
Nangona abantu abaninzi bekholelwa ukuba ezi ntlobo zabantu zinokuzithemba okuphezulu, kunyanzelekile ukuba ungadidanisi oku kuba ngokwenyani ... ukuzithemba kwabo kubuthathaka. Ngapha koko, bafuna ukuziva bethandwa kunye nokunyamekela abanye, ngokuziva nje (ngendlela eyityhefu) ukuba bayathandwa ngabanye.
Xa benengxaki nokuzithemba kwabo, bahlala benengxaki yokwamkela ukugxekwa, iimpazamo okanye ukulahleka. Baziva behlazekile xa oku kusenzeka kwaye bengaziva bengenanto. Ngokukhawuleza baziva belahliwe ngabanye, kwaye oku kuyazitshintsha ngokweemvakalelo nokuba bazama ukubonisa into echaseneyo "phambi kwegalari." Kodwa kwakhona kukho iimeko zabantu abanesiphene kubuntu apho banokuzithemba okuphezulu kuzo zonke iinkalo, into ngokungathandabuzekiyo enokuthi inyuse ngakumbi iimpawu zesifo.
Kananjalo akufuneki ukuba le ngxaki iphazanyiswe kukuzithemba okuphezulu. Abantu abanokuzithemba okuphezulu banokuba nemfesane kwaye bathobeke, kwelinye icala, umntu onale ngxaki uya kuswela ezi zimo zintle.
Iimpawu
I-Narcissism ligama elisetyenziselwa ukubhekisa kubantu abazikhathaleleyo kuphela hayi abanye, iziqu zabo apho beza kuqala khona. Kuyimfuneko ukwahlulahlula, njengoko sele sichazile ngasentla malunga neempawu zobuntu kunye nokuphazamiseka kubuntu. Umzekelo, iimpawu zokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo zinokuba yinto eqhelekileyo ngexesha lokufikisa, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana ofikisayo uya kuba nengxaki epheleleyo kwixesha elizayo. Ezinye zeempawu zokuphazamiseka kubuntu zibandakanya:
- Ukubaxwa kobuchule bomntu kunye nempumelelo
- Ukufuna rhoqo ukuhoywa, ukuqinisekiswa kunye nokudunyiswa ngabanye
- Ukukholelwa ngaye ukuba wahlukile kwaye ukhethekile emhlabeni
- Qaphela ukuba unganxibelelana kuphela nabantu "abakwimo" efanayo
- Iingcinga eziqhelekileyo malunga nokufezekiswa, impumelelo kunye namandla
- Ukuxhaphaza, ukukhohlisa kunye nokuxhaphaza abanye abantu ukuze ufumane inzuzo yakho
- Ukuzixakekisa okugqithisileyo ngamandla kunye nempumelelo
- Uyabamonela abanye kwaye uyakholelwa ukuba abanye banomona ngawe
- Ukungabikho kovelwano kwabanye
Uxilongo kunye nonyango
Ukuchongwa ngokusesikweni kunokwenziwa kuphela yingcali yezempilo yengqondo kwaye kufuna ukuba umntu abonise ukungalunganga ekusebenzeni kobuntu kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo, kubandakanya nokuziva ebaluleke kakhulu, kunye nobunzima phakathi kwabantu ekufuneni ingqalelo, uvelwano kunye nokusondelelana.
Ukusilela ekusebenzeni kobuntu kunye nokubonakaliswa kweempawu zobuntu kufuneka kuzinze ngokuhamba kwexesha nakwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, akufuneki zibe yinto eqhelekileyo kwinkcubeko, kwimeko-bume okanye kwinqanaba lokukhula komntu, kwaye Akufuneki zibangelwe yimpembelelo ethe ngqo yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye imeko yonyango ngokubanzi.
Ngokumalunga nonyango, unyango lwengqondo lomntu ngamnye lunokusetyenziswa nangona inkqubo ihlala inzima kwaye inde ngenxa yeempawu zomntu. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abantu abanale ngxaki abanakufane bafune unyango. Abantu bahlala beqala unyango ngokunyanzelwa ngamalungu osapho okanye ukunyanga iimpawu ezibangelwa kukuphazamiseka, ezinje ngoxinzelelo.
Ukunyanga ngokuziphatha kwengqondo kuhlala kusebenza kakuhle ekuncedeni abantu abanolu tshintsho batshintshe iipatheni ezonakalisayo zokucinga kunye nokuziphatha. Injongo yonyango kukutshintsha iingcinga ezigqwethekileyo kwaye wenze umfanekiso oqinisekileyo wokuzibona. Amayeza ahlala engasebenzi kutshintsho lwexesha elide, kodwa Ngamanye amaxesha zisetyenziselwa ukunyanga iimpawu zoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo.