Ukuntuleka kwenhlonipho kungabhubhisa ubudlelwano, ngisho nalezo ezazibonakala sezakhiwe iminyaka. Mhlawumbe wake wezwa ukuthotshiswa okuthile ngaphakathi kuwe noma ukuthi umuzwa wokungaqiniseki ngokomzwelo ungene kanjani ngaphakathi kwakho ngemuva kokuxhumana nomunye umuntu. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi inhlonipho iyadingeka ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi nabo bakuthole njengoba unakho kwabanye.
Lapho untula inhlonipho ebudlelwaneni, ubudlelwane phakathi kwalaba bantu bucekeleka kancane kancane. Akukhathalekile ukuthi ubudlelwano buyizithandani, umndeni, ubuchwepheshe noma ubungani ... Uma inhlonipho inyamalala, ubuhlobo buyaphela.
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Inhlonipho iyisimilo nesimilo. Lapho kunenhlonipho, kunokubaluleka kwabanye, isithunzi sabo siyabonwa. Inhlonipho wukuqashelwa kwamalungelo azalwe kubantu ngoba eyibo nje. Yize kufanele futhi kube nenhlonipho ngemvelo, izilwane kanye nokuphila kukonke.
Inhlonipho-ke ibalulekile ebudlelwaneni babantu futhi ikwazi ukuhlala ngokuzwana emphakathini. Inhlonipho ilungelo futhi futhi iyisibopho, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuthi wonke umuntu azi futhi aqonde ukubaluleka anakho ezimpilweni zabantu zansuku zonke. Unelungelo lokufuna ukwelashwa okulingana nesithunzi sakho futhi unesibopho sokunikeza leyo mpatho kubantu abaseduze kwakho.
Ukungahloniphi kunobuso obuningi obuhlukahlukene kwazise kukhonjiswa ezimeni zengqondo, ngolimi olukhulunywa nangamazwi ... hhayi wonke umuntu ophatha ontanga yakhe ngenhlonipho futhi kubalulekile ukukuthola ngesikhathi, ukuze, uma kunesidingo, kubekwe imingcele abantu abangakwazi ukuziphatha kahle. Ezinye izimbangela zokungahloniphi phakathi kwabantu zifaka:
- Ukuzicabangela wena wedwa
- Ukuzikhukhumeza
- Ukungabekezelelani
- Ukudelela
- Ukuntuleka kwemfundo
- Ukungabi nozwela
- Ukungabikho kwamanani
- Ukuhlalisana kabi
Ukungahloniphi kuthinta kanjani
Uma kunokuntuleka kwenhlonipho emphakathini, emndenini, ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabangani ... kuzohlala kudala izingxabano nodlame ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene lapho kuvela khona inkinga. Akekho umuntu othanda ukungahloniphi yingakho kubaluleke kangaka ukuthi uhloniphe abanye kakhulu, njengoba wazi ukuthi ungazifunela kanjani inhlonipho.
Emphakathini kunezindawo eziningi kakhulu lapho kunokushoda kwenhlonipho njengalezi: udlame lwasekhaya, udlame ezikoleni, udlame emindenini, ukuhlaselwa okungahleliwe ukuze nje uhlekise abanye, ukukhwabanisa, ukuphoxa, ukuxhashazwa kwabasebenzi, amanga, ukushayela budedengu, ukungaziphathi kahle, njll.
Konke lokhu kuziphatha kudala ukungaphatheki kahle kubantu abathintekile, imizwa yentukuthelo, ukufuna ukuziphindiselela komunye, imizwa yokungabi nalusizo kwabafundi ... kuzoya ngobuntu bomuntu othintekile eminye imizwa noma eminye ivela, kepha akukho lapho imizwa iba mihle khona.
Ungayigwema kanjani ngezinyathelo ezine
Uma bengakuhloniphi, kuyadingeka ukuthi ubeke imingcele nokuthi uzivikele ekuhlaselweni okuqondile noma okungaqondile okungahloniphi kuwe okubandakanya. Akudingeki ubekezelele abanye abantu abazama ukukuhlaza noma ungazi nje ukuthi kufanele bakuphathe kanjani ngenhlonipho. Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabanye, Yebo, ungasetha imikhawulo futhi usethe imiphumela njalo lapho kwenzeka.
Isinyathelo sokuqala AKUKHO ukulungisa ukungahloniphi, ingasaphathwa eyobudlelwano bamandla. Isibonelo, ungalokothi uvumele umqashi ukuba angakuhloniphi ngoba nje engumphathi wakho, akekho umuntu okufanele ahloniphe noma ngubani! Akudingeki ukuthi ubekezelele noma ngubani ongazi ukuthi angakuhlonipha kanjani. Yenza leyo mingcele imakwe kahle empilweni yakho.
Isinyathelo sesibili ukwazi ukuthi yini oyibekezelelayo nokuthi yini ongakubekezeleli ebudlelwaneni bakho nabanye. Kokubili nomndeni wakho, njengabangani bakho noma osebenza nabo. Yenza umzamo wokwazi lapho uzizwa sengathi omunye umuntu ucindezela imingcele ekwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile. Umzimba wakho uhlala ukuxwayisa lapho omunye umuntu engenanhlonipho ekufanele, ngakho-ke kufanele ulalele umzimba wakho lapho ukhuluma nawe ukuze wazi okwenzekayo.
Isinyathelo sesithathu ukukhumbula ukuthi akekho ophakeme kunomunye ngakho-ke akekho onelungelo lokukulimaza noma lokukulimaza nganoma iyiphi indlela. Unganikezi amandla kwabanye abantu ukuze bakwazi ukukudelela futhi bakulimaze, inhlonipho enamandla kunazo zonke ekhona naleyo Kuzobeka inhlonipho abanye abazoba nayo ngawe, yinhlonipho nawe onayo ngawe.
Isinyathelo sesine ukubeka imikhawulo kubantu ukuze bazi ukuthi kufanele bakuhloniphe. Uma othile ekucasula, ungakuthulisi ukungakhululeki kwakho ngoba uzoqala ukuzidlisa ushevu. Ungavumi ekuziphatheni okungathandeki kwabanye ngoba lapho bazocabanga ukuthi bangakwenza. Sebenzela ekuqiniseni kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukusho ngamagama amahle futhi ngaphandle kokulimaza noma ngubani ukuthi kunezimo ongazibekezeleli okufanele uzihloniphe. Uma lowo muntu engashintshi indlela aziphatha ngayo kuwe, Khombisa ukuzihlonipha futhi uziqhelelanise nalowo muntu onobuthi kuphela kuwe.
Wonke umuntu ufanele ukuhlonishwa
Wonke umuntu ufanelwe inhlonipho futhi uma ungacabangi kanjalo, kuzobaluleka ukuthi uqale ukusebenza ngezinga lakho lamagugu. Uma ucabanga ukuthi abanye abayifanele inhlonipho, kungenxa yokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi awukholwa ukuthi nawe uyakufanele noma mhlawumbe, awazi ukuthi ungabenza kanjani bakuhloniphe noma awazi ukuthi uzihloniphe kanjani. Ukuze kube nenhlonipho empilweni yakho, kufanele uqale ngawe.
Awufanele ukudelelwa yinoma ngubani nganoma yisiphi isikhathi empilweni yakho. Kufanele uzibuze ukuthi kungcono yini ukuthwala izinhlungu ekubukekeni kokumamatheka noma ukuthatha okwenzekayo futhi ungavumeli abanye ukuthi beqe imikhawulo ebanga ukungabi nenhlonipho. Kuyazuzisa ukuthi uqale uzihloniphe futhi ungavumeli abanye badlule kulowo mugqa wokucabanga kepha lokho kubaluleke kakhulu ukukugcina engqondweni. Ngendlela efanayo, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi futhi ukuthi lowo layini ukuphi ezimpilweni zabanye ukuze ungaweli. Bafanelwe inhlonipho efana neyakho.
