Izici Ezingu-10 Zokuqina Kwengqondo Okukhombisa ukuthi Uqine Ngaphezu Kokucabanga Kwakho

Abantu abaphumelele empilweni abaqinile ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo, kepha ngamunye wabo unesici esifanayo: banamandla amakhulu engqondo.

Ayikho indlela eqondile yokuthola impumelelo emsebenzini nasempilweni, kepha singayithola ngendlela ebekezelelekayo uma sithuthukisa amandla omuntu ukuthi sonke sithwale ngaphakathi.

Ngamunye wethu wehliswa yizithiyo nezinselele zokuphila. Kodwa-ke, abantu abanamandla aphezulu engqondo bayakwazi ukuvuka ngokushesha ukwedlula bonke abanye. Futhi bakwenza kaninginingi… lapho iningi labantu selivele liyekile.

Abantu abanengqondo eqinile bacabanga futhi benze ngokuhlukile.

Angicabangi ukuthi ukuqina kwengqondo kuyisici okufanele uzalwe unaso. Ngikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi kuyinto esingayifunda sonke endleleni. Ngemuva kokufunda izibonelo eziningi zabantu abaphumelele, nazi izici ezi-10 ezivamile zabantu abanokuqina okukhulu kwengqondo:

1) Banekhono elihle lokulibazisa ukuzanelisa.

Iningi labantu liyahluleka ngoba linikezela ezilingweni noma bashiya izinselelo ngokushesha okukhulu. Abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo basebenza kanzima futhi abacabangi nokubuyiselwa kwenzuzo.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo UWalter mischel kukhombisile lokho ikhono lokubambezela ukuzithokozisa lifaka isandla empumelelweni empilweni.

Lapha sibona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo lapho kuxoxwa no-Eduard Punset maqondana nezifundo zakhe:

2) Bamukela ukulinganiselwa.

Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi sinenkululeko ephelele, futhi sikholwa ukuthi inkululeko enkulu isenza sibe ngcono. Iqiniso liphambene. Abantu abajabulayo bamukela ukulinganiselwa. Lapho befuna lonke udumo, abantu abaphumelelayo bakwamukela ukwehluleka. Lapho befuna ukuphelela, abantu abaqinile ngokwengqondo bamukela ukungapheleli.

3) Abaceli mvume.

Abantu abanamandla ngokomqondo bazizwa benesibopho ngezenzo zabo. Abalokothi bafune imvume negunya. Bakha eyabo indlela. Bayazamukela amaphutha abo. Abachithi isikhathi bezama ukulawula izinto ezingaphezu kwamandla abo, njengemali nabantu. Abakulawula kahle kakhulu yisimo sabo sengqondo.

4) Gxila ezintweni eziyisisekelo.

Bagxila kokusemqoka kakhulu. Lokhu kubasiza ukuthi basuse iziphazamiso.

5) Bayazazi.

Bazichaza ukuthi bangobani. Bayazazi ezabo izinqaba nobuthakathaka, bayayazi imisebenzi yabo, bayazi isikhundla sabo futhi bayazazi izinhloso zabo.

Abantu abazaziyo banamandla ngokwengqondo ngoba bayakwazi ukubhekana nazo zonke izimo nemvelo.

6) Babona izinto njengoba zinjalo.

Abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo abakaze bazenzele izindaba. Lokhu kudinga ukwenziwa. Ukuze uqine ngokomqondo, kufanele uyeke ukuphinda izindaba ezikwenza uzizwe ukhululekile, ezifihla ubuqiniso bakho beqiniso ngemuva kwekhethini.

Bamukela iqiniso bese bethatha izinyathelo zokulwa nanoma yibuphi ubunzima.

7) Ayahambisana.

Abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo abazalelwanga ukuqina ngokomqondo. Baye bakufunda endleleni. Impumelelo ayifiki ngosuku noma ezimbili futhi abantu abanamandla ngokomqondo bayawaqonda amandla okuvumelana. Bathatha izinyathelo ezincane ngokuqhubekayo futhi bakhe imikhuba yokuwina.

8) Banethemba.

Into eyodwa ekuyisa phambili ithemba. Uma kungekho themba, akukho senzo ngakho-ke akukho miphumela. Abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo bayakholelwa kubona.

9) Bamukela ukungaqiniseki.

Iningi labantu lifuna ukubikezela ikusasa. Ukuqiniseka nokuphepha kuyisidingo kubantu. Kepha akekho ongabikezela ikusasa ngokunemba okungu-100%, okusho ukuthi kuyohlale kunokungaqiniseki. Abantu ababuthakathaka bayambalekela, abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo bayamgona.

10) Banentando yokufunda.

Ilukuluku nentando yokuqonda izinto Kungenye yezimpawu zabantu abanamandla ngokwengqondo. Funda, ulinge, ufunde, ubonise. Abantu abaphumelelayo abayeki ukufunda, noma behlulwa, futhi yilokho kanye okubenza babe namandla.