Iintloni azinanto yakwenza nokungeniswa. I-introvert ithatha isigqibo sokuzahlula kwabanye, kufuneka ichithe ixesha iyodwa ukuze iphinde ibenamandla kwaye iphucule iimvakalelo zayo. Ngokwahlukileyo, umntu oneentloni uchitha ixesha elininzi yedwa kunokuba ebengathanda kwaye iimvakalelo zabo zichaphazelekile. Uswele izakhono zentlalo kunye nezonxibelelwano ukuze akwazi ukunxibelelana ngempumelelo nabanye, into ebangela ukungazithembi kunye noloyiko oluninzi ekuhlaleni.
Umntu oneentloni akafuni ukuba njalo. Kungenxa yokuba ngokuba nesi simo sengqondo kubudlelwane nabanye, unengxaki kwaye iba kukuhla kokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo ayibavumeli ukuba banxibelelane nemekobume yabo ngendlela abangathanda ngayo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungumntu oneentloni kwaye ufuna ukunxibelelana nabanye, kodwa awazi ukuba ungayenza njani ... Ke esi sikhokelo sincinci sokuyeka ukuba neentloni siya kuba luncedo ukufezekisa injongo oyifunayo: Thetha ngakumbi nangcono kwaye ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuhamba noxinzelelo ngalo lonke ixesha uzama.
Jonga ukuba kutheni uneentloni
Oonobangela banokuba baninzi kwaye bahluka kodwa kuyafuneka uyazi ukuba kutheni ungumntu oneentloni kwaye kutheni unexesha elibi ngenxa yalo. Ukucinga ngesizathu sokuba neentloni kunokukunceda wazi kwaye wamkele eyona nto uyiyo. Umzekelo, ukuba ucinga ukuba uneentloni ngento eyenzeke kuwe kwakudala, kungalixesha lokufuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ukoyisa ezo meko kunye neenkumbulo. Nje ukuba ufunde ukwenza okwenzekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, Uyakwazi ukuqhubeka nobomi bakho kwaye woyise iimvakalelo zakho zentloni.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba inento yokwenza nemfundo yakho, jonga ubudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho ngoku. Ngaba zisalawula? Kungenjalo, ngaba baneentloni? Enye into enokwenzeka ukuba yenzeke ebuntwaneni bakho ekuchaphazelayo ekubeni umdala kukuba abanye abantu bakubiza ngokuba uneentloni. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantu baneentloni xa bebancinci, emva koko bayakhula kwaye bacinge ukuba kufuneka bahlale benjalo kuba yinxalenye yobuntu babo. Ngelishwa, abanye abantu banamathela kwilebhile kwaye baqhubeke nokuphatha abanye abo babajonga "njengeentloni" njengabantwana, nokuba ubuntu bakho buphelile. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ukuba neentloni yinto onokuyoyisa ebomini. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe yinto emileyo ehlala ngonaphakade.
Cinga "ngaphandle"
Ukuba neentloni kukukhathaza. Oku kuchazayo, akubalulekanga. Abantu abaneentloni banokuziva ngathi "abananto bangayithetha," ukuba kufuneka babe namabali amangalisayo abalisa kwaye babe bubomi kunye nobomi beqela. Kodwa khawucinge ngoku: Ukoyisa ukuba neentloni akuthethi kuthi upholile ngequbuliso. Oku ngakumbi kukuzilibala kwaye ujonge ngaphandle.
Buza imibuzo kwaye uhlakulele umdla wokwenene. Ukuba usepatini nabantu ongabaziyo, zama ukudibanisa ukuba wonke umntu wazi njani. Unokubuza imibuzo efana nale: "Umazi njani uJaime?" (ukuba nguye owaququzelela ipati). Xa uqala incoko nomnye umntu, uya kuba nento yokuthetha, kufuneka unike abanye ithuba lokuthetha ngeziqu zabo kwaye uthathe ingqalelo kude nawe.
Beka imaski yentlalo
Inyathelo lokuqala lokuba nentlalontle ngakumbi kukubeka imaski yentlalontle. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ubengumntu ongeyonyani kunye nabo bakungqongileyo, kude nayo. Ngomaski wentlalo unokuba nguwe ngaphandle koloyiko okanye ukungazithembi. Ithetha ngantoni xa uthetha nabanye ngokungathi ungumntu ophumayo, umntu okwaziyo ukuqala incoko ngaphandle kokuziva esoyika.
Unokucinga ukuba oku akunakwenzeka kuwe ngoku, kodwa akukho nto inokuthi iqhubeke nenyaniso. Kuya kufuneka ujonge indlela abo bantu ubathandayo badibana ngayo nabanye, emva koko wenze okufanayo. Imfihlo kukuba, ngaphezulu kwako konke, kukwazi ukuba uthini ngaphandle kokugqitha. Ungabuza ukuba umntu uyithenge phi ihempe ayinxibileyo kuba uyawuthanda umbala okanye ucinga ngaso nasiphi na esinye isihloko esinokukhokelela ekuqaleni kwengxoxo.
Ngale ndlela, kunokuba nzima kuwe ukuba uthathe inyathelo lokuqala, kodwa nje ukuba uyenze kwaye uyifumane, uyakuqonda ukuba ayisiyonto inzima kwaye amaxesha alandelayo aya kuba lula kwaye alula. Uyakuqonda ukuba "nge-mask" leyo eneneni izenza ngathi uyathandwa, kancinci kancinci iya kuba yinxalenye yakho, kude kube ekugqibeleni, akufuneki unxiba imaski kunxibelelwano lwakho lwasentlalweni kuba iya kuba yinxalenye yobuntu bakho.
Kufuneka uzilungiselele
Nje ukuba iintloni ziphele, awuzukufuna ukwenza oku; Kodwa ngelixa uziva uneentloni, ziqhelise ukulungiselela ukuqala incoko. Ukuba unoluvo lohlobo lwabantu abaza kubakho entlanganisweni, kuya kufuneka wenze "umsebenzi wakho wasekhaya". Ukuba uninzi lwabo ngabathandi bokuhamba ngesikhephe, umzekelo: uGoogle iklabhu yendawo yokuhamba ngeenqanawa, fumana iindlela zalapha ekhaya, lungiselela imibuzo oza kuyibuza malunga nokuhamba ngesikhephe. Ukuba uziva uneentloni emsebenzini, khangela iindaba ezinomdla Ngempelaveki kwaye ndibenazo ngencoko ngoMvulo.
Kuya kufuneka uqhele ukukhumbula into abantu abakuxelele ukuba uyenze njengeziqalo zencoko ezizayo ... nangona khumbula ukuba ukoyisa iintloni akuthethi nje ngaphezulu, Yimvakalelo ekufuneka ivuke ngaphakathi kwakho.
Ulwimi olungathethiyo nalo lukwabalulekile
Abantu abaneentloni bahlala bechongwa gwenxa njengabangenabuhlobo, abakude, okanye "abomileyo." Ukuba neentloni kunokusenza sibonakale singenakufikeleleka. Ukuba uncume ngakumbi uya kuba nomtsalane ngakumbi kwabanye kwaye Kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuqala incoko nabanye abantu abancumayo.
Olunye uncedo kukuba ukumomotheka nokuba awuziva mnandi kwaphela, kukuba olo ncumo lunokulenza lube yinto yokwenene kuba uya kuziva ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba izinto zihamba ngcono, ingqondo yakho iya kucinga ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle. Inqaku elibalulekileyo apha: ukuba uncuma umntu kwaye naye angancumisi, ayisiyongxaki yakho leyo. Awunakho ukwenza ukuba nabani na amkele ububele bethu kodwa ayifanelanga ukuthatha amandla akho.