Izindlela eziyi-10 zokwenza ngcono ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa

Wonke umuntu uhlala ekhuluma nge- Ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo (IE), kepha yini ngempela?

Isici esibalulekile sokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo yikhono lokubona, ukulawula nokuhlola imizwa - kuwe nakwabanye - bese usebenzisa leyo mininingwane ngokufanele.

Isibonelo, ukuqashelwa kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo kukodwa kungasiza ukulawula nokulawula imizwa yakho ngaphezu kokubona imizwa kwabanye uthanda ukuthuthukiswa kozwela kanye nempumelelo ebudlelwaneni bakho, bobabili nobuntu.

Ngokunikezwa kokubaluleka kobuhlakani bezemizwa, ngicabange ukuthi kungasiza ukunikeza ukubuka konke okuningana kwesihloko, kanye nokusungula Izindlela eziyi-10 zokuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa.

Ngo-1990, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezi-2 zaseYale, uJohn D. Mayer noPeter Salovey, zaqamba leli gama elithi intelligence intelligence, abanye abacwaningi abathi liyisici esizalwa naso, kanti abanye basikisela ukuthi lingathuthukiswa ngokuholwa ngendlela efanele. Ngivumelana nazo zombili izikole futhi, kusobala, nesesibili.

Akunakwenzeka ukuthi wonke umuntu abe nodokotela wezifo zengqondo. Kepha ungaba ngumelaphi wakho. Konke kuqala ngokufunda ukulalela imizwa yakho. Yize kungelula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthuthukisa ikhono lokuvumelana nemizwa yakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala futhi mhlawumbe esibaluleke kakhulu.

Izindlela eziyi-10 zokwenza ngcono ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa.

1) Ungayibalekeli imizwa yakho.

Uma imizwa ingakhululekile, musa ukuyibalekela. Misa okungenani kanye ngosuku ukuzindla bese ubuza: "Ngizizwa kanjani?"

2) Ungahluleli noma uhlele imizwa yakho ngokushesha okukhulu.

Zama ukungayijezisi imizwa yakho ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokucabanga ngayo. Kukhona ezinye imizwa engemihle lokho kungasisiza sikhule uma sikwazi ukuzisingatha. Kumele sibahlaziye kube sengathi besingumqapheli wangaphandle, sinelukuluku, sizibuze ukuthi kungani bekhona, basilimaza kanjani, yini enhle esingayikhipha kubo.

3) Thola ukuxhumana phakathi kwemizwa yakho.

Lapho kuvela umuzwa onzima, zibuze, "Ngiwuzwe nini lo muzwa ngaphambilini?" Zama ukukhumbula ukuthi weqe kanjani kulowo muzwa, yiziphi izindlela ozisebenzisile.

4) Funda ukuphatha imizwa exubile.

Izikhathi eziningi imizwa yethu iyaphikisana. Lokho kuvamile. Ukulalela imizwa yakho kufana nokulalela bonke ofakazi ecaleni lasenkantolo. Vuma kuphela ubufakazi obuzoholela esinqumweni esingcono.

5) Lalela umzimba wakho.

Ifindo esiswini sakho ngenkathi ushayela uya emsebenzini kungaba inkomba yokuthi umsebenzi wakho ungumthombo wengcindezi. I-flutter enhliziyweni yakho lapho ubona intombazane / noma kungaba ukuqala kwento enkulu.

6) Lawula izinga lakho lokucindezeleka.

Uma izinga lokucindezeleka liphezulu, kulula kuwe ukuba nemizwa eyeqile. Ikhono elibalulekile lokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo yikhono lokwehlisa umoya lapho uzizwa ukhungathekile. Leli khono lokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo lisiza ukugcina ukulinganisela kwengqondo.

7) Sebenzisa amahlaya nokudlala ukubhekana nezinselelo.

Amahlaya, ukuhleka nokudlala kuyizindlela zemvelo zokulwa nobunzima bempilo. Zenza lula imithwalo yethu futhi zisisize sigcine imicimbi ngendlela efanele. Ukuhleka okuhle kunciphisa ukucindezeleka, kukhuphule imizwa, futhi kulinganise uhlelo lwethu lwezinzwa.

8) Xazulula izingxabano zakho ngendlela enhle.

Izingxabano nokungavumelani akunakugwenywa ebudlelwaneni. Abantu ababili abakwazi ukuba nezidingo, imibono, kanye nokulindela okufanayo ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Kodwa-ke, lokhu akudingeki ukuthi kube yinto embi. Ukuxazulula izingxabano ngendlela enempilo futhi eyakhayo kungaqinisa ukwethembana phakathi kwabantu. Lapho ukungqubuzana kungathathwa njengesongo noma isijeziso, kuvuna inkululeko, ubuhlakani kanye nokuvikeleka ebudlelwaneni.

9) Bhala imicabango nemizwa yakho.

Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukubhala phansi imicabango nemizwa kungabasiza kakhulu abantu.

10) Ungazinaki ngemizwa engemihle.

Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukukhuthaza abantu ukuthi bahlaziye ngokweqile imizwa engemihle kungakhuphula imizwa emibi. Ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo akubandakanyi nje kuphela ikhono lokubheka ngaphakathi, kodwa futhi nokuba khona ezweni elikuzungezile.