Imicabango Yokukhathazeka Engalungile: Funda Ukuyibona Nokuyimisa

Ngokuya ngemibono yokwelashwa kwengqondo, imicabango kanye namagugu akho anquma indlela ozibona ngayo nezwe elikuzungezile. Imicabango nezinkolelo ezisekelwe ethembeni zingathinta kabi imizwa yakho, imizwa yakho kanye nempilo yakho yengqondo. Le mibono eyingozi yizinkinga ezivamile ezingaba nomthelela ezimpawu zezinkinga zemizwelo nokukhathazeka.

Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ungayibona kanjani futhi uyimise kanjani imicabango engemihle yokukhathazeka ukuze ingakuthinti bese uwa ekuvuthweni kokuzibulala ngokomzwelo. Kepha ngaphambi kwalokhu, kufanele uqale uqonde ukuthi iziphi izinhlobo zemicabango engemihle ekhona nokuthi yiziphi izindlela nezinkolelo ezingezinhle.

Izinkolelo ezizilimazayo namaphethini wokucabanga angalungile

Ukunqoba amaphethini emicabango emibi nezinkolelo zokuzilimaza, Kubalulekile ukuqonda izincazelo nokwehluka phakathi kwale mibono emibili.

Izinkolelo ezizilimazayo

Isistimu yakho yenkolelo yakhiwe yimibono yakho, izimo zengqondo, kanye namagugu akho. Izinkolelo zakho zihlala zikhona, zakha indlela ozibona ngayo nezwe elikuzungezile. Izinkolelo zokuzibhubhisa zingakumisela ukwehluleka nokungagculiseki. Isibonelo, uma ukholelwa ukuthi ukuzethemba kwakho kunqunywa kuphela ngempumelelo yakho, uzokwaneliseka kuphela lapho uphumelela emsebenzini wakho, ufinyelela izinhloso zakho, noma ufinyelela izinga lakho lesimo olifisayo.

Izinkolelo ezizilimazayo ziwela ezigabeni ezimbili: izinkolelo zomuntu siqu onazo ngawe kanye nezinkolelo zabantu mayelana nobudlelwano bakho.

• Ukusebenzelana nabantu: Ukuphelela, ukwamukelwa, impumelelo
• Ukuxhumana nabantu: Icala, ukuzithoba, ukwesaba izingxabano

Amaphethini wokucabanga angalungile

Ngokungafani nezinkolelo ezizilimazayo, izindlela zokucabanga ezingezinhle azihlali zisengqondweni yakho, zivele kuphela lapho ubhekene nenkinga. Eyaziwa nangokuthi ukuhlanekezelwa kwengqondo, Le micabango emibi izokuza engqondweni ngezikhathi zengcindezi futhi iqinise izinkolelo zakho zokuzihlula.

Isibonelo, mhlawumbe unenkolelo yokuzinqumela ukuthi ukubaluleka kwakho kuchazwa kuphela ngokufezile. Ungazizwa umuhle uma nje ungazifeza njalo izinhloso zakho. Kodwa-ke, lapho ubhekene nezithiyo noma izithiyo ezingalindelekile, izindlela zokucabanga ezingezinhle zingadala ukuthi wehlise ngokweqile noma weqise ubucayi besimo, okuzogcina kudala ukukhathazeka okungenasisekelo.

Ezimweni ezinjalo, ungaqala ube nemicabango engemihle, njengokuzibiza ngokuthi "uhlulekile" noma uzisole ngokungafinyeleli enhlosweni yakho. Ungase ucabange, "Angisoze ngaba umuntu ophumelelayo" noma "Angikudalelwanga lokhu." Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, le micabango yehlisa ukuzethemba futhi ingaba nomthelela nasezimpawu zokucindezeleka kanye ne-panic disorder.

Nqoba le micabango engemihle

Izinkolelo zomuntu siqu ziyafundwa futhi zithuthukiswe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, okwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuzishintsha. Ngokufanayo, izindlela zokucabanga ziba yindlela ejwayelekile yokucabanga egxile kakhulu kangangokuba kaningi asiqapheli ukuthi kwenzeka engqondweni. Kodwa-ke, zikhona izindlela zokwephula umjikelezo wezinkolelo zokuzibulala kanye namaphethini emicabango emibi.

Ukweqa izinkolelo zakho ezizinqobayo nemicabango engemihle, qala ngokwazi lapho kuvela lezi zinkinga empilweni yakho. Isibonelo, bheka umbono wakho ngempilo nokuthi usabela kanjani ezinkingeni ezahlukahlukene lapho zikwehlela. Ngabe ubhekana nezinkinga zakho ngqo noma uthathwe yimicabango engemihle? Ngabe impilo igcwele amathuba noma uyabona ukuthi ingilazi ihlale ingenalutho?

Ngemuva kokuthi uqale ukubona izinkolelo zokuzibulala kanye namaphethini wokucabanga ongalungile, phinda uthole ukulawula ngokuziphonsela inselelo. Isibonelo, uma uzizwa ungakwazi, zibuze ukuthi ngabe kuyiqiniso yini ukuthi abanye bakwamukela kuphela uma "uphelele." Ingabe wehlulekile ngempela?

Qhubeka ungabaze izinkolelo zakho nemicabango yakho, ufake esikhundleni sako okuhle nokuyiqiniso. Uma uqala ukubhekana nemibono yakho engemihle, ungaqala ukuqaphela ukuthi mangaki angewona iqiniso empilweni yakho. Esikhundleni sokucabanga okubi kakhulu, ungacabanga wena ukuthi udumele ngokuthi awufinyelelanga emgomweni othile, kodwa Uyamukela ukuthi uyafunda futhi uyakhula emaphutheni akho nasezinsizini zakho.

Ukuthuthukisa izinkolelo ezintsha nezindlela zokucabanga kuzodinga umzamo owengeziwe kanye nokuvumelana ngasohlangothini lwakho. Ngokuqapha, ukubhekana nokucabanga kabusha imicabango kanye nezinkolelo zakho ezingezinhle, "ungazifunda" noma uzishintshe zibe izindlela zokukhulisa, zokunika amandla, nezikhuthazayo zokubheka impilo yakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, Ungahle ukwazi ukuguqula imicabango nezinkolelo zakho uzenzele abanye ezingokoqobo futhi ezingokoqobo.

Isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuqeda imicabango emibi

Ngaphezu kweseluleko esikunikeze sona ngenhla, ungabheka futhi lezi zinyathelo ezilandelayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqala ukuqeda imicabango emibi manje.

Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubona nokuyeka imicabango yakho emibi noma "ukukhuluma ngokwakho." Inkhulumomphendvulwano yangaphakathi yilokho okucabangayo nokukholelwayo ngawe nangolwazi lwakho. Kufana nokuphawula okujwayelekile ekhanda lakho. Ukukhuluma kwakho kungaba okunengqondo futhi kube usizo. Noma kungaba kubi futhi kungasizi.

Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuzibuza ukuthi ngabe imicabango yakho iyasiza noma ayilusizo. Bona ukuthi uthini kuwe. Ingabe ubufakazi buyakusekela ukucabanga kwakho okungekuhle? Ezinye izingxoxo zakho zangaphakathi zingaba yiqiniso, noma zingaba yiqiniso ngokwengxenye kodwa zibe nehaba.

Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokubona ukuthi ukhathazeka ngokweqile ukubuka izingqinamba. Yimaphi amathuba noma amathuba okuthi into embi ekukhathazayo izokwenzeka? Uma unokubuyekezwa komsebenzi okunokugxekwa okuncane phakathi kokuncoma okuningi, ayini amathuba okuthi usengozini yokulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho? Izimo kungenzeka ziphansi.

Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukukhetha umcabango owusizo ukufaka esikhundleni salowo ongenamsebenzi. Ukugcina idayari yemicabango yakho kungenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuzijwayeza ukumisa, ukubuza nokukhetha imicabango yakho, lokhu kukwenza ukuthi wazi inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho yangaphakathi. Bhala phansi noma imiphi imicabango emibi noma engakusizi oye waba nayo phakathi nosuku.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ungabakhumbuli ekupheleni kosuku lwakho, hamba notepad ukuze ukwazi ukubhala phansi noma imiphi imicabango njengoba idlula ekhanda lakho. Bese ubhala imilayezo ewusizo ukulungisa imicabango engemihle. Uma wenza lokhu nsuku zonke, imicabango enembile futhi ewusizo ngokushesha izokuvela ngokwemvelo.