«Izindlela ezingama-50 zokwenza impilo yakho ibe lula», ngu-P. Fanning

Ukunikeza injongo empilweni yethu akudingi izinguquko ezinkulu endleleni yethu yokuphila: ubulula buzalwa ngoshintsho lwangaphakathi.

Kule ncwadi uzothola amasu ama-50 amafushane wenguquko yomuntu siqu esheshayo. Umhlahlandlela walabo abafuna ukufunda ukwazisa okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuhlakulela ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu, nokufeza ukuphepha ekhaya, emsebenzini, nasempilweni yabo engokomoya.

Impilo elula ayisho ukumane udle isitsha esiyisicefe selayisi elimhlophe nsuku zonke futhi uhlale ugqoke ihembe lasekhaya ... Yize ngokuqinisekile akudingeki kube nzima kakhulu kunalokho.

Kule ncwadi uPatrick Fanning noHeather Garnos Mitchener basikhombisa ukuthi ukuphila impilo elula kungeke kusinikeze ukugcwaliseka okungenzeka ukuthi besingakwazi nokukucabanga, kepha ukukufeza, ngesikhathi esifanayo njengokuzuzisayo, kulula ngokumangazayo. Ngalokhu, bobabili ababhali basebenzisa i- izinsizakusebenza nokuzivocavoca okususelwa ku-psychology yokuziphatha kwengqondo: Umphumela uba ngamasu angama-50 esizofunda ngawo ukushintsha izimpilo zethu futhi sithole ibhalansi ehlala njalo.

Izinsiza ezingama-50 zethu, abafundi bazo, ukuze sikwazi ukuqonda okubaluleke kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu, beka phambili okubaluleke kakhulu futhi ugweme ukuchitha isikhathi namandla ngokungadingekile. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho sizokwazi ukuthi sithatha kanjani izinqumo ezihlakaniphe kakhulu ukuze sikwazi ukuhlala ngokuvumelana nezwe elisizungezile.

Ngikushiyela okukhishwe encwadini okukhombisa kahle kakhulu incazelo yayo:

Njengoba udela izinto eziningi, kukhona ongakwenza kahle ukukugcina: uthando lwakhoUzodinga. Lapho uqala ukwenqaba ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo, unciphisa izindleko zakho, futhi wehlisa izinga lempilo yakho, abanye abantu bayoba nokusabela okungekuhle kusuka kumahlaya ahloniphekile kuya kubutha obucacile. Kungani? Ngoba bazozizwa becasukile, bekhathazekile futhi besatshiswa.

Abangane bakho bangakholelwa ukuthi ubabukela phansi ngenxa yesimo sakho esiphakeme sokuziphatha. Umlingani wakho angase esabe ukuthi uzomhudula ukuze aphile kabuhlungu ekamelweni elingashisi ehlathini. Abazali bakho, abaziqhenya kakhulu ngezinto eziningi ozifezile, bangaqala ukucabanga ukuthi uyehlisa ijubane. Futhi izingane zakho zingacabanga ukuthi usuphenduke isiqubu ngokuzumayo.

Uma uhlangabezana nalokhu kusabela, kungenzeka ukuthi kungenxa yokuthi abanye babona ngentshisekelo yakho ekwenzeni inselelo ibe lula ezimpilweni zabo: usho ukuthini, ukuthi uzosebenzisa imali encane uthenge izinto ezingatheni kepha ube nekhwalithi ephezulu yempilo ? Usho ukuthini, ukuthi uzokwenza lula ubudlelwane bakho futhi unake kakhulu impilo yakho yangaphakathi? Yini ekwenza ukhethe kangaka? Uzodinga uthando oluthile ukuze uhlale endleleni efanele. "