Ukufuna injongo ebomini akusoloko kulula, enyanisweni, kunokwenzeka ukuba okwangoku uzive ulahlekile malunga noku kwaye awazi kakuhle ukuba ungaqhubeka njani nobomi bakho uzive uphelele. Ukufumana umsebenzi wobomi bakho kuya kukunceda uzive ngathi unegalelo kwihlabathi, ukuba nesizathu sokuvuka ntsasa nganye kwaye uzive ukhethekile kwaye uphila yonke imihla yobomi bakho.
Ukuba usendleleni yakho yokuzazi nokuzazi, mhlawumbi uye wazibuza nzulu ngawe kwaye wakhangela "kutheni." Usenokuba ufundile ukuba ukuyikhangela akukusondeli ngakumbi kwezi njongo. Ukuba awuyazi indlela yokufumana iinjongo zakho, namhlanje siza kwenza kube lula kuwe, Siza kukuxelela ezinye zezinto onokuzenza ukuze ufumane ukuba yintoni injongo ebomini.
Vavanya amaxabiso akho kunye neenjongo zakho
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Ezi zithethe ziyimodeli ophila ngayo ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kwaye ukuba ukhetha ukuyihoya, unokusebenza njengendlela yokwenza izigqibo ezingcono eziyinyani kwinto oyiyo, kwaye ziya kuba Isikhokelo sakho ngenjongo yakho. Ke, Nantoni na oyenzayo, jonga okubalulekileyo kuwe, eyona nto uyifunayo ebomini kwaye yintoni ekunika intsingiselo yonke imihla.
Batsho ukuba ubomi abunantsingiselo yobuntu: kuxhomekeke kuthi sonke ukuba sibunike intsingiselo, kwaye imilinganiselo yethu kunye neenjongo zethu, ziyinyani esiyinikayo ngokobuqu kubomi bethu. Ke qhubeka, thatha ixesha lokucingisisa ngeenjongo zakho, jonga kwinto ekuqhubela ekubeni uzikhathaze ngezinto ezithile, iimeko noonobangela hayi abanye, kwaye uqhelane nexabiso lenkqubo yakho kuba yile nto isebenza njengesiseko semishini yakho okanye injongo eyahlukileyo.
Yiba nemodeli yokuphefumlela
Nokuba ngabantu, iincwadi, iikhosi, iinkqubo ... qaphela ukuba yintoni onomdla ngayo, ongakwaziyo ukulinda ukuba ufunde, ufunde okanye uthethe ngakumbi ngayo. Qaphela ukuba yintoni ekuvuyisayo ngalo lonke ixesha umntu eyizisa. Ezi zinto zivusa umdla wakho, ezo zivuselela umnqweno wakho wolwazi, isenzo sakho, kunye nezo zikhulisa izigqibo zakho zemihla ngemihla. Zizinto ezithi ekugqibeleni zikuqhubele phambili kwiinjongo zakho. Ayisiyonto yethamsanqa, ziziphumo zobuntu bakho, ukomelela kwakho kunye nendlela yakho emangalisayo yokuqonda kunye nokunxibelelana nehlabathi.
Okukhona umamela, ufunda, ubukela kwaye ufunda kubo bonke abantu nakwizinto ezikhuthazayo, kokukhona uya kuba kwimeko yengxolo kunye nenjongo yakho, "kutheni", Isizathu sokuba uphile. Yintoni ekukhuthazayo malunga nesayensi, ubugcisa, umdaniso, uncwadi, iteknoloji, imfundo, amanani okanye ulwandle ubalisa ibali, ibali lendlela oza ngayo ukuba ungubani kwaye ubanguye. Yintoni ekukhuthazayo malunga nabanye abantu yinto ehlala ngaphakathi kwakho. Ngaphandle koko, ngekhe ube nakho ukuyiqaphela.
Ke, njengoko uqhubeka nokuhamba kwaye ukhula ebomini, musa ukoyika ukuzithuthuzela ngemisebenzi, abantu, useto, kunye neemeko ezikhuthazayo. Bavumele bakukhathalele, bakuthobe, bakukhokele kwaye bakukhumbuze ukuba kutheni ungaphili nje, kodwa wonwabile kuba uphila.
Yeka ukukholelwa ukuba kufuneka ube ngumntu
Akumangalisi ukuba, yinkolelo yokuba kufuneka sibe ngumntu kwaye kufuneka sibaluleke kakhulu engcanjini yemizamo yethu engapheliyo, ukumba, kunye nokuphelelwa ngumonde ngenjongo, into eya kusikhumbuza ukuba, enyanisweni, kufanelekile kwaye sinexabiso.
Inyani yile yokuba ngamnye kuthi, kuwo wonke umzuzu wemihla ngemihla, ubalulekile. Sonke sinempembelelo kumaxesha onke. Ke ukuba ufuna ukuba nenjongo ngoku, mayibe nefuthe kubantu abakungqongileyo ngeyona ndlela intle. Vumela ukuba uqaphele ukubaluleka kokuzalwa kwakho, ziphathe njengobaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungubani emva koko uhambe uyokwenza okufanayo nakwabanye.
Injongo yakho iyaphila ngawo onke amaxesha. Yindlela ohamba ngayo, indlela othetha ngayo, indlela okhetha ngayo ukubulisa kwaye uziphathe ngokwakho nakwabanye yonke imihla. Ke ntsasa nganye xa uvuka, ungathi into enje, "Ndiyazi ukuba ndibaluleke kakhulu kwaye ndixabisile kwaye ndiyayisebenzisa injongo yam kuyo yonke indlela endithetha ngayo, ndihamba ngayo, kwaye ndiziphatha kunye nabanye abantu". Emva koko buza into efana nale: "Ukwazi oku, ndizakukhetha njani ukuphila ubomi bam namhlanje?" Kwaye loo nto mayikhuthaze amandla akho, nomdla kunye nenjongo oqala ngayo usuku ngalunye.
Sukwenza okanye ukhangele nantoni na
Xa uchitha ixesha uthe cwaka, ungenzi nto, uya kuba nexesha elininzi kunye nendawo yokumamela ukubonakaliswa okungaphakathi komphefumlo wakho. Umphefumlo wakho awungxoli; ndithetha nawe ngobuqili. Umnqweno ongachazekiyo wokwenza into, ngokungathandabuzekiyo ungenzi enye into, imifanekiso oyibona ikungqongile, amava onawo, abantu odibana nabo, kunye neencoko ozikhumbulayo- zonke ezi ziindlela zolwimi apho umphefumlo wakho unxibelelana khona. Lulwimi olwaziwa nguwe kuphela, olwaziwa nguwe, ubone, uve, uchukumise kwaye uziva.
Xa uthatha ixesha lokuba kunye nawe, uya kuba nolwazi olungakumbi malunga nemiba eyenzeka ngaphakathi nakwiindawo ezikungqongileyo. Uyakwazi ukuphepha incoko yengqondo yakho kwaye umamele ilizwi le-intuition yakho kunye nokusebeza kwentliziyo yakho. Phakathi kwenkitha yokuhleba entliziyweni yakho, akunakulindeleka ukuba uhlebeze "Yiza, yeka ukuchitha ixesha lakho kwaye ufumane injongo yakho ngoku." Ukusebeza kwentliziyo yakho kuvakala ngokulula ngolu hlobo: «Sithandwa sam, zinike ixesha. Akukho kungxama konke konke. Kanye njengokuba wenziwa ngenjongo, andithandabuzi ukuba uhlala uphila ngokwenjongo yakho, nokuba uyazifezekisa izinto, ubhala iincwadi, unefuthe ebantwini okanye uvele ucofe izithupha zakho… »
Kwaye nje ukuba ufike kweli nqanaba… vumela injongo yakho ukuba ikufumane! Ngamanye amaxesha xa ungayilindelanga, kulapho ibhalbhu ekhanyayo iza kuthi qatha engqondweni.