Ukuhlupheka ngokungathembeki kuyinto ebuhlungu kakhulu, ngakho-ke kungathinta umuntu kabi. Kodwa-ke, nsuku zonke singathola amacala akho womabili abantu abakwaziyo ukuthethelela ukungathembeki njengabanye abangasoze bakwenza Kepha lapho isikhathi sifika, ubungenza kanjani? Sizozama ukuhlaziya okunye okukhulunywa ngakho futhi sizohlaziya nomphumela ukungathembeki okungaba nawo ebudlelwaneni kanye namathuba okuxolela umuntu ngokuya ngezici ezahlukahlukene.
Ukungathembeki nokuhlukana kwendaba yothando
Akungabazeki ukuthi omunye wemiphumela emibi yokungathembeki yiqiniso lokuthi kubangela ubuhlungu obukhulu kwabashadayo, kepha empeleni kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akuwona ukuphela komonakalo owenzekayo, kepha kukhona omunye ingaze ibe nkulu ngokwengeziwe, njengeqiniso lokuthi inkohliso iyanyamalala.
Lokho wukuthi, sonke sinobudlelwano bethu njengezithandani futhi sinomuzwa wokuthi uhlukile futhi awunakuphikiswa, ukuze kuthi, lapho kwenzeka ukungathembeki, ngokuzenzekelayo zonke izisusa nezizathu ezisenze sacabanga ukuthi okwethu bekukhetheke ngempela ziyanyamalala.
Noma ngabe ukuthethelelwa kungathethelelwa, empeleni lelo phupho ebesicabanga ukuthi siphila kulo lizobe selishabalele ngokuphelele, okuyisizathu esanele ulahlekelwe ukwethembana nomlingani wakho futhi ugcine uphule ubuhlobo ngokuphelele.
Kumele sikhumbule ukuthi ilungu ngalinye lombhangqwana licabanga ukwesekwa nokusekelwa okubaluleke kakhulu komunye, okuthi ngalo, lapho siphelelwa ukuzethemba futhi lapho sibona ukuthi lonke lelo phupho elisenze saphila indaba yothando selinyamalele, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi idala umuzwa omubi phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Kumele sikhumbule ukuthi ezimweni eziningi lolu hlobo lwesimo luphelela ekwahlukaneni, ngoba kuyacaca ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukwethemba umuntu osekade ekungcatshe ngale ndlela, futhi akumele sikhohlwe lokho ngoba enye ingxenye iyalimaza ukuzethemba komuntu okhohlisiwe, okungukuthi, uma ubona ukuthi omunye umuntu ufuna lokho okufanele ubanikeze kona ngaphandle kobudlelwano, bakwenza uzizwe sengathi awuyona yonke into abayidingayo.
Umzabalazo wokuxolela ukungathembeki
Ngokuya ngeminyaka okade usebudlelwaneni naloyo muntu, kwesinye isikhathi abaningi benza konke okusemandleni ukuthi bakwazi ukuxolela lokho kungathembeki, ngoba bazama ukwazisa izici ezinhle zobudlelwano futhi benza konke okusemandleni ukushiya lelo phutha ngemuva, yize , njengoba Sishilo esigabeni esedlule, kuyinkimbinkimbi impela ngoba, uma usuzethembile, kunzima kakhulu ukukuthola kabusha.
Kodwa-ke, kufanele sicace bha ukuthi le yinto engeke ikhethwe, okusho ukuthi, kunabantu abakwaziyo ukunqoba ubunzima baphinde babuyise ubudlelwano babo, nabanye, noma ngabe bazama kanzima kangakanani, ngeke bakwazi ukunqoba lesi simo futhi ekugcineni, noma ngabe abafuni kangakanani, lezi zithandani zigcina zihlukane ngokuphelele.
Izinto okufanele uzicabangele ukwazi ukuthi ukungathembeki kufanelekile yini ukuthethelelwa
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi zonke lezi zeluleko uzinikwa noma ngabe ungowesilisa noma ungowesifazane, okungukuthi, kulokhu kungenzeka ukuthi sizithole sisesimweni esifanayo kungakhathalekile ukuthi sithini ngokobulili, ukuze indlela yokuphendula ivame ukuba kwaqondana ezimweni zombili.
Lokho kusho ukuthi kunezinto ezithile esingazihlola ngazo esizothola ithuba elingcono lokuthola ukuthi sizokwazi yini ukuxolela ukungathembeki kwalowo muntu ebesithembele kuye kuze kube manje.
Vele, kubalulekile ukuthi sihlaziye zonke lezi zici ngokucophelela, okungukuthi, okwamanje lapho isimo senzeke khona, akukuhle ukungena ekuhlolweni, ngoba konke esizokwenza ukuzilimaza kakhulu futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ngeke senze ngokukholisayo, kepha singenza izinqumo esizozisola ngazo ngokuzayo.
Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma uzithola ukulesi simo, okungcono kakhulu ongakwenza ukuthatha izinsuku ezimbalwa uphumule futhi unqamule futhi, lapho konke sekuthulile, sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukwenza ukuhlolwa okujulile kuthathe wonke umuntu ukubhekisisa.amaphoyinti esiya kuwo ngemininingwane engezansi.
Isincomo sethu kuleli cala ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi sokunqanyulwa uhlukane njengoba kuyindlela engcono yokuthulisa amanzi nokuvimbela izinto ukuthi zande. Kuyafakazelwa ukuthi leyo mibhangqwana okuthi ngemuva kokushaywa yilolu hlobo iqhubeke ndawonye usuku nosuku, ekugcineni inamathuba amancane kunalawo athatha, ngokwesibonelo, isonto lomugqa lapho ekhuluma khona kakhulu ocingweni, mhlawumbe kungaba yindlela ethokozisayo yokunikeza amathuba amaningi ebudlelwaneni.
Uzakwethu wakamuva akafani nozakwethu wesikhathi eside
Into yokuqala engaba nomthelela ekutheni isimo sixolelwe noma cha ukuthi sinesikhathi esingakanani sindawonye. Kuyacaca ukuthi akufani ukukhuluma ngezithandani ezithandana nje izinyanga ezimbalwa, lapho ukusika kungacabangi ukuthi kubuhlungu ngempela, kunalabo abangathatha ngisho neminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10, lapho-ke Isimo siba nzima kakhulu, ngoba into ejwayelekile ukwenza umzamo omkhulu wokugwema ukuqhekeka, kepha-ke ubuhlungu futhi bukhulu kakhulu.
Uhlobo lokungathembeki esihlupheke ngalo
Enye imininingwane okufanele uyiqaphele uhlobo lokungathembeki, okungukuthi, akufani nokuthi umlingani wethu ubengathembekanga kithi nabantu abaningana futhi ezikhathini eziningi, kuneqiniso lokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ube nesiliphu esincane njengokumanga okulula kusukela kuye osheshe waphenduka.
Izizathu zokuthi kungani kwenzeka ukungathembeki
Sizobheka nezizathu zokuthi kungani lokhu kungathembeki kungenzeka kwenzeke, okusho ukuthi, sihlala sikhuluma ngokungathembeki ngenxa yokungathembeki kwesinye isikhathi, kepha kwezinye izimo singathola, ngokwesibonelo, umlingani ongasebenzi ukuze bobabili baqala ukulahlekelwa ubudlelwano kuze kufike ezingeni lapho ekugcineni behlala khona kakhulu kunezithandani.
Kumele sicabangele uma lokhu kungathathwa njengesidingo sokubhekisisa ukwenza ushintsho kumlingani wethu noma, uma kunalokho, kunesizathu esanele sokucabanga ukuthi akusizi ukuqhubekela phambili nokwenza umzamo ngoba nakanjani ikusasa into efanayo izophinda yenzeke. Lokho wukuthi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sihlolisise izizathu zokuthi kungani lesi simo senzekile, ngoba kuye ngokuthi kungenzeka yini ukuthi sizithole sisesimweni lapho kunamathuba amaningi okusixazulula futhi sishiye le nkinga esikhathini esedlule, noma ukuthi ngokuphambene nalokho, kuyinto esicabanga ukuthi ingagcina iziphindaphindile.
Hlola umonakalo odalwe ukungathembeki
Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi sihlaziye ukuze sithole ukuthi lokhu kungathembeki kukwazi kangakanani ukusilimaza. Umuntu ngamunye ungumhlaba ngalomqondo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi sifunde imizwa yethu kahle futhi sihlaziye ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ngalowo omunye umuntu kusuka manje kuqhubeke.
Kubalulekile ukuthi sithole ukuthi sizokwazi yini ukuvala lelo nxeba futhi singaphinde silivule, okungukuthi, uma sinquma ukuvula ikhasi, kubalulekile ukuthi sikhohlwe ngokuphelele ngale nkinga, ngaphandle kwalokho kungagcina kuphenduke ihlazo elihlala njalo lokuthi, kungekudala noma kamuva, lingahle lonakalise ubudlelwano futhi ekugcineni ligcine selihlukene. Ngaleso sizathu, uma ekugcineni sithatha isinqumo sokuqhubekela phambili, kuyadingeka ukuthi sazi ukuthi kufanele sisishiye kanjani lesi sigameko bese sisigcina ukuze singaphinde sisikhiphe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi nangaphansi kwezingxoxo.
Ngokuyinhloko lapha kuzofanele sihlaziye ukuthi sizokwazi yini uphinde uthole ukwethemba uzakwethu, futhi uma sivuma futhi sinamandla okushiya lokhu sikhohliwe, khona-ke sizoba namathuba okuthi sikwazi ukuqhubeka nokujabula futhi, kodwa uma kungenjalo, khona-ke kungcono ukuthi sihlaziye kahle uma Kusifanele thina Kuyafaneleka ukuqhubeka nokuzidela kwethu nokuhlupheka ngobuhlobo obuzogcina ngokufa.
Vele, kuzobaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuthi sinake imizwa ekhona kulowo muntu ongathembekile kithi, ngoba lokhu kuzoba yisici esinqumayo uma kukhulunywa ngokwazi ukuthi uzoba namandla yini futhi amandla okuzuza phambili, noma uthando lwangempela luye lwanyamalala noma luye lwahlanjululwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuze kube namuhla siyazi ukuthi kwakungekho lutho ngempela phakathi kwethu.
Uma usuthathe isinqumo, xhumana nomlingani wakho
Futhi kusobala ukuthi, uma sesithathe isinqumo esincike kuzo zonke izigaba ezedlule, sekuyisikhathi sokuhlangana ngokuthula nomlingani wethu futhi sibale ukuhlolwa esikwenzile kanye nesinqumo esisithathile.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi, kungakhathaleki ukuthi ingxoxo iqhubeka kanjani, uqine esinqumweni, futhi ukuthi izikhathi eziningi ngenxa yobuhlungu noma ukwesaba, isihawu, njll. Sigcina sishintsha ngomzuzu wokugcina kepha empeleni sizokwenza ukukhulisa kuphela okungenakugwenywa, lapho sizobe sidala ubuhlungu obukhulu kithina nakumaqondana wethu.
Isikhathi sokudlulisa lesi sinqumo kufanele sibe nokuzola, endaweni engathathi hlangothi futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ngaphandle kwezingxoxo, okungukuthi, akufanele siphonse izinto emakhanda ethu noma sithukuthele, kepha kusukela manje nje sizothatha inkambo ehlukile nokuthi Isinqumo sakho, lowo muntu okufanele asihloniphe futhi asamukele noma ngabe uyasisekela noma uphikisana naso.
Futhi-ke, uma sikhetha ukuqhubekela phambili nobudlelwano, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ngaso leso sikhathi sobabili sisungule ukuzibophezela lapho umuntu ongathembekile aqinisekisa khona ukuthi ngeke aphinde enze iphutha elifanayo, futhi umuntu othintekayo, kumele aqinisekise ukuthi konke lokhu sekukhohliwe futhi ngeke akusebenzise ukwenza umonakalo omkhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Yize kungabonakala kuyinkimbinkimbi ukwenza lokho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi siyibheke yonke le mininingwane ngoba uma kungenjalo ngeke sikwazi ukuqhubeka phambili ngenhloso yokuthola konke lokhu konakala kwalokhu kulimaza ebudlelwaneni bethu.
Ngakho-ke uyazi, uma ucabanga ngokuxolela ukungathembeki, kufanele uhlaziye yonke le mininingwane ukuze wenze isinqumo esifanele nesifanele sobabili wena nomlingani wakho.