Ubuwazi ukuthi ingqondo nolimi kungahle kwenziwe kabusha? Lokhu kwenziwa yi Uhlelo lwe-Neuro-linguistic, ukusebenza emzimbeni nasengqondweni yabantu ukuze amandla amakhulu afinyelelwe ukuze kufezwe izinhloso ezindaweni zebhizinisi, ubudlelwano, imizwa, ezemidlalo, njll. Yingakho yaziwa njengesayensi yokuvelela komuntu.
Bekulokhu kukhula ezikhathini zamuva nje, mhlawumbe ngenxa yentshisekelo ekuziphatheni komuntu, I-PNLNgokwesifinyezo sayo, ayakhiwe ngokususelwa kumibono, iyasebenza ngokuphelele, ibukisa indlela yokuziphatha kuzo zonke izici zayo futhi izama ukuchaza ukuthi ubuchopho bethu busebenza kanjani namaphethini esinawo, lokhu kusivumela ukuthi sizazi ngokujule.
Ngokwazi izindlela zethu zobuchopho nezimpendulo esizikhipha ezimweni esingakwazi, ngamasu athile, siphenduke esingakuthandi noma esingazikuthuthukisas. Sifunda ukusetshenziswa okufanele kwezokuxhumana ukuze sandise ukusebenza ngobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu.
Kusukela yaqala, uhlelo lwe-neurolinguistic selusetshenziselwe ukwelapha izingqinamba ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi: ukukhathazeka, ama-phobias, ukucindezeleka okuthuthumelayo, ukwethuka, izinkinga zokuxhumana, ubuntu bomngcele, ukunakwa kokushoda kokukhathazeka, ukudangala, ukulutha, ukuthatheka kanye nokuphoqelelwa.
Lesi siyalo sephulwe kanjena:
Ukuhlela: i-cybernetics kanye ne-mathematics, njengoba abathuthukisi bayo uRichard Bandler (usosayensi wekhompyutha nodokotela wezifo zengqondo) noJohn Grinder (uprofesa waseyunivesithi wezilimi) beqinisekisa ukuthi sihlelwa yizinkumbulo zethu kanye nokufunda kwethu, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kanye nezinkolelo ezikhiqiza amaphethini wokuziphatha.
I-Neuro: nge-neurology, ehlola izingqondo nezingcingo ze-neural, ngoba singazenza zingasebenzi lezi zinhlelo futhi sisebenzise ezinye ezinhle kakhulu.
Izilimi: Ivumela ukucacisa ngokujule ukuthi umuntu ungubani ngokusebenzisa ulimi.
Singabaqonda kanjani kangcono abanye abantu
Kuvame ukuba nobunzima ekuxhumaneni, lokhu kwenzeka ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kepha ikakhulukazi kumayelana nokungabi kulayini ofanayo nomunye umuntu. Ukuyiqonda kangcono: ngayinye inezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokubona imininingwane, yize sisebenzisa zonke izinzwa ukuyifanisa, kuhlale kunenye ezonqoba enye, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi izinhlelo ezimele:
Kubonakala: kuneqembu labantu elinaka ngokukhethekile imininingwane ebonakalayo lapho izinkumbulo zithatha khona isithombe. Laba bantu bafanelwe ukubonwa ngamehlo komuntu abakhuluma naye. Bajwayele ukukhuluma ngokushesha futhi imvamisa benza lokho begxuma ngokushesha esihlokweni. (Uhlelo Lwesiyingi).
Ukuhlolwa: yilabo bantu abakhumbula kangcono amagama nemisindo, bebona ulimi lwabo luthonywe yimigomo yokuzwa. (Uhlelo oluqondile).
Umnyakazo: Yilapho iqembu lingena khona lapho izinkumbulo zabo zigxile ekuzweleni, kungaba ngokomzimba, ngokudla, ngokuthambeka, ngokuthinta, kubo ukuthintana ngokomzimba kubalulekile. (Uhlelo lwenethiwekhi).
Kulungile manje Uma sifuna ukuqonda kangcono abanye abantu, kubalulekile ukuthi siqonde ukuthi yiluphi uhlelo lokumelela abalusebenzisayo, ngakho-ke singakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nolimi lwakho ukuze konke kube nokushelela okukhulu.
Sebenzisa i-Neuro-Linguistic Programming ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano bakho
Kuthiwani uma ekutshela lokho konke okufunayo empilweni yakho kusezandleni zakho? Yebo, kunjalo, ngokusebenzisa amathuluzi we-Neuro-Linguistic Programming singafinyelela ushintsho olukhulu empilweni yethu, lokhu kuhlobene kakhulu noMthetho Wokuheha.
Kukhona uchungechunge lokuzivocavoca olungenziwa kokubili ukufeza izinhloso zomuntu njengalezo ezihlobene nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu. Ake siqale ngathi kuqala. Okunye kokuzivocavoca okufanele kwenziwe kubizwa ngokuthi: Chofoza Iphethini, umsebenzi wawo oyinhloko ukufaka isithombe esingesihle somqondo ngengqondo enhle.
Cabanga isikhashana ngaleso sici sempilo yakho lapho ungakhiqizi khona noma okukudikibalisayo, ngokwesibonelo ukuya ekilasini noma ukutadisha, bheka isithombe esiza ebuchosheni bakho, ubuvila nokudelela kukuhlasela, mhlawumbe Cabanga ukumpofu imiphumela yokuhlolwa.
Manje engqondweni yakho shintsha isithombe bese ucabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukukuzwa lapho uya emakilasini noma ufunda, isibonelo, zicabange usemoyeni wokuya, ukubingelela osebenza nabo nabangane, uzibonele wena kuleso simo esimnandi futhi ucabange nangokuthi uzizwe lapho uthola ibanga elihle, yenza lokho kumelwa kwengqondo kube ngcono ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukujabula ngesethulo sakho, thatha ikhefu bese ubuyela esithombeni sokuqala, leso sokudikibala, bheka ngephuzu phakathi noma kwelinye lamakhona alo, lelo phuzu limele isithombe esihle, manje ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ngomsindo Ukuqhafaza kunweba iphuzu kuze kube kugcwalisa sonke isithombe esibi bese kufakwa isithombe esihle.
Yenza lo msebenzi uze ungabe usaba ngumzamo, kepha ungakhohlwa ukufaka isithombe esibi ngokubeka ichashazi bese usikhulisa size sigcwalise isithombe sonke. Lokhu kuvivinya kuzoshintsha ngokuphawulekayo isithombe owawunaso njalo lapho kufanele uye ekilasini noma ufunde. Ungakwenza futhi ngesinye isimo sempilo yakho lapho unenkinga khona. Ngale ndlela wenza kabusha lokho ingqondo yakho ekutshela khona ngalokho.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma inhloso yethu ukudala ukuvumelana okuhle nokuxhumana ngesikhathi sokuxhumana nomunye umuntu, singasebenzisa ubudlelwano, esebenza ngesixhumanisi esiphakathi kokubili noma ngaphezulu, kushuni ovumelekile ukuze ushintsho lwenzeke kunoma yiziphi izingxenye. Kungaleso sikhathi-ke, ithuluzi elincike ekusetshenzisweni kwezici ezinjengokuthi: ukushukuma komzimba nokuma komzimba, ithoni nokushesha kwezwi, ukuphefumula, izinhlelo zokumelela, phakathi kwabanye, kungafinyelela kumthelela komunye umuntu. Lokhu kwenziwa ngezinyathelo ezimbili: ukulinganisa nokuhambahamba.
Into yokuqala ukuzilinganisela ngokomzimba, silinganise ukuphefumula kwethu nokwomunye umuntu, sicabangele ukushukuma komzimba nokuma kwabo; Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba sishilo ngaphambili, kufanele sinqume ukuthi isebenzisa luphi uhlelo lokumelela.
Lapho sinalolo lwazi, sekuyisikhathi sokuhamba, lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngobuqili, ukubuka ukunyakaza nokuziphatha komuntu. Sisebenzisa uhlelo lwaso lokumelela futhi simnxusa ukuthi ajwayele, ngaphandle kokwazi kwakhe kithina. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi iyasebenza yini singenza ukunyakaza okuncane ukubona ukuthi omunye umuntu uyakwenza yini futhi.
Ngakho-ke, ngalezi nezinye izindlela ezinikezwa yi Ukuhlelwa kwe-Neurolinguistic noma i-NLP Singakwazi ukwenza ngcono izici ezithile zempilo yethu, noma ngabe sezivele zisungulwe kulwazi lwethu. Khumbula ukuthi ingqondo ingenziwa kabusha.