Ukuzivocavoca okuyi-10 ukufaka amakhodi amasha engqondo.
UCésar García-Rincón de Castro (2013)
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Eminyakeni edlule izinto eziphilayo zazibonakala zingaguquguquki futhi okuguqukayo kwakungokwenhlalo. Kuyindida ukuthi namuhla izinto eziphilayo kulula ukuziguqula nokuzilungisa, futhi amanye amaphethini namakhodi ezenhlalo azuze njengefa izizukulwane ngezizukulwane, namuhla ngokusobala okungasebenzi kahle, aqhubeka nokusinda ngokuqinile.
Elinye lalawo maphethini lihlobene nesimo sengqondo ngomsebenzi nokuzithuthukisa. ESpain indawo entofontofo iyaqhubeka nokuba khona lapho ucabanga ngomsebenzi wesikhathi esizayo noma ubungcweti: okuthile okulungisiwe nokuzinzile, ukuphikisana nokuphila okuyizinsuku ezimbili.
Kepha leso simo sengqondo asisebenzi nje kuphela okwamanje, empeleni akukaze kube njalo. Ukunethezeka ngokweqile nokuphumula kubangela izinkinga ezingaphezulu zengqondo futhi uthathe abantu abaningi uye kudokotela wezifo zengqondo, uViktor Frankl usitshela "Ukufuna Komuntu Injongo", leyo mpikiswano nengcindezi.
Injabulo ingaphezu kweziqhingi namapharadesi asithengisayo, isekuzulazuleni, ekuzideleni, emgwaqweni, nakwezinye izindawo.
Sidinga amatilosi asemasha (ukuzivocavoca 1), abakwaziyo ukuhlela kahle i-radar yabo yokusinda (ukuzivocavoca 2), abaheha baphinde bacindezele abanye ukuthi benze (ukuzivocavoca umzimba 3), abakhetha imibono yabo (ukuzivocavoca 4), abamisa amasela abo esikhathi (ukuzivocavoca 5), bhala iskripthi sempilo yabo (ukuzivocavoca umzimba 6), bakwenze ngokubambisana (ukuzivocavoca umzimba 7), ukuxhumana nemizimba yabo (ukuzivocavoca umzimba 8), ukuba abaholi bokusiza abanye (ukuzivocavoca 9) futhi lokho kuyaqinisa ukuxhumana nomphakathi (ukuzivocavoca 10).
Esivivinyweni ngasinye ngiphakamisa izinyathelo ezi-3:
Isinyathelo 1: Kubizwa ngokuthi “ukuhlola imephu nendawo” futhi kungukuhamba engxenyeni ethiyori yezokuzivocavoca. Ngokuyinhloko imiqondo yokusebenza kwengqondo ebalulekile futhi edingekayo ukuze isebenze namuhla, kepha ichazwe ngendlela efinyeleleka kubo bonke.
Isinyathelo 2: Lapho sesazi ukuthi isihloko sikhuluma ngani, manje sekuyisikhathi sokuhlola ngaphakathi komunye nomunye ukuthi "yini le ndaba engitshela yona", okungukuthi, ukuhlola kwangaphakathi okuvela esihlokweni, sifuna amandla nobuthakathaka.
Isinyathelo 3: Lapho sesivele senza ukuhlola kwangaphakathi nangaphandle kwesihloko, sekuyisikhathi sokudweba “ibalazwe lomgwaqo” bese sibeka indlela, ukuze sizijwayeze futhi sithuthukise, ukufeza izinhloso ezibambekayo neziphathekayo usuku nosuku.
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Ukuzivocavoca okuyi-10 engikuphakamisayo kule ncwadi okulandelayo:
Ukuzivocavoca 1. Balekela endaweni yokunethezeka. Ukuba itilosi lapho ubhekene nezinselelo nezinselelo, ukunqoba isimo sezivakashi noma isimo sokubheka.
Ukuzivocavoca 2. Setha i-radar yami yokusinda. Isisekelo sobuhlakani obungokomzwelo sisebenzela ukusebenza kwethu lapho sibhekene nemizwa emnandi nengathandeki.
Ukuzivocavoca 3. Thuthukisa uzibuthe wami womphakathi. Amandla okuphusha nokuheha umphakathi, isimilo esizwakalayo nesimukelekayo ukufeza izinhloso zakho konke ukuxhumana komphakathi.
Ukuzivocavoca 4. Khetha izimo zami zengqondo. Ukhiye ulwazi noma isici sokuqonda sento yesimo sengqondo: uma sivumela abanye basitshele ukuthi sicabangani, asikhululekile noma asizimele.
Ukuzivocavoca 5. Bamba amasela esikhathi sami. Ukuphathwa kwesikhathi, isikhathi sekhwalithi, kuyisihluthulelo, namuhla kunanini ngaphambili ebusweni bezimfuno eziningi ezivela kwabezindaba abaningi.
Ukuzivocavoca 6. Yiba umbhali weskripthi sempilo yami. Esikhundleni sokuba yisibukeli noma umlingisi wemibhalo ebhalwe abanye, yiba ngumlobi wempilo yami, uvuselele indlela yami.
Ukuzivocavoca 7. Phila ngokubambisana okuhle. Ukwazi ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani abangane abahle nabalingani kubalulekile, ukwazi umehluko phakathi kwabangane abanesifo nabangane bomquba.
Ukuzivocavoca 8. Khuluma nomzimba wami. Ukuxhumana okungakhulumi ngomlomo, esikubonisa ngomkhondo wezincazelo zomphakathi esimweni ngasinye, ukufunda ukuphatha ukuzwakalisa komuntu siqu.
Ukuzivocavoca 9. Hola ngokusiza abanye. Abaholi abahle bebelokhu besebenzela futhi besiza abanye, ubuholi obungenakuqhathaniswa nobobuholi obunamandla.
Ukuzivocavoca 10. Sebenza ku-RED. Izikhiye zokusebenza njengeqembu nokwakha inethiwekhi enhle yobudlelwano eyakha futhi engeze inani, inkathi entsha ye-spiderman uma iqhathaniswa nenkathi endala ye-superman.
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