Izizathu eziyishumi eziphezulu zokuthi kungani abantu abanamahloni beheheka ngokwengeziwe

Ama-introverts awafuni ukuba yisikhungo sokunakwa, kepha aphakathi kwabantu abakhanga kakhulu futhi abahehayo.

Ngokungafani namahloni, ama-extroverts asevele ekhombisa indlela yawo yokuphila nokwenza kusukela ekuqaleni. Noma kunjalo, umuntu onamahloni uba mnandi kakhulu.

Lokhu kukhethwa kugqamisa izizathu eziyi-10 zokuthi kungani abantu abanamahloni bekhanga ngokwengeziwe.

10) Ziyamangalisa.

Ama-introverts ane-aura engaqondakali ebazungezile. Abantu bafuna ukwazi ukuthi bacabangani, kepha abasoze bathole konke. Lokhu kwenza umuntu onamahloni athakaze ngokumangazayo futhi asabise ngasikhathi sinye.

9) Kulula ukuphatha.

Bangabantu ababuyile ngokwemvelo, abanobuntu, futhi abanobungane.

Ezweni elihlala ligijimela njalo, umlingiswa onamahloni, opholile nophansi uheha ngokweqile. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ama-introverts adonswa yizixuku, kepha akhula ngamaqembu amancane nasekusebenzisaneni.

8) Bangabaphuphi.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uScott Barry Kaufman nozakwabo bachaza ukuthi ingqondo ephuphayo iyasiza kwinqubo "yokufukamela okudala."

Imibono emihle kakhulu ibonakala ibonakala ingekho ndawo, lapho izingqondo zikwezinye izindawo. Abantu abanamahloni bavame ukuduka ezingqondweni zabo, beza nemibono emangalisayo neqabulayo.

7) Bangabalaleli abahle.

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukukhuluma futhi akekho ofuna ukulalela ngakho-ke lapho othile ekhombisa intshisekelo kwabanye, futhi bezimisele ukulalela, lokhu kuyathandeka kakhulu. Umuntu onamahloni uthanda ukulalela ngaphezu kokukhuluma. Lokhu kukhuthaza ukuxhumana okuqinile nobudlelwano obunempilo.

I-6) Zikhuthazeke ngokwangaphakathi.

Abantu abanamahloni bavame ukukhuthazeka ngaphakathi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bagqugquzelwa ukuthi basebenze ngezinkolelo ezijulile zangaphakathi, kunokuba babe nezisusa ezingathi shu zangaphandle ezifana nemivuzo nokwaziwa.

Bayazazi ukuthi bangobani, ukuthi bafunani nokuthi yini ebalulekile ezimpilweni zabo.

5) Bahlala belalelile.

Umuntu onamahloni uphawula izinto abanye ngokuvamile abangaziboni. Umhlaba uyisimangaliso ku-introvert. Bahlala bathola ulwazi besesimweni esizolile futhi balusebenzise njengesisekelo sokuveza ngobuciko. Uma ungumuntu onamahloni, akukho okulahlekile.

4) Bayakwazi abakushoyo.

Ayikho into eyenza umuntu abukeke eyisilima njengokusho izinto ezingafanele ngoba ukhuluma ngokushesha, engenasikhathi sokucabanga amagama uqobo. Ama-introverts, lapho ekhuluma, asho kuphela okwanele ukukhiqiza inzalo komunye, ashiye isifiso sokulalela okuningi.

3) Bangabantu abacabangayo abanobuciko.

Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo uMihaly Czikszentmihalyi noGregory Feist, abantu ababukeke kakhulu emikhakheni eyahlukahlukene bavame ukuba izethulo. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi isizungu siyisithako esiyinhloko sempumelelo yokudala.

Abantu abanamahloni abesabi ukuhlala bodwa. Bayakwazisa kakhulu ubumfihlo. Esimweni esinesizungu, izethulo ziyaxhumana ne-monologue yazo yangaphakathi, zibuze imibuzo efanele, futhi ziguqule imisipha yazo yokudala.

Banokuthambekela kwemvelo kokwamukela isizungu, bagxile esihlokweni ngokujulile, bacabange futhi benze ngobuhlakani.

2) Bahlakaniphile futhi bahlakaniphile.

Abantu abanamahloni bakhangwa ukufunda nokutadisha. Bayakujabulela ukufunda nokubatholela izinto ezintsha futhi bahlakaniphile. Umuntu okhaliphile unemikhuba futhi uyakhanga. Kungcono ukuchitha isikhathi nomuntu onolwazi nomdlandla onentshisekelo yokufunda okuningi, kunomuntu ongazi lutho nongazideli.

1) Ziyakhuthaza ngokwengqondo.

Ngoba abantu abanamahloni bavame ukuba ngabafundi futhi bazibonakalise, izingxoxo zabo ziyakhuthaza ngokwengqondo. Futhi kukhona okuthile komlingo futhi okuhle ngomuntu okhanyisela futhi okhuthazwa yingxoxo enengqondo futhi ehlakaniphile.