Imizwelo empeleni ayiyona emihle noma emibi. Imane nje iyimizwa futhi ngayinye yazo ibalulekile kubantu. Imizwelo isisiza siqonde ukuthi sizizwa kanjani, sinjani, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuthi yini okufanele siyenze ukuze sibe ngcono uma singekho, nokuthi yini okufanele siyenze ukuze sihlale kahle uma sinokulinganisela okuhle ngokomzwelo.
Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi ukuwaqonda kangcono, siwahlukanisa njengemizwa emihle noma emibi, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela singaqonda kangcono ukuthi yimiphi esenza sizizwe sihle nokuthi imiphi emibi. Ukuba nemizwa emihle kusenza sizizwe singcono, nemizwa engemihle kusenze sizizwe sibi kakhulu.
Sonke sinemizwa
Sonke sithola imizwa kusukela ebuncaneni. Njengoba abantu abadala bezama ukuzulazula emhlabeni ovame ukuba nezinxushunxushu zanamuhla, uhla lwemizwa esihlangabezana nayo ngosuku lungashintsha kakhulu. Amandla ethu okuzwa nokuphendula imizwa yethu athathwa kalula.
Akuvamile ukuthi sime sicabange futhi sinake kakhulu lokho esizizwayo. Asicabangi ngomthelela onawo ezifundweni zethu ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzimba, noma imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokubamba imizwa, engaba yingozi kithina.
Ngalo mqondo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yimiphi imizwa engemihle nokuthi kungani ibalulekile empilweni yethu nasosukwini lwethu nosuku.
Yini imizwa engemihle
Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuthi yini umuzwa nokuthi yini umuzwa. Ngenkathi zombili zixhumene, kunomehluko omkhulu kunalokho ocabanga.
Ama-Emociones
Imizwelo ibhekwa njengezimpendulo "ezisezingeni eliphansi". Kuqala ukwenzeka ezindaweni ezingaphansi kobuchopho, njenge-amygdala kanye ne-ventromedial prefrontal cortices. Lezi zindawo zibhekele ukukhiqiza ukusabela kwamakhemikhali okuthinta ngqo isimo sakho somzimba..
Imizwelo ifakiwe ku-DNA yethu futhi kukholelwa ukuthi yathuthukiswa njengendlela yokusisiza siphendule ngokushesha ezinsongweni zemvelo ezahlukahlukene, njengempendulo yethu "yokulwa noma indiza". I-amygdala nayo ikhonjisiwe ukuthi ibambe iqhaza ekukhishweni kwama-neurotransmitters abalulekile kwimemori, ngakho izinkumbulo ezingokomzwelo zivame ukuba namandla futhi zikhumbuleke kalula.
Imizwelo inesisekelo somzimba esiqinile kunemizwa, okusho ukuthi abacwaningi bakuthola kulula ukuyikala ngokufanele ngokusebenzisa izimpawu zomzimba njengokuhamba kwegazi, ukushaya kwenhliziyo, ukusebenza kobuchopho, ukubukeka kobuso, nolimi lomzimba.
Imizwa
Imizwelo ibonwa njengemizwa yangaphambilini, okuvame ukuba ukusabela kwethu emizweni ehlukene esihlangabezana nayo. Lapho imizwa ingaba nokuhlangenwe nakho okujwayelekile kakhudlwana kubo bonke abantu, imizwa ingaphansi kakhulu futhi ithonywe okwenzeka kithi nezincazelo zomhlaba wethu ngokususelwa kulokho okwenzekile.
Imizwa yenzeka ezifundeni ze-neocortical zobuchopho futhi iyisinyathelo esilandelayo sendlela esiphendula ngayo imizwa yethu njengabantu ngabanye. Ngoba zizithoba kakhulu, azikwazi ukukalwa njengemizwa.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo sekuyisikhathi eside zihlola uhla lwemizwa yabantu nezincazelo zazo. U-Eckman waveza imizwa eyisisekelo yokuqala eyisithupha:
- Intukuthelo
- Asco
- Ukwesaba
- Injabulo
- Usizi
- Isimanga
Kamuva wakhulisa lokhu ukuze afake eminye imizwa eyishumi nanye eyisisekelo:
- Ubumnandi
- Ukudelela
- Ukwaneliseka
- Amahloni
- Umzwelo
- Culpa
- Ukuziqhenya
- Ukukhululwa
- Ukwaneliseka
- Ubumnandi obuzwayo
- Amahloni
Kukhona ihlelo kusukela ngo-2003 ngemizwa engemihle ethi okulandelayo:
"Njengomuzwa ongathandeki noma ongajabulisi obangelwa abantu ukuveza umthelela omubi emcimbini noma kumuntu." Ngokufunda uhlu lwemizwa eyisisekelo ka-Eckman, kulula ukuthola ukuthi yini engabizwa ngokuthi yimizwa "engemihle".
Ngenkathi singasebenzisa ilebula elibi, ngalokho esikwaziyo ngemizwa, kubalulekile ukuthi sazi ukuthi yonke imizwa ijwayelekile ukuzwa. Ziyingxenye ye-DNA yethu egxilile. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi nini futhi nini kungani kungavela imizwa engemihle, futhi yakhe izindlela zokuziphatha ezinhle zokubhekana nazo.
Iyini imiphumela yemizwa engemihle?
Yize kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi imizwa engemihle iyingxenye enempilo yempilo, kukhona okubi ngokubanika ukubusa okukhululekile kakhulu. Uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi ucabanga ngemizwa engemihle nezimo ebingazibanga, ungangena esimeni sokuvuvukala.
Ukuqaqamba ukuthambekela kokuhlala ucabanga, uphinda, noma ukhathazeka ngokweqile ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungafanele ngokomzwelo nezimo. Kulesi simo sokucabanga esingalungile, ungahle uzizwe uzimbi ngalesi simo nakuwe uqobo. Umphumela wawo kungaba uchungechunge lwemiphumela elimazayo enhlalakahleni yakho engokwengqondo nengokomzimba.
Inkinga nge-rumination ukuthi yandisa ukuphendula kokucindezeleka kwengqondo yakho, okusho ukuthi umzimba wakho ugcwala ngokungadingekile nge-hormone yokucindezeleka i-cortisol. Kunobufakazi obuningi bokuthi lo ngumshayeli wokuxineka emtholampilo.
Ukuthambekela kokukhanyisa kuxhunyaniswe nemikhuba eminingi yokulwisana nenkinga, njengokudla ngokweqile, ukubhema, nokuphuza utshwala, kanye nemiphumela yezempilo emzimbeni kubandakanya ukulala, umfutho wegazi ophakeme, isifo senhliziyo, nokukhathazeka komtholampilo nokudangala.
Ngokwengeziwe, abantu abayeka ukuhleba isikhathi eside ngemuva kokuhlangenwe nakho okungathandeki ngokomzwelo bathathe isikhathi eside ukululama kumthelela womzimba wesipiliyoni. Ukukhanya kungaba wukubaleka okunzima, ikakhulukazi njengoba abantu abaningi bengaboni ukuthi babhajwe enkingeni futhi bakholelwa ukuthi baxazulula izinkinga. Lokhu kungaholela kokunye okuhilelekile enhlalakahleni nasengqondweni.
Imizwelo engemihle akufanele isuswe, ngoba iyingxenye yokuphila nengxenye yethu. Kepha kubalulekile ukuthi bafundwe kubo ukuze bakwazi ukuqhubekela phambili futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuba nentando eyenele yokusinikeza umfutho odingekayo nowanele wokwenza izinto ngendlela esizizwa singcono ngayo. Imizwelo isisiza ukuba sibe ngcono futhi sikwazi ukubona lapho kufanele siguqule izinto. Imizwelo isenza sibe ngabantu futhi isisiza ukuthi sizazi kangcono.