Ngaba ungumntu onombulelo? Ngaba uyakuxabisa oko unayo? Kweli nqaku ndithetha ngokubaluleka kwe- xabisa izinto ezincinci kunye Bulela ngabo.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde eli nqaku, ndiyakumema ukuba ubukele le vidiyo imfutshane asinika yona esinye sezitshixo sokonwaba.
Kwividiyo basixelela ukuba izazinzulu zichonge esona sitshixo sokonwaba. Ngaba uyafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni le isitshixo? Nika ingqalelo ividiyo:
[Ndicebisa "Yonwaba ngaphezulu kweengxaki"]
Ungayitsho loo nto umbulelo usebenza njengesihlunu. Ukuba yonke imihla besinokuthatha ixesha ukuqonda ixabiso esinalo, iimvakalelo zombulelo kunye noxabiso zinokunyuka kakhulu. Inyaniso, abona bantu banombulelo ngabo bazakufumana ezona zibonelelo zibalaseleyo, ukuba benze iinzame zokuqonda ngakumbi okungqongileyo. "Unyango olusekwe kumbulelo lusebenza ngakumbi kwabo bangenambulelo"Utshilo uPhilip Watkins, uprofesa wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseMpuma Washington.
Okwangoku, umbulelo ebantwaneni licandelo lophando oluneziphumo zamva nje zibonisa oko Indima yabazali ibalulekile ekukhuthazeni le ndlela yokuqonda.
Esinye sezifundo esele senziwe kule ndawo, nesiza kupapashwa kulo nyaka kwi Uphengululo lweSayikholoji yeSikolo (Ijenali yeSikolo Psychology), yeyona yayiqhutywa kunye iqela labantwana besikolo samabanga aphantsi abali-122. Kwiveki enye, aba bafundi balandela ikharityhulamu apho bafunda khona iikhonsepthi ezinxulumene nesisa kunye nokukhulisa umbulelo. Kwenzeka ntoni emva koko? I-44% yabantwana ebebeyinxalenye yale nkqubo bakhethe ukubhala iileta zokubulela xa benikwa ukhetho, emva kwengxelo ngumbutho wabazali. Nangona kunjalo, kwiqela lolawulo, ibingama-25% kuphela abafundi abakhethe ukubhala olu hlobo lonobumba.
"Intetho endala yokuba ubuhle bufezekisiwe, abufundiswanga, yinto eyenzekayo apha"Utsho uRobert Emmons, uprofesa wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia. Abazali kufuneka babe yimizekelo yabantwana babo kule ndlela yokuziphatha, Ukuba ufuna ukwenza kubo umsipha wombulelo. "Nangona ingumbono abangafane bathande ukuva, abanako ukunika abantwana babo into abangenayo bona"Utshilo uGqirha Emmons.
“Kubonakala kucacile ukuba olu xwebhu lwabazali luyimfuneko; nangona kunjalo, ayaziwa ngabaninzi babo "Utsho uWatkins. "Ndiyayicinga lonto eyona nto ibalulekileyo inokuba thina bantu badala siqale ukubona ukuba asinambulelo kakhulu ", Yongeza.
Ngokophando, isenzo esilula sokubulela sizisa izibonelelo ezibonakalayo. Uphononongo luka-2008, olupapashwe kwi- Uphengululo lweSayikholoji yeSikolo, kuhlalutywe abantwana abangama-221 bebanga lesithandathu nelesixhenxe. Bahlulwe baba ngamaqela amabini kwaye umntu ngamnye wabelwa umsebenzi. Iqela lokuqala lacelwa ukuba libhale phantsi, usuku ngalunye iiveki ezimbini, izinto ezintlanu abanombulelo ngazo. Iqela lesibini liceliwe ukuba lenze uluhlu, kodwa uluhlu lwezinto ezintlanu ezibaphazamisayo. Isiphumo kukuba, emva kweeveki ezimbini lo msebenzi ugqityiwe, iqela lokuqala labonisa a Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo esikolweni kunye nolwaneliseko olukhulu ngobomi babo, xa kuthelekiswa neqela elalidwelise izikhalazo ezintlanu.
Ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo kunye nokubulela
Ukuthenga nge-Intanethi Basivumela ukuba sifumane oko sikufunayo ngendlela elula nekhawulezayo; eyenza ukuba kube nzima kuthi ukuba siliqonde ixabiso lezinto ezininzi. “Namhlanje, ukuba omnye wabantwana bakho ufuna izihlangu, yiya kwiwebhu, ukhethe ubungakanani kunye nombala kwaye ubenazo ekhaya ngosuku olulandelayo. Abayi "kuzifuna" okanye ukubeka phambili ezinye izinto, ngokucinezela iqhosha onalo ". Utsho uWilly Walter, umlawuli wenkampani uWalter & Dunlop eMelika.
NgokukaJeffrey Froh, umbhali-mbhali kunye noprofesa onxulumene nesayikholoji kwiYunivesithi yaseHofstra, ulutsha oluhlala luthenga kwi-Intanethi kwaye lufumana ngempumelelo into oluyifunayo amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo, isimo sengqondo esibi kunye neziphumo ezibi zemfundo. "Izinto eziphathekayo zinempembelelo echaseneyo nombulelo"Utsho uJefferey.
Ixabiso lezinto ezincinci
Ngokwabaphandi, iintshukumo zemihla ngemihla zinokubaluleka nangaphezulu kuneenzame ezinkulu. "Bulela iqabane lakho okanye abantwana bakho"Utshilo uGqirha Hofstra Froh. “Kutheni umbulela unyana wakho ngokwenza into ebefanele ukuyenza? Kuba ngale ndlela uyamomeleza, ungenisa ngaphakathi, umzekelo, ukuba kufuneka acoce igumbi lakhe, kwaye uqala nokwenza ngokwakhe "Wongeza uHofstra.
Ukunika umbulelo, ukuxabisa into esinayo nokuqonda ixabiso layo, yinto ekufuneka yenziwe ngabantu abadala.. Mhlawumbi sinaba "titshala" kufutshane kunokuba sicinga ...
"Abantwana banobudlelwane bendalo ngombulelo kwaye ihlala ingabo bafundisa abazali babo ngayo"Utsho uEmmons. Fuente