Wonke umntu uvile ukuba umbono wokuqala ubaluleke kakhulu, akunjalo? Ngokwenzululwazi, le ngcamango ayisiyonto nje ethandwayo, njengoko abantu besenza ezabo izimvo malunga nabanye ngokubona iinkcukacha ezinje ngomzimba, ithoni yelizwi, kunye nesimo sengqondo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza umbono wokuqala kwabanye. Ngaba uyafuna ezinye iingcebiso zokukufeza? Jonga oku kulandelayo iingcebiso ezintlanu.
1) Khathalela indlela yakho yokuthetha.
Ngendlela yethu yokuvakalisa izimvo zethu sinako Dlulisa ukuzithemba, ububele, ubukrelekrele, ukuba ndlongondlongo, ukungakhathali ...
Ke ukuba ufuna ukwenza umbono wokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba unake ezinye iinkcukacha xa unxibelelana nabanye.
Abantu abathetha kancinci kancinci, umzekelo, banokubonakala ngathi bazithembile, Ngelixa eyona thoni inamandla inxulunyaniswa nabona bantu babalaseleyo nabanobundlongondlongo. Ke eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuthetha ngokucacileyo nangokuzithemba, kwaye usebenzise ithoni enobuhlobo, engoyikisi.
Ukongeza, indlela esishukuma ngayo ingabonisa uloyiko okanye ukuzithemba.
Umsebenzi awukho lula, kodwa ngokuziqhelanisa noko okuncinci ungafunda ukulungelelanisa ubungakanani belizwi kunye nelizwi lakho ngengqondo ukuze abanye bazive bebandakanyeka kwaye banike ingqalelo ngakumbi kwinto oyithethayo. Kwaye ungalibali ukuncuma!
2) Jonga emehlweni am.
Kuya kufuneka jonga emehlweni e-interlocutor yakho ngendlela yendalo, ngaphandle kokwenza uzive ungonwabanga.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abantu abangabajonganga ngamehlo abo babanxibelelana nabo bajongwa njengabangenangqondo kangako kunabo banolwazi lokusebenzisa kakuhle ukudibana kwamehlo.
Nangona kunjalo, Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani "esi sixhobo." Ukulungisa ukujonga kwethu komnye umntu ngokungenasiphelo akuyi kukwenza ube yingqondi. Ngapha koko, bathi ii-psychopaths zidibana ngamehlo neepateni ezingaqhelekanga.
3) Ukuxhawulana ngesandla.
Sele sithethile ngaphakathi Recursos de Autoayuda sobre cómo dar la mano. Nangona kubonakala ngathi ibhanal kwaye ilula, ukuxhawulana kunokukhunjulwa ixesha elide kwaye inokudlulisa izinto ezininzi ngawe. Kungenxa yokuba lo mbuliso unokudlulisa ulwazi oluhambelana nememori yokubamba.
Ke ngokusisiseko ukubanjwa ngesandla kuqinile, kushushu kwaye 'komile', Oko kuthetha ukuba akufuneki ikhululeke, okanye yomelele kakhulu. Kuya kufuneka unyaniseke (kwaye ukudibana kakuhle kwamehlo kungahamba indlela ende kule meko).
4) Khathalela inkangeleko yakho.
Umntu ngamnye unesitayile sakhe kodwa abantu bayikhathalele indlela umntu anxibe ngayo ukwenza umbono wokuqala waloo mntu.
Kukho izifundo ezininzi phaya ezibonisa ukuba sigweba abanye ngokusekwe kwinkangeleko yabo.
Ucoceko ikwayinto enokuthi ichaphazele kakuhle okanye ngokungalunganga ekuyileni umbono wokuqala, ke kuya kufuneka uhlale uzilungisa kakuhle.
Kwimeko yabantu abancinci, isifundo safumanisa ukuba ubude beenwele nobukho beendevu bunokuchaphazela ukuqonda kwabantu. Ngokubanzi, iinwele ezimfutshane zithandeka ngakumbi, ngelixa "iintsuku ezintathu" iindevu zizinto ezimbini ezinomtsalane kwabasetyhini.
5) Bonisa umdla.
Kunzima kakhulu ukwenza umbono olungileyo ukuba asenzi ubudlelwane bokuthembana emnxebeni wokuqala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukumamela into ethethwa ngomnye umntu kwaye uzame ukunxibelelana nabo.
Indlela elungileyo yokubonisa umdla kukufunda ngakumbi malunga nezinto ozithandayo kunye namabhongo.
Ngendlela, ulumke ungabi wedwa kwingxoxo Kungenxa yokuba endaweni yokuhambisa ubushushu nobubele, elinye icala linokucinga ngawe njengokulawula negunya. Ukuba umntu ohleli nawe unomdla kule nto uyithethayo, ungaxela ngakumbi ngobomi bakho.
Inqaku ngalinye linditsala ukuba ndililandele. Enkosi.
Ukunyaniseka, ububele, ukunyaniseka kuyahambisana. Ucoceko lusisiseko, ngumdibaniso, ngomlomo, ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemoyeni ukuze lube yinto efanelekileyo.