Uninzi lukhangele omnye umntu ukuze abagcine kwinkampani ebomini babo, ukuze bancedane kwaye babe nenkxaso engenamiqathango ebavumela ukuba babengcono kuzo zonke iindawo, nangona bembalwa kakhulu abaziyo indlela yokwazi uthando lokweneneKuba kwihlabathi esiphila kulo namhlanje baninzi abantu abadla ngokugxila kwizinto eziphathekayo nakwizinto zoqoqosho endaweni yokujonga imvakalelo yomanyano phakathi kwaba babini.
Kuyimpazamo enkulu ukucinga ukuba umthanda ngokwenyani umntu ngaphandle kokuba uhlale naye ngokwaneleyo, kuba sihlala sithandana nezinto ezilungileyo kunye nokulunga kweqabane lethu, kodwa xa benosuku olubi kwaye bacaphuke okanye babe lusizi imeko iqala ukutshintsha kancinci.
Esinye seziseko eziphambili zothando kukuthemba, nangona oku kufuneka kukhatshwe nezinye iintsika ezininzi ukuze zikwazi ukugcina ulwakhiwo olukhulu lwale mvakalelo imangalisayo umntu ngamnye akwaziyo ukuziva ebomini bakhe.
Ukuze sikwazi ukubona uthando lwethu lokwenene luyimfuneko teThatha ingqalelo kwizinto ezithile ezibaluleke ngokwenene, ke nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuzifumana, uziqonde, kwaye mhlawumbi zibaluleke kakhulu kuzo zonke ukuba zikhathalele ukuze imvakalelo ingalahleki ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Luthini uthando lokwenene?
Ukuze uqonde ukuba luyintoni na uthando lokwenene, kufuneka uqonde umntu wethu wangaphakathi, kuba kulapho uvakalelo luvela khona, njengamabinzana aqhelekileyo athi "Okokuqala kufuneka uzithande ukuze uthande abanye.
Kule mihla, abantu abaninzi banoluvo lothando olungenanto yakwenza nolu luchazayo, kuba into yokuqala abayikhangelayo ngumntu onazo izinto eziphathekayo kunye nezoqoqosho kwaye abanikeli ngqalelo kwiimvakalelo yeyona ibalulekileyo.
Iingcebiso zokuqonda uthando lokwenene
Xa le mvakalelo ibonakalisiwe ngokwenene kukho imiba ethile kunye nezimo zengqondo ezilahlwe ngokupheleleyo kuba ukuze zenziwe kufanelekile ukuba zombini zingenamiqathango kwaye kubekho imiqondiso yemida kunye nentlonipho ngazo.
Uthando lwenene aluzalwanga, lwenziwa
Le ngongoma ibaluleke kakhulu, njengabanye Batyekele ekukholelweni ukuba bayakufumana olwabo uthando lokwenene kwaye bayazi ukuba lolulungileyo ngosuku olunye kodwa enyanisweni kufuneka lwakhiwe kwaye wenze amava ahlala njengabantu abatshatileyo.
Olu hlobo lweemvakalelo alubonakali ngequbuliso, kodwa kufanele ukuba lwenziwe neqabane lethu emva kokuba nexesha lokuhlangana, ukuqonda kunye nenkxaso engenamiqathango, ukoyisa imiqobo ethiwe thaca njengeqela, kuba ngelixesha lokuqala ukuhlala kunye, Ekuphela kwendlela yokuba nobudlelane obuhle kukwakha ubunzima obungunaphakade.
Imida ethile kufuneka isekwe
Kuvakala kungaqhelekanga ukuthi kufanele kubekho imida xa uthanda, kodwa yeyona nto iqhelekileyo kumntu ngamnye emhlabeni ukuseka into abayifunayo kunye nendlela abafuna ngayo, ukuze umntu lowo ngelo xesha abe nendima Iqabane lethu lobomi kufuneka lihloniphe into esekwe. Ukuba ngaxa lithile kubudlelwane le mida ayihlonitshwa, oko kunokuthetha ukuba awunguye umntu olungileyo ukumthanda ngale ndlela.
Ukuthanda akufuneki
Ukuba wakhe waliva ilizwi elithi "ukusuka kuthando ukuzonda kukho inyathelo elinye kuphela" uya kukuqonda ngokulula ukuba kuthetha ntoni oku, kuba zizinto ezimbini ezahlukileyo kakhulu ukufuna umntu oza kubakhetha kunezinye izinto.
Xa abantu ababini bethandana ngokwenene, olo lwazi lubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, luye lukhethe nemali kunye neempahla ezinokuzinika.
Xa uthanda awunyanzeli
Iimfuno azinakuze zibonwe xa unothando, kuba Uthando lwenene kufuneka lusoloko lungenamiqathango. Ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuba wenze nantoni na, okanye ube ngendlela eyahlukileyo ukuze ukwazi ukukuthanda, kungenxa yokuba abayithethi ngokwenyani into abayithethayo okanye abakuniki ukubaluleka ngokwaneleyo.
Ukuthanda awuyidingi imiqathango
Njengoko sele kutshiwo amatyeli aliqela, iimeko azinakubakho xa umthanda ngokwenyani, kwaye umzekelo ocacileyo wale nto kukuba ngesiqhelo xa sithandana nomntu sihlala sikwenza ngazo zonke izinto ezilungileyo asinike zona. , kodwa xa ekhupha icala elimnyama analo wonke umntu, kulapho imvakalelo ilahlekileyo. Ukuthanda umntu ngokwenene, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba ubuxabise njani ubuchule kunye nobuthathaka babo.
Iingxaki azithintelwa, zisonjululwa
Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu ezinokubakho kubudlelwane bothando kukuzama ukunqanda iingxaki, kuba ngesiqhelo xa zisenza oku ziyonyuka kwaye zisenokuba mandundu kunokuba ufuna.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba nobudlelwane obuzinzileyo kukusombulula iingxaki kweyona ndlela iqolileyo, oko kukuthi, ngokuthetha ngayo. Khumbula ukuba xa ukunye nomntu omthandayo kwaye kungenjalo, akufuneki kubekho ucalucalulo okanye iimeko zantoni Ingxaki ekhoyo ingasombululwa ukuba bayayenza kunye.
Ukuba yonke le miba inokujongwa kubudlelwane bakho, kukho uthando lwenene, ke kungcono ukuba uqale uthethe kakhulu neqabane lakho, kwaye ujongane neengxaki kunye nezithintelo ezivela ekusebenzeni njengeqela, kwaye kuphela ngaloo ndlela Uyakwazi ukubona ukuba luthando lokwenene ngokwenene.
Ungakuphepha njani ukuphoxeka?
Nangona kuyinto eyaziwayo ngabantu abambalwa kakhulu, kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuba kweli hlabathi baninzi abantu, kwaye ukuze icace gca, uninzi lwabantu ludla ngokuba nomdla ekufumaneni izibonelelo kunye neempahla zezoqoqosho kwabanye abantu, ke xa kuziwa ukukhangela uthando kufuneka uqaphele kolu hlobo lwabantu.
Ukufunda ingcebiso yokwazisa uthando lwenene, kulula kakhulu ukumisela ukuba zeziphi iindlela zokuphepha umntu osiphoxa, kwaye yinto ekufuneka uyazi ukuba ujongana nayo, kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane ukuphoxeka okanye inkohliso, kunothando lokwenene.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokuphoxeka kunye nobudlelwane obuzinzileyo, kuba ukuze uqonde olu hlobo lobudlelwane kunyanzelekile ukuba umazi kakuhle umntu kwaye uphile nabo ixesha elide.
Imali yenza abantu babukeke
Ukuba ungumntu onee-asethi ezaneleyo zoqoqosho, okanye ubuncinci ubunomgangatho wobomi obuhle kwaye obonwa ngokulula, kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukubona abantu besondela kuwe kwaye babonise ukuba bayakuthanda xa ngokwenene befuna ukuthatha ithuba lakho.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda xa kukho imvakalelo enyanisweni, kwaye xa beyisebenzisa, kufuneka wazi ukuba kukho imbeko ngaphezulu kwazo zonke izinto, kwaye ukuba umntu ukhetha ukuba nawe ngaphandle kwemali yakho.
Okomzimba akubalulekanga
Ndiyabulela kwinkqubela phambili yetekhnoloji esetyenziswe kwimithombo yeendaba kwezi ntsuku kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubona kubantu abenza abafowunelwa ngothungelwano lwentlalo, amaphepha okuthandana kunye nokusetyenziswa kweselfowuni eyilelwe injongo enye, oko kukuthi ukufumana iqabane, into embi malunga nezi meko kukuba okwenyani kukhona ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, kuba yinto yokuqala eqaphelekayo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumzekelo kwabanye abantu ukuba bakuthande, kuba iimvakalelo zezona zibalulekileyo kwezi meko.