Imihlahlandlela elula engu-9 yokunqoba nokunqoba amahloni

Amahloni Kuyimfanelo evusa ukuqonda, kepha ukuziqinisa akusizi ukuyinqoba.

Sonke sinamahloni ngandlela thile Kodwa lapho lokhu kuthambekela kwanda, amahloni angaba yinkinga. Umuntu onamahloni akazethembi futhi uyanqikaza, akazi ukuthi enze njani emhlanganweni womsebenzi noma ephathini nabangani.

Laba bantu bavame ukuzizwa behlukile kwabanye., behlukanisiwe futhi bengahlanganyeli kakhulu, futhi yize belwa ngawo wonke amandla abo ukuze babe nobungane nokukhulumisana, bahlala bebheke phambili ekugcineni kokuhlangana komphakathi ngoba bezizwa bengakhululekile, besaba ukungalungi futhi ihlazo eliqeda amandla liyabahlasela.

Onamahloni uzama ukunganakwa, kepha ezikhathini ezingaphezu kwesisodwa, futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, wonke umuntu ugcina ngokumqaphela, ngoba lapho ezama ukuziphatha ngendlela efanele, njengoba ecabanga ukuthi abanye bamlindele ukuthi enze, ulahlekelwa yimvelo futhi enze ngendlela ephoqelelwe.

Kuyinsakavukela ukuthi umuntu ozizwa enamahloni njengesisindo ujwayele ukuzigxeka ngokweqile nokubukela phansi amakhono abo; empeleni, abanamahloni ngokwabo bangabagxeki babo ababi kakhulu futhi bachitha izimpilo zabo befuna okungaphezu kokudingekayo ukuzama ukunqoba lokho abakubona njengokuyiphutha, ikakhulukazi kulo mphakathi onzima futhi oncintisanayo.

Ziyini izimbangela?

Amahloni akhiwa ebuntwaneni. Yize kunezingane ezinamahloni kakhulu, kusekukhuleni lapho kwenzeka umzuzu obucayi ongaqeda ukumodela le mfanelo.
Akunasici esisodwa esinquma ukwakheka kwamahloni kepha akhona imihlahlandlela yezemfundo nezinhlobo zobudlelwano nabazali ezingayikhuthaza. Agqamile phakathi kwabo:

1) Ukuvikela ngokweqile ngokweqile:

Abantu ababenabazali abavikela kakhulu, abangabavumeli ukuthi baxoxe ngokukhululeka noma babhekane nezinkinga, banobunzima ekuthatheni umthwalo ngokuziphatha kwabo nokuzenzela izinto, ukuze ezimeni ezintsha noma eziyekethisayo bangabi nezinsiza zokubhekana nazo futhi ungazethembi.

2) Ukweqa okukhulu:

Lapho abazali befuna okwedlulele ezinganeni zabo, behlala njalo bephezu kwabo ukwenza izinto ngezinga eliphakeme lokufuna ukuphelela noma ngendlela ababona ifanele ngayo, izingane zigcina zikhula umuzwa wokuzenyeza nokuzizwa unecala, zihlala zizizwa zingavikelekile. ukuhoxa ekuziphatheni kwabo ngokwesaba ukwenza izinto ezingalungile noma ukungafezi okulindelwe kubo.

3) Amahloni abazali:

Amahloni awutholwa ngofuzo kepha uma uke waba nabazali abanezinkinga zokuxhumana nezokukhuluma, unabangani abambalwa noxhumana nabo, izingane zingalandela isibonelo sazo futhi zingabambi iqhaza kakhulu.

4) Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi:

Ukuba nezimo ezithile, njengokugxekwa noma ukugconwa ofunda nabo, ukungamukelwa kahle emsebenzini noma ukwehluleka kothando kungenza umuntu ahoxe, abe namahloni noma azibambe.

5) Izakhiwo:

Abantu abazizwa bekhathazekile ngokulinganiselwa okuthile ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo (ukuzizwa bekhuluphele kakhulu noma ukuzaca, bade noma bafushane, uhlobo oluthile lwekhala ...) imvamisa bagcina bethuthukisa izici zokuba namahloni.

Izeluleko eziyi-9 zokunqoba amahloni emphakathini.

1) Qala kancane.

Amahloni ngeke anqotshwe ngokushesha. Kuhle ukuthatha izinyathelo ezincane, uzibekele imigomo emincane futhi. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, phikelela. Ziveze ekuhlangabezaneni okuncane noma ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi ngendlela ehamba kancane.

2) Musa ukuhlukana.

Kwesinye isikhathi kukhona ukugxekwa okusilimazayo kepha yingakho kufanele wehle phansi. Kuyadingeka ukunqoba lezo zikhathi ukuze uqhubekele phambili.

I-3) Zinikeze ukuthula.

Ungazigxeki kakhulu. Khululeka futhi uzivumelanise nezimo ngokwengeziwe nawe.

5) Ungazivali.

Lapho uzizwa sengathi uyawa lapho kufanele ulwe kakhulu ukuze uye phambili futhi uvulele abanye ithuba.

6) Awuthathi izinto uqobo.

Uma sixhumana nabantu, kujwayelekile ukuthi kuvele ukungafani, ukungezwani noma imibono ehlukile kweyakho. Akukona okwakho, akekho okuhlaselayo. Babona iqiniso ngokoqobo ngendlela ehlukile kunawe.

7) Ukuphumula kuyisihluthulelo.

Awukwazi ukushuba kangaka ngaphambi kombuthano wokuzijabulisa. Kufanele ufunde ukukhululeka ngalezo zikhathi: ungabona ngeso lengqondo okuthile engqondweni yakho okukuyekisayo noma okugxile kokunye okukunikeza ukuthula.

Ukukhuluma komzimba kufanele kube ngokwemvelo, kungaphoqelelwa. Khulula imilenze yakho, izingalo zakho futhi ugweme ukuqina.

8) Yiba ngokwemvelo.

Lokhu kuhumusha ekubeni ngokwakho. Ungazami ukuba ngumuntu ongeyena. Thola indawo yakho bese uhlala kuyo. Ungathathi ngamawala.

Izincwadi ezithakazelisayo

1) "Ukuphepha ngokomzwelo" nguGael Lindenfield (Ed. Kairós).

2) "Ukuxhumana okusebenzayo" nguLair Ribeiro (Umhl. Urano).

3) "Impela wena" nguBeatrice Poschenrieder (Ed. Robin Book).

NguLourdes Mantilla (isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo) ku Umzimba nengqondo.

Ngikushiya no Ividiyo yezeluleko ezithile zabantu abanamahloni kusuka kuchwepheshe wezokuxhumana ngamazwi: