Umuntu ongenathemba ukhononda ngomoya; Ithemba elilindele ukuthi lizoshintsha; Isazi sangempela silungisa amakhandlela.
UWilliam George Ward
Bheka le vidiyo emfushane lapho besikhombisa khona ukuthi singaba nethemba elingakanani.
Kule vidiyo, u-Elsa Punset usinikeza amathuluzi okusisiza sibe nethemba ngokwengeziwe empilweni:
Abathemba ithemba kanye nethemba benza ukutolika okuhluke kakhulu kwemicimbi emihle nemibi eyenzeka ekusebenzisaneni kwabo nezwe:
1) Abathemba Bajwayele ukucabanga ukuthi okwenzekile, uma kukuhle, kunokwesikhashana, okwesikhashana futhi bakubona njengomphumela wento eyeqa ezandleni zabo futhi enganciki kubo. Uma umphumela ungemuhle, bacabanga ukuthi kuzohlala isikhathi eside futhi babona konke kumnyama, bazibophezele ekubhekaneni nakho konke okwenzekile.
2) Indlela yokubona abantu abanethemba isebenza ngokuhlukile, Bayakwazi ukuba nesimo sengqondo esingokoqobo (ukulungisa oseyili) kepha futhi banethemba (bebona ukuthi konke kugcina sekwenzeka). Ngokuyisisekelo umehluko ukuqiniseka, inkolelo yokuthi ngingathembela kwizinsizakusebenza zami nokuthi konke kwenzeka ngesizathu esizosiza ukufunda kwami nentuthuko.
Ithemba elihle lisisiza ukuba sibhekane nobunzima njengezinselele, izinselelo ezithathwa ngumuntu ongokoqobo futhi aphikelela kuzo ethembele emandleni ethu nasemandleni ethu njengomuntu nasesimweni esihle abanye abanaso maqondana nosizo.
Ividiyo: Ukunqoba Ukugula
Iyini imiphumela yezempilo yesimo sengqondo esisodwa noma esinye.
"Ngisho nezitha zakho ezimbi kakhulu zingakulimaza kakhulu njengokucabanga kwakho"
(UBuddha)
Abantu abanethemba elikhulu bavame ukuba nemizwa engcono nempilo kunaleyo engemihle.
Kakade ku-Homer's Odyssey kwaxoxwa ukuthi injabulo nethemba kwakuyizindlela zokugcina impilo enhle nokuthi basebenza kanjani izihlangu zokuzivikela ezifweni eziningi.
Imithi yesimanje kanye nocwaningo lwakamuva lukhomba leli qiniso eselichaziwe ku I-Odyssey. Ake sibone ukuthi yimiphi eminye yemiphumela yezempilo yesimo sengqondo esithile:
Isimo sengqondo esibi:
• Ukuphazamiseka kwezinhlobo zengqondo: Izinkinga zokukhathazeka nge-Phobic njenge-agoraphobia, ama-phobias ezenhlalo, ama-phobias athile noma ahlukanisiwe, i-panic disorder, isifo sokukhathazeka esijwayelekile, kanye nokuphazamiseka okuxubekile kokukhathazeka.
• Ukuphuza ngokweqile, ukuphuza ugwayi noma izinto zengqondo.
• Ukucindezeleka lokho kukhiqiza, ngasikhathi sinye, ama-steroids amaningi enza buthakathaka amasosha omzimba, ngakho-ke kukhona ukuthambekela okukhulu kokugula.
• Ukwehla kwama-catecholamine futhi kwandisa uketshezi kwama-endorphin, anciphisa ukusebenza kwamasosha omzimba, ngaleyo ndlela enze lula lesi sifo.
• Ulaka olubi noma ulaka: ingozi enkulu enhliziyweni nasengqondweni, engadala noma inciphise isifo sohlangothi noma isifo senhliziyo.
Isimo sengqondo esinombono ongokoqobo:
• Yehlisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka.
• Kuqinisa amasosha omzimba.
• Kunciphisa ukuvela kwezimpawu zokukhathazeka.
• Umfutho wegazi ophakathi.
• Amazinga aphansi okucindezeleka.
• Izinga lokusinda eliphakeme kuneziguli ezingenathemba.
• Kugwema umdlavuza.
Manje umbuzo omkhulu lapha ukuthi lezi zimo zengqondo zivelaphi, Kungani abanye abantu benethemba kunabanye futhi kungani abanye abantu beqhubeka bekhononda futhi bebona konke kumnyama?
Ukuphelelwa yithemba ngokuyisisekelo impendulo enemibandela, wafunda ngokwenhlalo. Abantu ababi bavame ukuba nabazali ababi noma bahlala emiphakathini engemihle nasezindaweni zomphakathi.
Ungasiguqula kanjani isimo sethu sengqondo sisuke kwesingesihle siye kwithemba.
Uma umuntu enentshisekelo ku- hlela kabusha ingqondo yakho ukwakha ingqondo ejabule kakhudlwana kufanele iqale inqubo ye- ukuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu lapho engaqala khona ukubona ingqondo yakhe, abalingiswa bakhe bangaphakathi kanye nemicabango yakhe emholela ekuvumelaneni nalowo mbono oyinhlekelele weqiniso futhi ngaye bese ethula izinguquko ezimvumela ukuthi aguqule lezi zindlela zokucabanga ezingamthandi ezikukhawulelayo. Njengoba lo muntu ezenzakalela ukuzihlola kwemicabango yakhe futhi akufakazele ngaphandle kokumahlulela, kancane kancane uzozihlukanisa nabo.
Futhi ufuna ukuyibona kanjani ingilazi yakho: isigamu sigcwele noma uhhafu ungenalutho? Khumbula ukuthi intando isinyathelo sokuqala sokwenza.
Ukwanga okujulile.