Ngaphambi kokuchaza ukuthi yini le mbono ebaluleke kakhulu yokugqugquzela, ngiyakumema ukuthi ubuke le mizuzu emi-3 yokugqugquzela okumsulwa.
Kule vidiyo basimema ukuthi sicabange ngokuthile okwenza impilo yakho ibe nenjongo, umgomo ongathanda ukuwufinyelela, okuthile okunika injongo empilweni yakho:
Kunemibono ehlukahlukene yokugqugquzela kepha kule ndatshana ngizogxila kokubaluleke kakhulu inkolelo yokukhuthaza, lowo osicindezelayo noma osibambezelayo kule mpilo:
1) Isifiso sokugwema ubuhlungu.
2) Isifiso sokuthola injabulo.
Cishe zonke izinqumo esizenzayo empilweni yethu yansuku zonke zishukunyiswa esinye salezi 2 amandla amakhulu, yizi-paradigms ezi-2 eziphambili empilweni yethu.
Kwesinye isikhathi umqondo wethu uzama ukulwa nalezi zindlela ezimbili ezinamandla ezishukumisayo, kepha ukunqoba kuvame ukuhlala isikhashana. Nasi isibonelo:
- Wonke umuntu obhemayo uyazi ukuthi lo mkhuba kuyalimaza. Ingqondo yakho enengqondo iyazi ukuthi uzoba ngcono uma uyeka ukubhema. Manje kungani uqhubeka nokubhema? Ngoba ngokomzwelo, ukubhema kubonisa injabulo futhi ukuyeka ukubhema kubonisa ubuhlungu. Ngiyazi ukuthi ngikhuluma ngani, ngiyabhema 🙁
Ukuphela kwendlela umuntu obhemayo ayeke ngayo ukuqinisa izinhlungu zomkhuba wakhe kanye nenjabulo yokuyeka, kuphela lapho uzothola isisusa esidingekayo ukuyeka ukubhema. Lokhu kudinga ukuba nombono wesikhathi eside, kunokuba ube nombono wesikhashana.
Okuxakayo ngokubhema, noma yimuphi umkhuba olimazayo, ngukuthi lokho okudala ubumnandi esikhathini esifushane kuzoletha ubuhlungu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuqonda ukuthi ubuhlungu nobumnandi bunamthelela muni ezimpilweni zethu isinyathelo sokuqala sokubusa. Sonke sinekhono lokusebenzisa amandla ethu engqondo ukuvuselela amahange ethu angokomzwelo. Ngamanye amagama, singakhetha okubuhlungu nokuhle.
Kuhle kakhulu, ngiyabonga ngomnikelo, ukuqala kulezi zakhiwo ezimbili kukwenza kube lula kuwe ukuthi uhlaziye futhi uthathe izinqumo zakho, ngiyabonga