Kubo bonke ubomi bakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uve igama elithi "ucalucalulo." Xa uthetha ngomkhethe, kubhekiswa kwisimo sengqondo esingenabulungisa okanye esingalunganga (kwaye ngakumbi esibi) ngokubhekisele emntwini esekwe kwiqela lomntu ekuhlaleni. Umzekelo, umntu usenokuba nembono ethambekileyo ngenxa yohlanga lomntu okanye isini.
Ngamanye amaxesha bayabhidaniswa nocalucalulo. Njengokuba besesiphawulile kumhlathi wokuqala, ucalucalulo sisimo sengqondo esingenasizathu kodwa xa sithetha ngocalucalulo, sithetha ngokuziphatha okanye uthotho lwezenzo ezimbi kumntu okanye kwiqela labantu ngakumbi ngenxa yesini, ubuhlanga, udidi lwentlalo, njl.
Umahluko phakathi komkhethe nocalucalulo
Umntu onekhethe akasoloko esenza ngokuvisisana nesimo sabo sengqondo. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu onabo kwiqela elithile akunyanzelekanga ukuba ababandlulule. Ngokwesiqhelo, umkhethe uhlala unezinto ezintathu eziphambili kwisimo sengqondo: ukusebenza, isimilo kunye nokuqonda. Ucalulo kwelinye icala lubandakanya indlela yokuziphatha komntu ocalulayo.
Zine iinkcazo zokuqonda ucalucalulo kunye nocalucalulo ebantwini: ubuntu obunobungqongqo, ungquzulwano phakathi kwabantu, iingcinga ezibaxayo kunye nokuba nesazisi esingaguqukiyo sentlalo.
Kutheni le nto kubakho ucalucalulo
Abantu banocalucalulo kwaye amaxesha amaninzi balubonisa ngaphandle kweentloni. Batyekele ekuzithetheleleni ngokuba abantu abanengxaki yengqondo banokuba yingozi, ukuba abafuduki bebe imisebenzi, ukuba uluntu lwe-LGBT lonakalisa amaxabiso emveli osapho, ukuba onke amaSilamsi angabagrogrisi kuba bakhuliswe ngentiyo, ukuba abantu abathetha kakubi abanayo imfundo, njl.
Lonke olu lucalucalulo alunasihlahla kwaye alunasiseko… kutheni ke ngoko lusenzeka? Ucalucalulo ekuhlaleni luqhelekile kwaye luhlala lusenzeka kuba abantu bayacaphuka xa amaxabiso abakholelwa ukuba awodwa kwaye awabanjwanga.
Abantu bahlala beziva bebacalucalula abanye xa bephambuka kwindlela yesiqhelo ethathwa "njengesiqhelo", abophula ezi "ziqhelo" zomzimba okanye zentlalo. Nokuba ngowebala lolusu, indlela yokunxiba, inkolo okanye inkcubeko ... ukuba bayaphambuka kwimilinganiselo yentlalo ekudala ikho, ethathwa njengokuziphatha kwezentlalo ekuvunyelwene ngako ngemvumelwano ... Kubonakala ngathi emva koko, baziva bengonwabanga.
Ukuchasa ekunxaxheni
Ukuqala koku kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, emva koko kunokuqondwa ukuba ubandlululo lwasentlalweni lunokubangelwa kukuphambuka ngokubanzi kukuphambuka: ukonakala kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, kwento esele siyiqhelile.
Ukuba yinyaniso, indlela esicinga ngayo nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngabantu abajongeka ngokwahlukileyo, okanye abaziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunesiqhelo, kufanele ukuba ifane nendlela esicinga ngayo kwaye sive ngayo ngezinto eziphazamisa ukuqheleka kwamava ethu okubona: ipensile engaphumanga kancinci emgceni weepensile, ipeyinti eludongeni lwegumbi lokulala imnyama emnyama Igumbi ... kwaye konke "okwahlukileyo" kungonwabisi.
Ucalucalulo lubonakala kwasekuqaleni ebomini
Ukungakuthandi ukuphambuka kwindlela yesiqhelo yentlalo kubonakala kwasekuqaleni ebomini kwaye kuphantse kuzo zonke iinkcubeko. Okukhulu ukungonwabi komntu kuloo "kuphambuka kwindlela yesiqhelo eyamkelweyo" kubomi obuqhelekileyo, kokukhona baya kuba bhetyebhetye kubantu abaphula imigaqo yentlalo enjengokunxiba ngokwahlukileyo, abaneempawu zomzimba ezahlukileyo kunesiqhelo (umbala ohlukileyo wolusu, umzimba ukukhubazeka okanye nabantu abane-achondroplasia), okanye ukunganyamezelani kwamaqela amancinci.
Ucalucalulo alwenzi ukuba ube nobuhlanga
Ukucalulwa ngabanye abantu akuthethi ukuba ucalucalula abanye abantu. Inxalenye yokungonwabi kwabo bahluphekileyo aba bantu bahlupheka yinto yangaphakathi abahlangabezana nayo ekuphenduleni kolo "kuphambuka" koluntu. Zizimvakalelo ezimbi, Kukubona nje ukuba ipateni yentlalo yophukile, akukho nto iyenye.
Sivame ukucinga ukuba iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo esinazo malunga neentsapho zethu, abahlobo, abantu esisebenza nabo, kunye nabantu esingabaziyo ziyimveliso yokuqiqa kunye namava, kwaye ubukhulu becala zisuswe kwindlela esicinga ngayo malunga nomhlaba ophathekayo. Nangona kunjalo, izimo zengqondo zentlalo, into esiyithandayo nesingayithandiyo kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantu kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha, zinxulumene kakhulu kunokuba sinokucinga kwizinto esizithandayo kwilizwe elibonakalayo, oko bakufundileyo ngokwenkcubeko kunye namava abo obuqu.
Iimvakalelo ezichaphazelekayo
Iimvakalelo zabantu zichaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo kwaye zichaphazeleka ngamava aphilayo. Umzekelo, ukumelwa kobushushu ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasentlalweni okunene kunxibelelene nobuchopho; kwasekuzalweni sinxulumana nobushushu (ukuba kufutshane nomnye umntu) nobushushu boluntu (ukuthembana nokhathalelo), kunye esi siphumo siyaqhubeka kubomi bethu bonke.
Intlungu yomzimba kunye neyasentlalweni nayo iyangqubana. Intlungu yentlalontle enamava okwaliwa ngomnye umntu okanye iqela iyenza isebenze kwingingqi efanayo yobuchopho njengamava entlungu, kangangokuba ukuthomalalisa iintlungu kuthabatha iiveki ezimbini kunceda umntu ukuba aphule ukwahlukana. ngenxa yokuba unikwa ukungaphatheki kakuhle ngokwasemzimbeni ngenxa yokungaphatheki kakuhle ngokweemvakalelo.
Akukho pilisi yomlingo yokunciphisa ubuhlanga, kodwa luxanduva olufumanekayo kwinqanaba lentlalontle kwaye ekufuneka lenziwe kwinqanaba elikhulu. Ingxaki kukuba abantu abanocalucalulo bazama ukubaqiqa okanye babanike ngandlela ithile ingcinga echaza iingcinga zabo, ezenza ezo nkolelo zibubuxoki abazamkelayo ukuthethelela ubandlululo ziluthathe njengento echanekileyo, kanti enyanisweni, abenzi njalo. yi.
Uluntu kufuneka luqale ukushiya ezi zizathu ezingenangqondo zokucalucalulwa ukuze ziqale ukunyamezelana kwaye zihlale ngemvisiswano ngaphandle kwentiyo engekho sikweni yabanye abantu ebangela ukungavisisani ekuhlaleni. Ukusebenza kuvelwano, ukwamkelwa, ukuzithemba nokunyamezelana kunokuba sisiqalo esihle sentlalo sokuphelisa ucalucalulo. Ukuba sonke besikwenzile, besiya kuhlala kuluntu olumanyeneyo nolonwabileyo.