Ukuqiniseka kuyadingeka emphakathini esihlala kuwo, ngoba kuphela futhi ngenxa yawo sizokwazi ukuxhumana ngempumelelo nabanye. Empeleni, ukuqiniseka kubhekwa njengesitayela sokuxhumana nesokuziphatha esisebenza kahle kakhulu. Kusivumela ukulawula imicabango nemizwa futhi sakhe futhi sigcine ubudlelwane obunempilo nathi kanye nabanye. Amalungelo okuqinisekisa nawo ayimfuneko ekuxhumaneni kwabantu.
Ukuqiniseka okujwayelekile, ukucabanga kwengqondo kanye nemvelo yezenhlalo eyenza ukufezekiswa kwezinjongo zomuntu siqu nezomsebenzi. Inezinzuzo eziningi yingakho kungelinye lamakhono abantu abafuna ukuwakhulisa kakhulu ukuthuthukisa indlela yabo yokuphila nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu. Kuyindlela eya ekuzimeleni komcabango, ubuqiniso nokukwazi ukuhlala emphakathini onokuthula.
Ukuzethemba kubantu
Ukuqiniseka kusho ikhono eliyinkimbinkimbi lokucabanga, phendula ngokomzwelo futhi wenze ngendlela engenzi lutho kodwa ngasikhathi sinye indlela engenalo ulaka. Umuntu oqinisayo uzokwazi ukuveza imibono yakhe ngendlela evulekile, abuye aveze imizwa yakhe, izidingo zabo kanye nezifiso zabo ngendlela ekhombisa inhlonipho ngamalungelo abo kodwa nangamalungelo abanye.
Konke lokhu kwaziwa njengomqondo ohlanganisa izinto eziningi futhi ukuze kuzuze izinzuzo zalesi sitayela sokuxhumana nokuziphatha, umuntu naye kudingeka abe nendlela yokwenza izinto eziningi. Amaphethini wokucabanga (ukucabanga okunengqondo), ukuqonda amaphethini wemizwelo yomuntu nokuthi angaphrojusa kanjani le mizwa yangaphakathi ekuziphatheni okubonakalayo kufanele kubhekwane nakho, njengokuxhumana ngamazwi nangamazwi kanye nokuphathwa okujwayelekile kobudlelwano bezenhlalo.
Yenza kusebenze ukuzithemba
Ukwenza ngcono ukuqiniseka, ukungabaza, abantu kufanele bakusebenzise futhi lokhu kusho ukukwazi ukukujwayela izikhathi eziningi, kungcono. Ukuqiniseka kufanele kube isitayela sakho esikhulu sokuxhumana nokuziphatha ngoba kuzoba namandla anele okulolonga imicabango yakho kanye nesimo sakho sengqondo nesabanye. Ukuze uqiniseke kubalulekile ukwazi ayini amalungelo akho okuqinisekisa, ukuze ukwazi ukuwafuna kuwe futhi uwahloniphe kwabanye.
Namuhla kunezinhlu eziningi zamalungelo okuqinisekisa, amanye made kunamanye. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba alukho uhlu oluchaziwe mayelana namalungelo okuqinisekisa, ezimeni eziningi kungukuqonda okukuqondisayo. Zonke lezi zinhlu ziyizitatimende ezizithobayo, kepha okwenza ngempela zisebenze esimweni sokuthuthuka komuntu yilezo ezitholakala ezimisweni eziyisisekelo zokuqiniseka: ukuthola inkululeko esemthethweni, ubuqiniso nenhlalakahle.
Konke lokhu, ngenkathi kukhonjiswa ukuhlonipha okunye, ngaphandle kokulimaza ezinye izidalwa noma imvelo. Amalungelo abantu ayisisekelo futhi agomela ngokufana, kepha gxila ku okwakamuva ezimeni zokuxhumana ngaphakathi kokuxhumana komuntu.
Kungani kukuhle ukuzikhandla?
Lapho ugcizelela uzozizwa ukhululekile ukukwazi ukuveza imizwa yakho nokuveza imicabango nezifiso zakho ngamazwi, ngezenzo noma ngezenzo. Uzohlala uzizwa kanjena: 'Yimi lo, yilokhu engikucabangayo, engikufunayo nengikuzwayo'.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzokwazi ukuxhumana nabantu banoma yiluphi uhlobo noma izinga, noma ngabe bangumndeni, abangani, abantu ongabazi, abaphathi benkampani, ochwepheshe, njll. Ukuxhumana kuzohlala kungumnyango ovulekile, oqondile, oqotho futhi owanele.
Abantu abanesitayela sokuqina bayoba nesimo esingcono esisebenzayo empilweni, bazokwazi ukuthi bafunani, bafuna nini nokuthi bafuna kanjani. Bazozama ukwenza izinto zenzeke futhi lokho abanakho emqondweni kuvele kwenzeke. Bazoba nendlela efanelekile yokwenza izinto, bamukele ukulinganiselwa kwabo, baqonde ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi banqobe njalo. Bayazi ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuhle nokuthi indlela yabo yokwenza izinto iyohlale ivikelekile ngezizathu, izenzo nokuziphatha okuhle. Bazozwa beqinile ngoba banjalo Bayakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo ngobuqotho ngaphandle kwesidingo sokulimaza abanye noma ukuxabana ngokungadingekile.
28 Amalungelo okuqinisekisa
- Ilungelo lokuhlonishwa nesithunzi
- Ilungelo lokuba nemizwa, imibono nokukwazi ukuyiveza ngaphandle kokwephula isithunzi sabanye
- Ilungelo lokuzinqumela
- Ilungelo lokunquma ukuthi indlela umuntu aziphatha ngayo ihambisana yini nokulindelwe nezifiso zabanye, noma ngokuya ngezintshisekelo zethu, inqobo nje uma lokho kwabanye kungaphuliwe
- Ilungelo lokubuza, wazi ukuthi omunye unelungelo lokuthi cha
- Ilungelo lokuthi cha lapho ungafuni ukuthi yebo
- Ilungelo lokuzwa nokuveza imizwa ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye
- Ilungelo lokwenqaba izicelo zabanye ngaphandle kokuzizwa unecala
- Amalungelo wokuzibekela izinto eziza kuqala kithi nokwenza izinqumo zethu
- Ilungelo lokushintsha umqondo wakho
- Ilungelo lokunquma ukuthi ufuna ukwenzani ngomzimba wakho, imali noma isikhathi
- Ilungelo lokwenza amaphutha futhi ubhekane nomunye wabo
- Ilungelo lokucabanga ngaphambi kokwenza noma ukuthatha isinqumo
- Ilungelo lokuthi ungaphenduli ngokushesha noma ungalokothi uphendule
- Ilungelo lokucela imininingwane noma ukubuza lapho okuthile kungaqondakali kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka
- Ilungelo lokujabulela impumelelo yakho nokwaziwa, ukuziqhenya ngawe
- Unelungelo lokuzizwa unethezekile nawe kungakhathalekile imiphumela noma impumelelo (noma ngabe ingcono noma imbi kakhulu)
- Ilungelo lokuthola lokho okukhokhelayo (uma isibonelo ukudla kungalungile noma kusesimweni esingesihle, inani lizobuyiselwa noma lizonikezwa elinye lisesimweni esihle)
- Ilungelo lokukhetha ukungaziphathi ngokuqinile uma kungukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela
- Ilungelo lokuzwa imizwa engemihle uma nje abanye bengalimazi
- Ilungelo lokuzwa imizwa emihle futhi uyijabulele
- Ilungelo lokuba wedwa uma kuyilokho okufunayo
- Kulungile akudingeki ukuthi uzithethelele kwabanye
- Ilungelo lokwenza noma yini, inqobo nje uma amalungelo abanye abantu engaphuliwe
- Ilungelo nesibopho sokuzizwa sijabule futhi sijabule
- Ilungelo lokuthi 'Angazi' noma 'Angiqondi'
- Kulungile ukungabi ngabaphelele
- Ilungelo lokuzimela
Ukuqiniseka kuyikhono lobuhlakani obungokomzwelo elingasetshenzelwa futhi lithuthukiswe. Uma ufuna ukushintsha indlela oxhumana ngayo nabanye futhi ngaleyo ndlela uthuthukise impilo yakho yamanje, ungakwazi. Ungesabi ukufuna ukunakekelwa kochwepheshe ukuze ukuthole futhi usebenzise amalungelo akho okuqinisekisa.