Incazelo yokuqina nokuthi ungakuthuthukisa kanjani

Mhlawumbe wake wamangala lapho umuntu ekwazile ukubhekana nobunzima futhi wavela kubo, ukuthi kubonakala sengathi welulame esehlakalweni esibuhlungu ngokushesha okukhulu kunokujwayelekile (iso, lokhu akusho ukuthi lowo muntu akaze ahlupheke ezinhlungwini zesimo esibuhlungu noma esibuhlungu). Kepha kungani abanye abantu behluleka ukuqhubekela phambili ezimpilweni zabo futhi babonakale bebhajwe ku-loop engapheli bengenandlela yokuphuma?

Ukuqina kuyafana namandla engqondo asiza umuntu ukuthi abhekane nengcindezi nezinkinga ezivela empilweni ngamandla amakhulu. Abantu bangadonsela kulokhu kuqina kwengqondo ukuze bangawi. Izakhamizi ngabantu abakwaziyo ukwakha izimpilo zabo ngemuva kokudlula ebunzimeni noma ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu.

Bonke abantu babhekana nezehlakalo ezihlukumezayo ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yabo njengokulahlekelwa othandekayo noma ushintsho olungazelelwe empilweni yansuku zonke njengokuxoshwa emsebenzini noma ukubhekana nobunzima bezezimali. Ezinye izingqinamba zingaba zincane kepha ezinye zingaba zimbi njengokuhlasela kwamaphekula. Indlela okuxazululwa ngayo ubunzima yinto esemqoka ekwazini ukuthi umuntu uzobhekana kanjani nempilo kanye nemiphumela engokwengqondo ezoba nayo esikhathini eside esizayo.

Ukuqina

Ngakho-ke, ukuqina kuhlobene kakhulu nokukwazi komuntu ukuthola kabusha. Lapho othile ebhekene nenkinga noma inhlekelele, ukuqina yikho okuzoqinisekisa ukuthi lowo muntu uyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi uqhubeke nempilo yakho. Uzokwazi ukululama ngokucindezeleka okungeziwe.

Eqinisweni, abekho abantu abanelungelo lokuqina futhi kukhona abanye abangenalo. Iqiniso ukuthi bonke abantu kule planethi banamandla okululama ebunzimeni, kufanele nje ufune noma wazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani. Ukuqinisela akusho ukuthi lowo muntu akazizwa ejulile ngokwenzekayo kuye, umane nje afunde kokuhlangenwe nakho noma emaphutheni futhi azame ukusisingatha isimo ngendlela engcono kakhulu ukuze isimo singamsindi ngokweqile ngokomzwelo.

Nawe ungakhuphula amandla akho okuqina

Uma ucabanga ukuthi 'ukuqina' akukuhambelani, empeleni ulahlekile ngoba unakho futhi, kufanele usebenzise amakhono afanele wokukuthuthukisa. Amakhono kumele afundwe ngolwazi nokwenza Futhi lokhu kungenziwa kunoma yimuphi unyaka, noma ngabe zinjani izimo zakho zamanje.

Ukufunda ngokuqina kungenzeka, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi kubiza wena kakhulu futhi ucabangele amathiphu alandelayo, lapho-ke ungaya kudokotela wezengqondo ukuze akusize uthuthukise amakhono akho okuqina, ngoba khumbula ukuthi unawo futhi.

Noma iyiphi inkinga yokuphila kwansuku zonke njengezinkinga zezezimali, ukugula, izinkinga zomsebenzi, njll. Bangamathuba okusebenza ngokuqina futhi babheke impilo ngqo. Cabanga ukuthi uzoba nosizi, usizi, ukukhathazeka noma ingcindezi ... Kepha lokhu akunakugwenywa, okubalulekile ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nale mizwa ezimweni ezinikezwe wena. Kunezimo zabantu abakwazi ukuvela ngamandla amakhulu ngemuva kobunzima futhi babe namandla kakhulu kunakuqala, ngenxa yesipiliyoni nokufunda.

Abantu abantula amasu okuqina bangakhungatheka ngokuhlangenwe nakho futhi babhajwe emizweni emibi. into engadala ukuthi babe nokuziphatha okungenampilo futhi okuyingozi ngokungazi ukuthi babhekane kanjani nezinselelo zempilo.

Ukuqina akuqedi usizi noma ingcindezi

Ukuqina akuqedi ingcindezi, noma usizi, noma ukuthi uchitha isonto lonke ukhala empilweni yakho, akususi okwenzekayo. Kepha uma uqina ngeke ubone impilo ngeso elimnyama, kepha hhayi ngelensi enombala we-rose. Umuntu ohlala khona uyazi ukuthi ubunzima buyenzeka nokuthi impilo ingaba buhlungu kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi. Ngenxa yombono wabo wengqondo, bazokwazi ukululama ngokushesha okukhulu.

Izici ezandisa ukuqina

Ukusekelwa komphakathi akunakugwenywa ukukhulisa ukuqina. Umuntu oqinile ngokomqondo uzothola ukwesekwa ngumndeni nabangane ukuze bamsize aziqinise lapho ebhekene nezinkinga. Kunezinye futhi izinto ezibalulekile ezisiza abantu ukuthi babe namandla okuqina: bacabange okuhle, babhekane namaqiniso kepha bangabi nabi, bakwazi ukulawula amandla, baxhumane nezidingo zabo futhi babe nokuqina, baqonde imizwa yabo kanye neyabanye, ukubona okuhle nokuba nokuhlakanipha okuhle ngokomzwelo ukuphatha imizwa ngempumelelo.

Ungakuthuthukisa kanjani ukuqina kwakho

Uma usufike lapha, kungenxa yokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna ukwenza ngcono ukuqina kwakho ukuze ube namandla okutakula kangcono ngokuzayo. Uma kunjalo, kufanele ulandele iseluleko esikunikeza sona ngezansi. Ungafunda ukuphila ngendlela ehlukile, uphume kulokho kungakhululeki okuhlala kukwenza uzizwe unecala futhi unesibopho.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukufunda ukwenza kabusha izinto futhi ube nenjongo ngokwengeziwe ngezinto ezenzeka kuwe kanye neqiniso lakho. Misa ithemba lokuthatha ithemba futhi uqeqeshe ubuchopho bakho ngokucabanga okuhle. Ukuhlala udabukile ngeke kwenze ushintsho lwakho lwangempela, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukwenza izinto kabusha kabusha nokuthatha izinyathelo kuzothuthukisa isimo.

Kufanele ufunde ukwakha ukutolika kwempilo yakho okunencazelo ebalulekile kuwe, ukubeka phambili, ukukhetha nokudlulela phambili ukuze uzuze ngokomzwelo. Kuzothatha isikhathi nokuzijwayeza kepha uma ufuna ngempela ungakuthola. Futhi gcina okulandelayo engqondweni:

• Iba nenethiwekhi yokusekela yomndeni nabangane abanethemba ngempilo
• Gcina ubudlelwane obuhle nobuhle obukusiza ezikhathini ezinzima ezingeni lomzwelo
• Yiba nombono omuhle ngawe futhi uthembe amakhono akho namandla akho
• Ukwazi ukuba nezinhlelo ezingokoqobo
• Sebenzela ekuhlakanipheni kwakho okungokomzwelo nasekulawuleni umfutho kanye nasekulawuleni imizwa yakho
• Sebenzela amakhono akho okuxhumana
• Yiba namakhono wokuxazulula izinkinga
• Khomba ukukhubazeka okungenzeka uzizwe emzimbeni wakho
• Cabanga ukuthi ubungathini kumngani wakho ukube bebesesimweni esifanayo
• Thatha izinyathelo zokuthuthukisa impilo yakho esikhathini esifushane nesikhathi eside
• Bhala ezinye izindlela zesimo sesimo esifanayo
• Ngokucophelela khetha izinqumo ojwayele ukuzenza ngokushaya
• Vumela ukuthi wenze amaphutha bese ucabanga lelo phutha futhi ufunde kulo