Sonke sikhathazekile ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu. Yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo kodwa akukho lula ukuyinyamezela kwaye ukuba ayiqondakali, inokubuchaphazela kakubi ubomi babantu. Ukuphazamiseka kubonakala ngathi yimvakalelo xa umntu engakwazi ukwanelisa intswelo okanye umnqweno. Xa oku kusenzeka, umntu unokuba nomsindo, uxhalabe, okanye abe mbi kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuba abantu bakwazi ukucinga ukuba ukukhathazeka kuqhelekile kuba awunakuhlala ukufezekisa yonke into oyifunayo, nokuba ufuna kangakanani. Kuyimfuneko ukuba wamkele ukungangqinelani phakathi kwento oyifunayo kunye nento onokuba nayo, okanye mandithi, phakathi kokulungileyo nokwenyani. Ingxaki ayilali kwinto eyenzekayo ngamava, kodwa ngendlela umntu azifumana ngayo ezi meko.
Unyamezelo oluphantsi lokukhathazeka
Bobabini abantu abadala kunye nabantwana banokufumana ubunzima kunyamezelo olusezantsi lokukhathazeka. Ngapha koko, ebantwaneni kuqhelekile ukuthetha ngala magama xa abantwana bengenako ukwamkela okwenzeka kubo ngokuzithandela. Ingathi abantwana kufuneka ngokwabo bazamkele izinto abangazithandiyo, kwaye ukuba abazenzi, kungenxa yokuba banonyamezelo oluphantsi lokukhathazeka.
Kwihlabathi labantu abadala, kuyafana okanye kungaphantsi ngokufanayo, kwenzeka ntoni ukuba kwenziwe ilinge lokuqonda umhlaba ngendlela enengqiqo, ke izifundo azisoloko zikulungele ukwamkela ukuba zinokunyamezeleka okuphantsi kunxunguphalo xa abayamkeli into yokuba iimfuno zabo okanye iminqweno yabo ayinakuzaliseka.
Xa umntu evakalisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngendlela engalunganga kwaye engalusebenzisi kakuhle olu luvo, kulapho kuvele khona ukunyamezeleka okuphantsi. Namhlanje oku kuyenzeka rhoqo kuba siqhele ukukhawulezisa, ukuthenga abathengi kunye nokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo. Ezi zinto zintathu zisenza singakhuseleki ngokweemvakalelo ngeendlela ezininzi.
Umntu onokunyamezeleka okuphantsi ekuthinjweni unengqondo engqongqo nengaguqukiyo, emenza angakwazi ukuziqhelanisa kakuhle neemeko eziguqukayo ngaphandle kokuba kulindelwe ngokwaneleyo. Ngokwesiqhelo aba bantu bahlala behlupheka ngokweemvakalelo. Baziva belusizi okanye benomsindo xa ulindelo lwabo oluphezulu okanye iingcinga ezingekho ngqiqweni zingafezekiswa.
Iimpawu zokuba unxunguphalo alunyamezelwa kakuhle
Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uyalunyamezela unxunguphalo kakuhle kodwa awunalo, okanye mhlawumbi ufuna ukwazi ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unokuba nonyamezelo oluphantsi lokukhathazeka. Kukho iimpawu okanye imiqondiso ekunceda ukuba wazi ukuba ngokwenene unakho ukubanakho ukunyamezela ukukhathazeka, okanye hayi. Eminye yale miqondiso yile:
- Kunzima ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho
- Kunzima ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye
- Ukunyanzelwa
- Ukungabi namonde
- Ukufuna isiqu sakho kunye nabanye
- Bafuna ukulahla iimfuno ngokukhawuleza
- Ukuba kufuneka balinde into bayaqumba
- Unokuphuhlisa uxinzelelo kuxinzelelo xa kukho ukungqubana okanye iingxaki ebomini
- Bacinga ukuba baliziko lehlabathi
- Ukucinga okugabadeleyo kungabikho mhlaba uphakathi
- Bazilungiselela ngokulula xa bejamelene nobunzima
- Ukuphathwa ngokweemvakalelo
Izizathu
Ngokwesiqhelo, unyamezelo olusezantsi lokudana okanye amandla amancinci olawulo lweemvakalelo xa ujongene neminqweno engonelisekanga ihlala ixhathisa ngenxa yemfundo engeyiyo ebuntwaneni. Isenokubangelwa kukuba bengazange bafundiswe ukulinda ebuntwaneni okanye ukuba njengabantwana, bafumana yonke iminqweno abayifunayo. Uxanduva aluzange lufundiswe kwaye lwalungasebenzi kubukrelekrele beemvakalelo. Kukho nezinye izizathu ezinokubangela:
- Ubushushu
- Iimeko zentlalo
- Ukungakwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuzilawula kakubi
- Ukuphambuka kwenyani
- Ukungabi namonde
Yilwa ukunyamezeleka okuphantsi
Mininzi imizekelo onokuyifumana mihla le apho kufaneleke khona ukunyamezeleka okuphantsi, umzekelo: xa umntu ekuxokisa, xa izithembiso zingagcinwa, xa kukho intlekele ekhitshini, xa usilele uviwo, xa ungayifumani into oyifunayo, xa kukho utshintsho kwizicwangciso ngomzuzu wokugqibela, xa uphoswa lithuba, xa ukutya kwindawo yokutyela kukubi, njl. Uluhlu alunasiphelo…
Ngamanye amaxesha, kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo kunokuba kunokwenzeka, unyango ngengcali luyafuneka ube nakho ukufumana izicwangciso zovakalelo kunye nokuqonda Kuyimfuneko ukuze ube nakho ukubanakho ukujongana neemeko zonxunguphalo. Kodwa ukuba uyayazi ingxaki yakho kwaye ufuna ukuzama ukunyusa unyamezelo lwakho, unokukwenza oko ngokugcina ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo engqondweni.
- Konke kusentloko yakho. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula iminqweno yakho kwiimfuno zakho.
- Yamkela ukuba awunakuhlala unayo yonke into oyifunayo.
- Basebenza kubuchule beemvakalelo, uvelwano kunye nokuzithemba ukuze bayeke ukuphendula ngokudubula kweemvakalelo kwimfuno engazalisekanga okanye kumnqweno ongazalisekanga.
- Yeka ukoyika ukusilela
- Umsebenzi wokunyamezela
- Khumbula ukuba ebomini kufuneka wenze iimpazamo ukuze ufunde kwaye uqhubele phambili.
- Cinga kwaye usebenze ngoxolo lwangaphakathi ngamaxesha oxinzelelo.
- Fumana amaxesha okuphumla ngexesha lasemini ukuphucula ulungelelwaniso lweemvakalelo zakho.
- Yenza izigqibo ezilula yonke imihla.
- Zibekele iinjongo ezifanelekileyo zokufezekisa yonke imihla.
- Gxila ekuphumleni kwakho ukuba awuziphumezi ezo njongo, kwaye ucinge ngendlela onokuthi uziphendule ngayo kwixa elizayo.
- Guqula indlela yakho yokucinga, sebenza ngokucinga okuhle!
- Zibuze rhoqo ngoku: yeyiphi eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka? Ndingayisombulula njani?
Ukuba ufumene ukuba unengxaki nokukhathazeka, kufuneka usombulule ingxaki ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphandle koko, unokuqala ukuba neengxaki kunye nolwalamano lwakho olusondeleyo kunye nolwalamano lwakho lobugcisa. Kuyimfuneko ukuba nabani na afunde ukulwa ubunzima ngokufanelekileyo, ukusebenza ngokuphumla kunye noxolo lwangaphakathi.
Ukuba awuyiphathi le ngxaki yeemvakalelo, inokuba mandundu kwaye izibonakalise kwezinye iingxaki okanye izifo kunye nokuziphatha okungxamisekileyo. Ngale ndlela, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukusebenza ngokudakumba uwedwa, yiya kwingcali ukuze ikukhokele kwaye ikunike izikhokelo eziyimfuneko zokukufezekisa.