Yini umlingiswa omuhle futhi uchazwa kanjani?

Sonke sinomlingiswa ohlukile, lowo osichaza njengabantu abahlukile futhi ongabunjwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuphilwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kungaba nohlamvu olunamandla noma olukhanyayo, kepha yini eqinisekile wukuthi isimilo esinaso sisenza sihluke emhlabeni.

Okulandelayo sifuna ukukhuluma ngalezo zici ezingakwenza ube nomlingiswa omuhle. Ngale ndlela, ngokwazi ukuthi yiziphi izici eziyizici, uzokwazi ukusebenzela uhlamvu lwakho uma kunesidingo ukuze ulubumbe futhi ube ngumuntu obaluleke kakhulu kuwe nakwabanye.

Yini umlingiswa omuhle

Ingabe unalezi zimfanelo kumlingiswa wakho? Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ungabuthuthukisa ubuntu bakho? Isimo esihle sifaka izici ezinjengokwethembeka, ukwethembeka, isibindi, ubuqotho, amandla, nezinye izimfanelo ezibalulekile ezikhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle.

Umuntu onesimilo esihle ukhetha ukwenza okulungile ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi kulungile ukwenza lokho. Ezinye izici ezinhle zezimilo azihlobene neze nokuziphatha, kepha kusachaza isimilo somuntu. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuqina noma ukudala kungaba yizimpawu ezinhle kepha akuzona izindlela zokuziphatha.

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Lapho umuntu enesimilo esihle, kukhonjiswa ngamazwi nangezenzo zakhe. Akukhawulelwe kunani elilodwa, kepha izici ziyakhonjiswa ekukhetheni "okuhle" abakwenzayo nasezinkingeni "ezimbi" abazigwemayo.

Kungani isimilo esihle sibalulekile?

Ngokwesazi-mlando uWarren Susman, ukusetshenziswa kwegama elithi "isimilo esihle" kwafinyelela phezulu ngekhulu le-XNUMX. "Uhlamvu kwakuyigama eliyisihluthulelo esilulumagama samaNgisi nabaseMelika", USusman uthi, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu emphakathini lokho yaphakanyiswa njengengxenye ebalulekile yobunikazi bomuntu.

Izinto zaqala ukushintsha ngekhulu lama-XNUMX, njengoba sisuka emphakathini okhiqizayo saya kokudla. Ukugcizelelwa kususwe ekugxileni ebuhleni nasekulungeni kwagxila kuzinto ezibonakalayo nasezintweni ezibonakalayo. USusman uthi: "Umbono wokuzidela uqale ukulandela lowo wokuzibona ngokwakho."

Kwaba okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlakulela izici zobuntu, ithonya, nemibono yangaphandle kunokuthuthukisa ukuhlonipheka kwenhliziyo, ingqondo nezenzo. Eqinisweni, u-Abraham Lincoln cishe akasoze akhethwa njengomongameli namuhla. Kulesi sikhathi sobuxhwanguxhwangu be-inthanethi nokungezwani kwezepolitiki, izici ezinhle zobuntu zibonakala zilahlekelwa ukuhambisana kwazo.

Ingabe ukuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo zomuntu siqu zobuhle nobuhle kuwukuphishekela okuphelelwe yisikhathi futhi okungenamsebenzi kokuncane okubalulekile emphakathini wanamuhla? Akuthathi ulwazi oluningi lwempilo ukuthola ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani izimfanelo zobuqotho uma kukhulunywa ngokuzethemba, ubudlelwano nokweneliseka kwempilo.

Ezinye izici zobuntu obuhle kungaba okulandelayo:

• Isiza ukwakha inhlonipho nokwethembela kwabanye.
• Khuthaza futhi uvuselele umlingiswa ongcono kwabanye.
• Yakha ukuzethemba nokuzethemba.
• Nikeza ngohlaka lokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile nezinqumo.
• Khombisa izimfanelo zobuholi emizamweni yomuntu siqu neyobungcweti.
• Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubuhle bomuntu ngamunye buyisihluthulelo somphakathi onempilo futhi osebenzayo.

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Izici zobuntu ezinhle

Ngezansi uzothola ezinye zezici ezivame kakhulu zezinhlamvu ukuze uqale ukwenza ngcono impilo yakho.

• Ubuqotho.  Ubuqotho yisici somuntu siqu esinezimiso zokuziphatha eziqinile nezindinganiso ezisemqoka bese sihola impilo yakho nayo njengomhlahlandlela wakho.
• Ukuthembeka Ukwethembeka kuyisici esihle esingaphezu kokukhuluma iqiniso. Kuphila iqiniso. Kuqondile futhi kuthembekile kukho konke ukuxhumana kwakho, ubudlelwano, nemicabango. Ukwethembeka kudinga ukwethembeka nobuqiniso.
• Ukwethembeka. Ukwethembeka kuyindlela yokuziphatha yokwethembeka nokuzinikela kwabathandekayo bakho, abangane bakho, nanoma ngubani onobudlelwano bokuthembana naye.
• Ngiyahlonipha. Ngale mfanelo yobuntu, uziphatha wena nabanye ngenhlonipho, umusa, ukuhlonipha, isithunzi, nenhlonipho. Nikeza inhlonipho eyisisekelo njengophawu lokuthi ufanelekile ukuthi ufanele bonke abantu namandla akho okwamukela amaphutha esinawo sonke.

• Isibopho. Le mfanelo eyehlukile yamukela izibopho zomuntu siqu, ezobudlelwano, ezobuchwepheshe, ezomphakathi nezenhlalo, noma ngabe kunzima noma kungathandeki. Lesi sici somuntu siqu sigcwalisa ukuzibophezela futhi sakha noma samukele isibopho ngokuziphatha kwabo nokukhetha kwabo.
• Ukuthobeka Awuziboni "ulunge kakhulu" kwabanye abantu noma ezimeni. Ngalesi sici esihloniphekile, unengqondo yokufunda nokukhula futhi unesifiso sokuveza nokuzwa ukubonga ngalokho onakho, kunokulindela ukuthi ufanelwe okungaphezulu.
• Ububele. Lesi sibonelo sezimpawu zobuntu sinokuzwelana okujulile nesihawu ngokuhlupheka namashwa abanye, futhi sinesifiso sokwenza okuthile ukudambisa ukuhlupheka kwabo.
• Ubulungiswa. Kusetshenziswa ukuqonda, uzwela, nobuqotho, lesi sici somlingiswa silwela ukwenza izinqumo futhi sithathe isenzo ngokuya ngokuthi kubhekwa njengenkambo engcono kakhulu noma umphumela wokugcina wabo bonke abathintekayo.
• Intethelelo. Wenza izinqumo eziqondayo nezinenhloso ukubeka eceleni intukuthelo nentukuthelo kothile ngecala, noma ngabe owonile ufuna ukuxolelwa noma cha. Ukuthethelelwa kungafaka noma kungabandakanyi ukuthethelelwa, ukubuyiselwa, noma ukubuyisana. Ludlulela nakwabanye kanye nakuwe uqobo.
• Ubuqiniso Uyakwazi ukukhombisa ukuba sengozini efanele nokuzazi. Ukhombisa ubuntu bakho bangempela ngaphandle kokwesaba.
• Isibindi. Ngaphandle kokwesaba ingozi, ukungaphatheki kahle, noma ubuhlungu, le mfanelo enhle yomuntu idinga ukuqina kwengqondo ukulandela ngokuzibophezela, ukuhlela, noma ngesinqumo, wazi ukuthi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza.
• Ukuphikelela Ukubekezela kuyisici somlingiswa sokuphikelela njalo nokuzimisela ukuqhubeka nenkambo yesenzo, inkolelo, noma inhloso, noma ngabe kunzima noma kungathandeki ukufeza umgomo noma umphumela ophakeme.