Ungaphuma kanjani ekucindezelekeni uphinde uthole injabulo yakho

La ukucindezeleka kungenye yezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ezikhona. Akulula nakancane ukuphuma ekucindezelekeni, kuba nzima kakhulu uma ungenakho ukwesekwa. Ngamafuphi lokhu kuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukudabuka okujulile, ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukungabi nentshisekelo kukho konke nokungasebenzi kahle kwengqondo kukhona. Lapho lesi sifo sivela, kudinga usizo lochwepheshe.

Uma usesimweni sokucindezeleka okujulile, akuthinteki kuphela isimo sakho esingokomzwelo. Lesi sifo siphinde sibonakale esimweni somzimba. Ngoba umuntu uzizwa edangele, engenaso isifiso sokudla futhi kwesinye isikhathi enenkinga yokudla efana ne-anorexia. Okubi kakhulu kwecala kulapho i- imicabango yokuzibulala, okuyilapho lesi sifo sesivele simbi kakhulu.

Ukuphuma ekucindezelekeni kukodwa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu?

Akuyona inketho enhle kakhulu futhi ayisoze yaba njalo. Ngoba uma usesimweni sokucindezeleka, abantu abazenzi izinqumo ezinhle kakhulu. Ababoni ukuthi ubuhlungu nosizi sekuhlile, ingasaphathwa eyokuthi babe nesifiso sokufuna izindlela zokuzizwa bengcono. Ukwelapha lesi sifo akuyona into elula, yingakho singeke saba njalo phuma ekucindezelekeni wedwa.

Inketho engcono kakhulu ongayithatha iya kuchwepheshe ukuhlinzeka ngosizo oludingekayo. Kulokhu, kunconywa ukwelashwa kwengqondo ukusiza ukuthola imbangela nokuyihlula. Akuyona into engenziwa ngobusuku obubodwa.

Ungaphuma kanjani ekucindezelekeni ngothando

Uthando ngesinye sezihloko ezinzima kakhulu ukukhuluma ngazo, ngasinye sinendlela yaso yokuzizwa. Lapho sikhuluma ngokudangala kothando, kungahle kube ngenxa yokuchitheka kobudlelwano. Kodwa-ke, akuyona kuphela, kungahle kube ngenxa yokushona kothandekayo.

Akudingeki uchithe ezinye izinsuku zakho uzisole ngobuhlobo obuhlulekile noma unganikeli konke kulowo muntu. Ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele ukwazi ukunqoba ukucindezeleka. Kungakho-ke ngizokunikeza izeluleko ezisebenzayo okufanele uzilandele kuleyo ncwadi. Ngikunikeza ithuba lokuthi uphume ekucindezelekeni kancane kancane.

Ungakuthola kanjani ukucindezeleka

# 1 Yenza i-duel yakho

Kuyabonakala ukuthi ulahlekelwe ngumuntu obalulekile empilweni yakho, akudingeki ukuthi udlule emhlabeni. Usizi luyasebenza futhi lapho kungukulahlekelwa uthando, kunconywa ukuthi wenze inqubo yosizi noma yokufana. Lapho uzitshele khona ukuthi konke obenakho naloyo muntu omthandayo kudlulile futhi awukwazi ukukuthola.

Ukwehlukana, njengokushona kothandekayo, akuyona into enqotshwa ngokushesha. Kodwa-ke, ngokwahlukana nalowo muntu, konke okuphathelene nalobo budlelwane kulahlekile, ngakho-ke kufanele kufakwe. Kufanele kube nesigaba sokudabuka nokukhala. Akufanele ukholelwe ukuthi uyinqobe kalula, kungaba kubi ekugcineni, ngokungathathi ukwenziwa ngendlela efanele. Inhloso ukucindezela imizwa kancane kancane, ngaphandle kokukulimaza.

# 2 Khulula imicabango yakho

Kuvamile ukuthi, ngesikhathi sokulahlekelwa othandekayo noma ukuhlukana kothando, awukwazi ukukhipha lowo muntu emicabangweni yakho. Akukho qili lomlingo phuma ekucindezelekeni ngokusheshaNoma ngubani okutshele unamanga. Okudala ukuthi ube nalowo muntu emicabangweni yakho yonke yimizwa nemizwa, engeke inyamalale usuku nosuku iye kolandelayo.

Okudingekayo ukukwazi ukulawula imicabango. Ngendlela yokuthi zingayithinti ngokuphelele imiqondo yethu, ukuthi ekugcineni bayinkumbulo enhle yalowo muntu, kepha bahlala kuze kube lapho. Kufanele ubone izinhlobo zemicabango abanayo, uyiguqulele kweminye emihle noma ethinta kancane imizwa yakho kuwe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, imicabango izokwazi ukuyilawula, yenze ukuthi umphumela omubi ungekho.

# 3 Vumela imizwa yakho igeleze

Abantu bacabanga ukuthi ukukhala akulungile. Labo abacabanga kanjena yibo abanephutha. Awudingi ukufihla imizwa yakhoUma unesidingo sokukhala, ungakwenza. Ngeke ikubeke nganoma iyiphi indlela, izokusiza nokuthi uzizwe ungcono kakhulu emoyeni, uklabalase noma uhleke, kancane kancane uzozizwa ungcono.

Ukufihla imizwa yakho akulutho ngokuphelele, ngoba awuvumeli ingqondo nomzimba wakho ukuthi kuveze imizwa yabo. Noma kunjalo, udinga ukuthola izindlela zokuziveza uphilile. Akudingeki ubambe imizwa yentukuthelo, ukudumala, intukuthelo noma enye into.

# 4 Funa ukwesekwa

Kulokhu angikhulumi ngesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, noma kufanele uye kuso. Kepha kunalokho bambelela emndenini wakho nakubangane bakho, ngoba ziyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphuma ekucindezelekeni ngaphandle kwezidakamizwa. Ukunqoba isigaba esinjengalesi kuba lula uma unokwesekwa nokuqonda kwabathandekayo. Bangabantu abangakusiza ukuvusa imimoya yakho futhi ugcine ingqondo yakho imatasa ngemisebenzi.

# 5 Ungazihlukanisi

Abantu abaningi abahlushwa isigaba sokucindezeleka, bavame ukuhoxa emhlabeni. Bazakhela owabo umhlaba lapho bengavumeli noma ngubani ukuthi angene khona, inkinga iba nzima kakhulu. Abaningi bavame ukuphephela emsebenzini noma esifundweni, ngaphandle kokunaka okwenzekayo eduze kwabo. Lokhu kulimaza kakhulu, ngoba abalaleli noma ngubani futhi badlule ebuhlungwini nasekuhluphekeni kwabo bebodwa. Okubaholela kakhulu emicabangweni yokuzibulala.

# 6 Bheka ukuphazamiseka

Ukuzihlukanisa akuyona inketho enhle kakhulu, sengishilo lokho. Okudingakalayo ukugcina ingqondo nomzimba kuhlala kukho imisebenzi enempilo. Lapho ungaphendukela emisebenzini ethuthukisa i- inhlalakahle yomzimba nengqondo, ukukusiza ukhohlwe okwenzekile. Kufanele ubone ukuthi yimiphi imisebenzi okuyiyona ezokusiza kulesi sigaba, hhayi yonke.

Kwesinye isikhathi ezemidlalo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu, isiza ukususa umzimba wakho kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi, njengobuthi. Ekuqaleni kufanele ukuthathe njengokwelashwa ukuphuma ekucindezelekeni ngaphandle kwezidakamizwa. Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, uzokwazi ukugcwalisa umzimba wakho ngokwaneliseka, kuze kube sezingeni lokuthi ukucindezeleka kube yinto yesikhathi esidlule. Kepha khumbula ukuthi kuyinqubo.

Akukona okwezemidlalo kuphela. Kunezinketho ezifana nokudansa, ukuthatha uhambo emoyeni omusha, ukuphuma nabangani bakho ukuyobuka ama-movie noma ukudla. Futhi kuncike kakhulu kuwe ukuthi ungathola umsebenzi owuthandayo, hhayi ukuthi uphoqelekile ukuwenza.

# 7 Yamukela ukulahleka

Ngemuva kwakho konke lokhu okungenhla, usuku kufanele lufike lapho wamukela ukulahlekelwa. Awukwazi ukuphila impilo yakho yonke uzisola ngalokho obukade ungakwenza futhi ungakwenzanga. Yenza imisebenzi yakho, kancane kancane uzokwenza i-hormone yenjabulo ikhiqize okuningi. Ngaleyo ndlela, ukuthi uzozizwa ungcono futhi uzokwazi ukuhambisana nalesi sinyathelo sokugcina ukuze ululame ngokuphelele.