Xa abantu ababini befunga uthando olungunaphakade nangaliphi na ixesha bacinga ukuba ngekhe lihlale ngonaphakade okanye baya kugqibela ngokufumana kakubi. Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba iimeko zobomi ziya kuhamba njani, kwaye ukuba lukhona uthando, likho ithemba ... Kodwa xa uthando luphela, ke kuyafuneka ukuba utyhile iphepha kwaye ufunde ngendlela yokoyisa uqhawulo-mtshato.
Kukho abantu abathi xa beqhawula umtshato balinde oko kuba kufana nenkululeko. Endaweni yokuba kukho abanye abantu abaqhawula umtshato kwaye baziva ngathi bayanyanzeliswa kuba ngokwenyani, abafuni kuyenza le nto.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyenze ibe ntle, xa kukho uqhawulo-mtshato lubuhlungu kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo. Inqanaba livaliwe kwaye ayisoloko isitya senencasa elungileyo. Ukuhamba kuyo yonke inkqubo yenkundla kuyadinisa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzakalisa ... ngakumbi xa iba lidabi elimiselweyo.
Yamkela ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lusondele
Mhlawumbi awufuni ukuba kwenzeke le nto, kodwa iyenzeka. Nangona ezo ngcinga zisenokuba yinyani, inyathelo lokuqala lokuphilisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kukwamkela ngokupheleleyo. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngokuqinileyo entlokweni yakho: "Ndiyaqhawula umtshato" okanye "Ndiqhawule umtshato." Leyo yinyani yakho entsha.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini okanye lwamadoda luzama ngamandla ukukhanyela inyani okokoko banako. Nangona bebazi ubunyani bemeko entlokweni yabo, Bayayikhanyela kwizenzo zabo ngokugcina ubudlelwane obungenampilo kunye ne-ex yabo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ii-exes zizama ukugcina iinyawo zazo emnyango wobomi bethu ngokuzama ukuba ngumhlobo wethu, okanye ngokunikezela ukulungisa isinki ... ukukuthumelela iintyatyambo kunye neelekese esithi usakuthanda.
Ukuqhawula umtshato kuthetha ukuba nobabini kufuneka nisamkele isiphumo soqhawulo mtshato: khupha i ex yakho ebomini bakho ngokukhawuleza, okanye ukuba unabantwana, vumelanani ukuze nizuze abantwana, niyeke ukuba sisibini sokuba ngabazali kuphela. Kodwa kuya kufuneka umkhuphe ebomini bakho ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokubanzi, unxibelelwano oluncinci lubangcono. Musa ukufunxwa ekuvumeleni ukuba kuthathe indawo exabisekileyo kunye namandla entlokweni yakho nakubomi bakho.
Khala kwaye uzivumele uzive iimvakalelo
Vumela ukukhala, ungazikhanyeli iimvakalelo zakho. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba ukuhamba kwinkqubo enzima kuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo zakho, ubuncinci, okwexeshana, ziba ngumqengqeleki. Akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyazi le nto ukuze, ungazilawula ezona mvakalelo zinokukuhlupha ngeli xesha.
Kufuneka uhambe kwinkqubo ebuhlungu, kuba uqhawulo-mtshato luthetha ukufa komtshato wakho. Oku kuyakwenza ukuba ube namava wokuba ulilela ukuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo. Iimvakalelo ezibandakanya ukwala, ukudana, kunye nomsindo kufuneka zamkelwe kuba ziqhelekile. Vumela iinyembezi zehle ezidleleni zakho.
Thatha ulawulo lobomi bakho
Usenokuzibuza: "Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukufumana uqhawulo mtshato?" Abantu abohlukeneyo bathatha ixesha elingafaniyo ukuze bagqibe kuqhawulo-mtshato. Kukho abantu abagqitha kuyo ngeenyanga kwaye abanye bathatha iminyaka ukuyenza. Omnye umbuzo onokuzibuza wona ngoku ngulo: "Ngaba ndiyakuze ndiphumelele umtshato wam?"
Ewe kungekudala. Ngokwesiqhelo, kuthatha unyaka okanye ngaphezulu, kuba inxenye yenkqubo yokulila ibandakanya ukulila zonke izikhumbuzo ezenzeka unyaka. Iiholide, imihla yokuzalwa, intwasahlobo, ihlobo, ukuwa, ubusika kunye nezinye izinto ezenzelwe wena, izibini okanye izikhumbuzo zosapho.
Njengoko besesitshilo ngentla, ukuzivumela ixesha lokulila kunyanzelekile ukuba uye phambili. Ungaluthatha ulawulo ngokwamkela ukuba kuya kufuneka uzilile ngale lahleko. Elona nyathelo lokubuyela kwimeko yoqhawulo-mtshato kuxa uqonde ukuba bonke ubomi bakho buxhomekeke kuwe kwaye ungaluphumelela uqhawulo-mtshato lwakho.
Umntu wakho wangaphambili akabulawuli ubomi bakho, nguwe omele uthathe izintso. Umntu wangaphambili okanye omnye umntu ophethe ulonwabo lwakho; nguwe onoxanduva olubalulekileyo. Kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho bonke lukhetho lwakho. Unokhetho lokuthatha isigqibo sokuchitha iintsuku zakho zikrakra kwaye unomsindo, Okanye unokuthatha isigqibo sokujonga izinto zokubhiyozela kwaye unombulelo ngazo.
Xa ukuolu hambo, uthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuphuma ebhedini rhoqo kusasa kwaye ufumane into enokwenza, okanye ukuba uza kuhlala ebhedini kwindawo yenkunkuma ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni imini yonke. Ke ucinga ukuba ukufumana ngaphezulu komtshato kuthetha ukuthatha ulawulo lomntu kunye thatha uxanduva ngobomi bakho. Ikamva lakho lixhomekeke kuwe.
Yifumane
Konke oku kunokuvakala ngathi kuyadinisa, kodwa kuxhomekeke kwizenzo zakho ukuze ufumane ukugqitha komtshato. Kuya kufuneka uqale ngezenzo ezincinci kuba yinkqubo. Kuqala, kuya kufuneka ujolise ekuthatheni amanyathelo amancinci azakuqala kwindlela eya kubomi obungcono emva koqhawulo mtshato.
Xa uqala ukuvuka rhoqo kusasa, zama ukuzixelela: "Enkosi ngokusinda ubusuku bonke." Yongeza izinto ezintlanu kuluhlu lwakho rhoqo kusasa: Enkosi ngamehlo am. Enkosi ngokungena ekhitshini nditye into emnandi. Enkosi ngekofu. Enkosi ukuba ndinemilenze emibini kunye nenkululeko yokuyisebenzisa «. Olu hlengahlengiso lwesimo sengqondo esibonakala silula ngokubhekisele kumbulelo luya kunzulu ekuziseni ukuphilisa entliziyweni yakho.
Kuyo yonke imini, gxila ekuthatheni amanyathelo amancinci (kodwa abaluleke ngokwenene). Ngaphambi kokwenza into, kufuneka uzibuze: "Ngaba le nto izakundisa phambili okanye izakundigcina ndibambeke kumthombo weqhawulo mtshato?"
Soloko uthatha isigqibo sokuthatha ezo zenzo zincinci ukuze uqhubeke uye phambili. Ukuthatha amanyathelo kukwathetha ukufumana izixhobo ozifunayo, njengokundwendwela le ndawo. Eli linyathelo elihle kakhulu kwicala elifanelekileyo. Uya kufumana uncedo, ukhuthazo kunye nezixhobo ukuze uhlale ukhula ngaphezulu komtshato ngentembeko nothando.
Khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba ufikelele kweli nqanaba kungenxa yokuba bekuyimfuneko. Kuyimfuneko ukuba wamkele okwenzekayo kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke, ukuba uziva ukuba ungoyisa. Ukuba loo mntu akasakufuni ebomini bakho, kungenxa yokuba akakufanelanga. Ufanele ukuba nobomi obungcono kakhulu kwaye ube ecaleni kwabantu abakwamkela ngokwenyani njengoko unjalo, ngoku nangonaphakade.