Sonke, ukuya kwinqanaba elincinci okanye elingaphezulu, sibe ngamaxhoba olawulo lolawulo lothando, lokuziva sinikwa yonke into kumntu ongasihoyiyo isipho esingazi nto. Namhlanje siza kubona amacala amabini engqekembe enye. Siza kuzibeka kwimeko yesi sibini apho omnye wabo engathandi ngokwaneleyo kwaye omnye umntu unika yonke into.
Kodwa ngaphambi koko, Ndiyakumema ukuba ubone mfutshane omangalisayo oveza ukuba luthini kunye nokusilela kothando okuqulathiweyo. Sisifundo esinokuqondwa nangumntwana omncinci.
Le vidiyo kufuneka ifakwe kuzo zonke izikolo ukuze ibe yinxalenye yesifundo, ekufuneka inyanzelekile, ibizwa njalo "Imfundo yemvakalelo":
UNOKUBA NOMDLA «Iingcebiso ezi-8 zokuphuma kuxinzelelo lothando»
Ngaba wakha walixhoba ebomini bakho uthando olungafunekiyo?
Ndikhe ndaziva ubunzima izihlandlo ezi-2. Bobabini babefunda nabo ekholejini kwaye babendithanda… njengomhlobo. Ngaba ikhona enye into ehlazo endodeni ngaphandle komfazi othandana naye ngokupheleleyo ekuxelela ukuba ndiyakuthanda kodwa njengomhlobo?!?!?!
Nangona kunjalo, kweli nqaku ndiza kugxila kuthando olufihlakeleyo ngakumbi olungafunekiyo: olo lwenzeka phakathi kwesi sibini.
Cinga ngezi ntlobo zimbini zobudlelwane
1) Umlingane wakho unawe kodwa akathandani nawe.
2) Iqabane lakho lithandana ngokupheleleyo nawe, kodwa awuthandani naye kakhulu.
Makhe ndikuxelele into. UAlberto, uqhawule umtshato, malunga neminyaka engama-45 ubudala. Wayetshatile iminyaka eyi-12 kodwa ekugqibeleni Ugqibezele ukushiya umfazi wakhe (uMaria) nangona ebemthanda kwaye bakunandipha ukuba kunye nabo. Nangona kunjalo, wayengamthandi kakhulu.
Emva kokwahlukana kwabo, wayenobudlelwane obuninzi nabanye abantu basetyhini kodwa ekugqibeleni wagqiba kwelokuba abuye noMaria.
"Ngulo mfazi ndifuna ukuhlala naye"watsho ngenye imini. Ndimkhumbuze ngento andixelele yona kwithuba eladlulayo, ukuba ebengamthandi ngokwaneleyo ukuba abenaye. Uphendule wathi, "Ewe, kodwa uyandithanda ngokungathi akukho mntu wakha wandithanda, kwaye yile nto ibalulekileyo kum." Ngapha koko, wabuza umfazi wakhe umbuzo: "Kutheni ufuna ukuba nam, usazi ukuba andikuthandi njengoko undithanda?" Uphendule wathi ukhetha ukuhlala nomntu amthandayo kakhulu hayi enye indlela. Wakhetha isikhundla sakhe kunokwakhe.
Ungakhetha oluphi ukhetho?
Ukuthatha olu khetho, yeyiphi onokuyikhetha? Ka-Alberto okanye kaMaría? Ndiyakholelwa ukuba iimpendulo ziya kwahlulwa.
Xa bethetha ngothando olungafunekiyo, abantu bahlala bebhekisa kumava abuhlungu esaziyo sonke. Nangona kunjalo, la matyala axhaphakanga kunalawo kukho izinto ezingafaniyo: xa abantu ababini bethandana, kodwa uhlobo kunye nokuqina kothando kwahlukile.
Njengakumzekelo wethu, ngelixa ethanda kakhulu, u-Alberto akamthandi kangako. Kukho inqaku lokuqina kothando ngezantsi apho kungafanelekanga ukuba kunye, kodwa iimvakalelo zakhe zingaphezulu kweli nqanaba.
Yazi umahluko kubunzulu bothando kunokuba buhlungu kuba kuthetha ukuba elinye lamaqabane kwesi sibini alithandwa kangako kwaye lithetha uhlobo oluthile lokwaliwa.
Ukungancedi kwimeko ka-Alberto kubhekisa kuyo nikezela iphupha lomntu elibalulekileyo: ukuthanda umntu. Nangona kunjalo, imeko yakhe ichasene: uyathandana kodwa usesichengeni kwaye akazithembanga kubudlelwane bakhe noAlberto.
UAlberto unolawulo olukhulu kwimeko, Unokuqhubeka nobudlelwane nanini na xa efuna, kuba uthando lomfazi wakhe phantse luqinisekisiwe. UAlberto uyalalanisa imeko yakhe yangoku, ukuze aqiniseke ngekamva lakhe. Umnika ulawulo lwekamva lakhe ukuze onwabele uthando olunzulu ngoku.
Abo bakhetha isikhundla akuso banethemba malunga nokukwazi kwabo ukutshintsha isimo seqabane labo ngakubo. Le ntembeko inxulumene nenkolelo ngokubanzi yokuba umhlaba ngokwawo uyalawuleka, kwaye nokukwazi kwakho ukulawula iziganeko ezijikelezileyo kukhethekile.
Ingqondo ka-Alberto icolile kunekaMaria. Nangona engonelisekanga amaxesha ngamaxesha nenyaniso yokuba alunamava okwenene, uthanda uthando lomfazi wakhe kwaye ikamva lakhe liqinisekisiwe. Imeko yakhe yengqondo ayizinzanga ncam njengoko ibandakanya ezona mvakalelo zinamandla (njengothando) kunye neemvakalelo ezingalunganga (ezinje ngokoyika nokudana). Uxinzelelo olunxulunyaniswa nolu ngquzulwano lweemvakalelo lunokuphela lumtshisa ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye uthando lwakhe ngo-Alberto lunokuncipha.
Abantu abanotyekelo lokuzingca kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhethe isikhundla sika-Alberto kuba bakholelwa ukuba abazukufumana bunzima ekufumaneni iqabane elitsha. Abantu abanengqiqo banokuya kwindima ka-Alberto, ngelixa abantu abathandanayo beya kwindima yomfazi.
Ubudala bunokuba yenye into efanelekileyo malunga noku: abantu abadala, iimvakalelo zabo zothando ziyancipha, bathambekele ekukhetheni imeko ka-Alberto kuba bakhetha "iqabane lothando."
Ngamafutshane, amaxesha amaninzi uthando olungenakulinganiswa phakathi kwezithandani, ke abathandi kufuneka bajongane nolwahluko.
Kwaye wena? Ungakhetha oluphi ukhetho?
"Abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ngakumbi ukuzivumela bathandwe kunokuba bafumane umntu obathandayo." UBill Russell
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