Noma imuphi umzali onengane eyeve eshumini nambili ekhaya uzokwazi ukuthi isikhathi esinzima leso nokuthi yize befuna ukukhombisa ubunikazi noma ukuzimela, empeleni basencike kakhulu ezimfundisweni nasekuqondisweni kwabazali. Isigaba sobusha siqala lapho kuthomba lapho abafana namantombazane beqala ukukhula ngokukhula komzimba, izinwele eziningi nephunga lomzimba elinamandla.
Izigaba zobusha zigcwele izinguquko ezinqala zomzimba, ezingokwengqondo, ezingokomzwelo nezenhlalo. Intsha ibona sengathi isemjahweni lapho ulayini wokuqala ukude kakhulu… Kufanele baye kude futhi basheshe kakhulu. Yize kunokuhlukahluka ngakunye kumugqa wesikhathi walokhu kukhula, Ubusha ngokuvamile bungacatshangelwa ezigabeni noma ezigabeni ezahlukene.
Zonke izigaba zibalulekile ngoba ziyindlela ezobaholela empilweni yabantu abadala. Bakha ubunikazi babo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo… kuyinqubo yokuvuthwa okufanele bangene kuyo ukuze babe ngabantu abadala abaphilile.
Ngaphambi kokuthomba
Ubusha bangaphambi kobusha buba phakathi kweminyaka eyi-8 nengu-11 futhi yisigaba esidlula phakathi kobuntwana nobusha. Kwabanye ochwepheshe lesi sigaba kusengokwasebuntwaneni kanti kwabanye ngesokuthomba ... Kodwa okuqinisekile ukuthi lesi sigaba sihambisana nokuthomba kubafana namantombazane.
Izinguquko zomzimba kulesi sigaba ziyamangalisa. Amathambo aqala ukukhula futhi izingane zinenkinga enzima yokuhlela ukunyakaza kahle futhi zingaze zizwe nobuhlungu obuthile emajoyintini azo. Mayelana nezinguquko ezingokwengqondo, kunenqubekela phambili yengqondo ngoba bayakwazi ukucabanga ngokungaqondile ngokunemba okukhulu. Bangacabanga ngezimo zokucatshangelwa noma ekusebenzeni okunengqondo nangezibalo. Zikhonjwa ngokobulili bazo. Lesi sigaba asithathwa njengesigaba kokunye futhi kokunye, basihlanganisa nesilandelayo, okungaba yintsha yokuqala.
Ubusha bokuqala
Kwabanye, ukuthomba kwasebusheni kuqala eminyakeni eyi-11 bese kuthatha kuze kube yi-15, kwabanye kuqala nge-10 bese kuqhubeka kuze kube yi-13 ... yize kuvame ukuthi kube ngaphambili kakhulu emantombazaneni, ikakhulukazi lapho kufika ukuya esikhathini kokuqala. Lezi zinguquko zomzimba zifaka ukubonakala kwezinwele zomzimba, ukukhula kwamabele kwamantombazane nezitho zangasese ezinkulu zabafana, nephunga lomzimba elinamandla.
Eqinisweni, lesi yisikhathi sokukhula komuntu esheshayo ngaphandle kobuntwana. Izinguquko eziningi ngasikhathi sinye zibenza basobala, into evame ukuholela izingane ekubeni zizazi futhi ziziqhathanise nontanga yazo.
Ngokuqondene nezinguquko zomzimba eziphawuleka ezwini, umzimba uqala ukuba nokubukeka kwabantu abadala, badinga ukulala okwengeziwe. Izinduna ziqala ukuvela ebusweni. Ngokuphathelene nezinguquko ezingokwengqondo, abafana namantombazane baqala ukufuna izinkomba ezingaphandle kwendawo yomndeni futhi baqala ukwakha ukuzethemba kwabo nokuzethemba kwabo. Bafuna ubuwena futhi bayayihlonipha imibono yabanye.
Basenokucabanga kokuziphendulela yize befuna ukuqonda umbono wabanye abantu. Lokhu akuyona iphutha lomlingiswa; ngenkathi bekwazi ukucabanga okungaqondakali, ama-cortex abo angaphambili asakhula. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungabenza bathambekele kakhulu emathonyeni amabi. Intsha esencane ayiyinhle imisebenzi edinga ukuhlelwa kwesikhathi eside futhi ijwayele ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okungacabangi. Banentshisekelo encane yokwenza izinto nabazali babo futhi bangaqala ukukhuza ngendlela embi. Amaqembu wabangani abaluleke kakhulu futhi ubuningi buvame ukukhala ngekhwalithi uma kukhulunywa ngobungani ...
Ubusha obuphakathi
Izinguquko zomzimba ziyaqhubeka ziye ebusheni obuphakathi, noma cishe iminyaka eyi-14-16. Ukwakheka komzimba nobuningi bamathambo kuqala ukushintsha, ngesisindo somzimba esinciphile sanda kubafana futhi sincipha emantombazaneni.
Ukubaluleka kwamaqembu wabangane okuqala ebusheni kuyakhula, okucasula abazali. Izingxabano nabazali nabanakekeli zivame kakhulu, futhi intsha ichitha isikhathi esiningi nabangane bayo. Ukuxhumana komphakathi kuyanda kufaka phakathi ubudlelwane bezothando futhi kungaholela ekuhlolweni kocansi nasemisebenzini yezocansi esebenzayo.
Lesi kungaba yisikhathi esinzima kubazali nasezinganeni, ngoba yize intsha eneminyaka ephakathi nendawo ingazwelana, icabange, futhi ihlele ngokungaqondakali kunezingane ezisencane, isenakho ukukhohlakala kokungonakali kwengane. Le nkathi ibuye ibonakale nemizwa yokuba namandla onke nokungafi, okuholela engozini eyengeziwe. Banikezwa umvuzo wezenhlalo ohambisana namaqembu ontanga nangokuthatha izingozi ezithokozisayo, Futhi le mivuzo ivame ukudlula ukucabanga okunengqondo noma ukubambezeleka kokuzanelisa.
Ukuthomba okwedlule
Ubusha obudlulile bungadlulela kusuka eminyakeni engu-17 kuye kwengu-21, buye ebudaleni, ikakhulukazi emadodeni. Ngokomzimba, izingane eziningi zizovela zivuthiwe, kepha izingqondo zazo zisathuthukisa izimpawu zokuba mdala: amakhono okuhlela kusengaphambili, ukubambezela ukuzithokozisa nokuzibophezela.
Ukuvuthwa okugcwele kwengqondo kuyaqhubeka nokuba mdala. I-prefrontal cortex ayithuthuki kuze kube maphakathi nawo-XNUMX. Njengoba lesi sigaba siqondana nokufika kweminyaka, intsha isungule inkululeko yayo. Ngokumangazayo, lokhu kubenza babe sethubeni lokucela izeluleko kubazali.
Amaqembu ontanga abe angabalulekile njengendlela yokuchaza ubunikazi bawo. Lokho kungaba yinduduzo kubazali ababone izingane zabo zihlukana phakathi nesikhathi sobusha, zisendleleni eya ebudaleni. Kuyindida ebabayo ukuthi ukukhulisa umuntu ophumelelayo kusho ukulahlekelwa ukuncika ebuntwaneni.
Kulesi sigaba awukho nhlobo umkhondo wokuziphendukela kwemvelo ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo futhi unolwazi oluthe xaxa kwezenhlalo. Baqala ukucabanga isikhathi eside futhi bacabange ngomfanekiso wabo nobuntu babo njengobunikazi babo. Bathanda kakhulu izinqubo zomphakathi ngokujwayelekile, nakulokho okungaphezu kwemibuthano yabo yezenhlalo.