Kuyo yonke impilo yakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe igama elithi "ubandlululo." Lapho kukhulunywa ngokubandlululwa, kubhekiswa esimweni sengqondo esingalungile noma esingalungile (futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke okungekuhle) kumuntu osuselwa kulowo muntu weqembu lomphakathi. Isibonelo, umuntu angahle abe nemibono echemile ngenxa yohlanga lomuntu noma ubulili.
Kwesinye isikhathi badidekile nokucwaswa. Njengoba siphawulile esigabeni sokuqala, ubandlululo yisimo esingalungile kepha uma sikhuluma ngokubandlululwa, sikhuluma ngokuziphatha noma uchungechunge lwezenzo ezimbi kumuntu noma eqenjini labantu ikakhulukazi ngenxa yezocansi, ubuhlanga, isigaba senhlalo, njll.
Umehluko phakathi kokubandlulula nokubandlulula
Umuntu onobandlululo ngeke asebenze ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesimo sabo sengqondo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu onazo eqenjini elithile akudingeki ukuthi alibandlulule. Imvamisa, ubandlululo luvame ukuba nezakhi ezintathu ezibalulekile esimweni sengqondo: ukuthinta, isimilo kanye nokuqonda. Ukubandlululwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubandakanya kuphela indlela yokuziphatha komuntu obandlululayo.
Kunezincazelo ezine zokuqonda ukubandlululwa nokucwaswa kubantu: ubuntu obunamandla, ukungqubuzana phakathi kwabantu, imibono eyeqisayo nokuba nobunikazi obuphathekayo obuphathekayo.
Kungani ubandlululo lukhona
Abantu banobandlululo futhi kaningi balubonisa ngaphandle kwamahloni. Bavame ukuthethelelwa ngokuthi abantu abanezinkinga zengqondo bangaba yingozi, ukuthi abokufika bentshontshe imisebenzi, ukuthi umphakathi we-LGBT wonakalisa izindinganiso zemindeni, ukuthi wonke amaSulumane angamaphekula ngoba akhuliswe ngenzondo, ukuthi abantu abakhuluma kabi abanayo imfundo , njll.
Konke lokhu kubandlululwa akunasisekelo futhi akunasisekelo… pho kungani kwenzeka? Ukubandlulula emphakathini kuvamile futhi kuvame ukwenzeka ngoba abantu bayacasuka lapho amanani abakholelwa ukuthi ahlukile futhi angawo wonke umuntu engalandelwa.
Abantu bavame ukuzizwa bebandlulula abanye uma bephambuka enkambisweni ethathwa njenge "ejwayelekile", abaphula lezi zindlela "ezijwayelekile" zomzimba noma zenhlalo. Kungaba umbala wesikhumba, indlela yokugqoka, inkolo noma imikhuba yamasiko ... uma bephambuka ezindinganisweni zesikhathi eside zomphakathi, ezithathwa njengokuziphatha komphakathi okuvunyelwene ngakho ngokuvumelana ... Kubonakala sengathi ngaleso sikhathi, bazizwa bengakhululekile.
Ukuphikisana nokuchezuka
Ukuqala kulokhu okushiwo ngaphezulu, lapho-ke kungaqondakala ukuthi ukubandlulula emphakathini kungabangelwa ukuphikiswa okujwayelekile kokuchezuka: ukuwohloka kokuvamile, kwalokho esivele sikujwayele.
Uma kuyiqiniso, lapho-ke indlela esicabanga futhi sizizwe ngayo ngabantu ababukeka behlukile, noma abaziphatha ngendlela ehlukile kunokujwayelekile, kufanele ifane nokuthi sicabanga futhi sizizwe kanjani ngezinto eziphazamisa ukujwayeleka kokujwayelekile kwesipiliyoni sethu sokubuka: ipensela eliphume kancane emgqeni wamapensela, isichibi sopende odongeni lokulala sinombala omnyama yegumbi ... nakho konke lokho "okuhlukile" kungakhululekile.
Ubandlululo lubonakala esemncane
Ukungathandi ukuphambuka enkambisweni yezenhlalo kuvela ekuqaleni kwempilo futhi kutholakala cishe kuwo wonke amasiko. Lapho kukhula ukungaphatheki kahle komuntu ngenxa yalokhu "ukuphambuka kokujwayelekile kwezenhlalo okwamukelwe" empilweni ejwayelekile, lapho beya khona ukuguquguquka ngokwengeziwe kubantu abaphula izinkambiso zomphakathi njengokugqoka ngendlela ehlukile, abanezimpawu zomzimba ezehlukile kunokujwayelekile (isikhumba sombala ohlukile, ukukhubazeka ngokomzimba noma ngisho nabantu abane-achondroplasia), noma ukungabekezelelani kwamaqembu amancane.
Ubandlululo alwenzi ube nobandlululo
Ukubandlululwa ngabanye abantu akusho ukuthi uyacwasa. Ingxenye yokungaphatheki kahle laba bantu abanobandlululo ababhekene nakho kuyinto yangaphakathi ababhekana nayo ekuphenduleni lokho "kuphambuka" kwezenhlalo. Yimizwa engemihle yamathumbu, ukumane ubone ukuthi iphethini yezenhlalo iphuliwe, akukho okunye.
Sijwayele ukucabanga ukuthi imicabango nemizwa esinayo mayelana nemindeni yethu, abangane, esisebenza nabo, nabantu esingabazi kungumkhiqizo wokucabanga nolwazi, futhi kususwa kakhulu endleleni esicabanga ngayo ngomhlaba ophathekayo. Kodwa-ke, izimo zenhlalo, lokho esikuthandayo nesingakuthandi ngezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zabantu nezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokuziphatha, kuhlobene kakhulu nezintandokazi zethu emhlabeni ophathekayo kunalokho esingakucabanga. okufundile ngokwesiko kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho siqu.
Imizwa ethonywe
Imizwa yabantu ithonywe ngqo futhi ithinteke ngokuhlangenwe nakho okukhona. Isibonelo, izethulo zemfudumalo yomzimba nezenhlalo empeleni zixhunywe ebuchosheni; kusukela ekuzalweni sihlobanisa imfudumalo yomzimba (ukusondelana nomunye umuntu) nemfudumalo yomphakathi (ukwethembana nokunakekelwa), futhi lo mphumela uqhubeka ezimpilweni zethu zonke.
Ubuhlungu obungokomzimba nobenhlalo nabo buyaqhubeka. Ubuhlungu bezenhlalo obutholwa ukwenqatshwa ngomunye umuntu noma iqembu busebenzisa indawo efanayo yobuchopho njengobunzima bezitho zomzimba, kangangoba ukuthatha izinhlungu ezithengelwe amasonto amabili empeleni kusiza umuntu ukuthi ahlukane nokwehlukana ngoba unokungaphatheki kahle ngokomzimba ngenxa yokungaphatheki kahle ngokomzwelo.
Alikho iphilisi lomlingo lokunciphisa ukubandlulula emphakathini, Kepha kungumsebenzi obanjwa ezingeni lomphakathi futhi okufanele wenziwe ngezinga elikhulu. Inkinga ukuthi abantu abanobandlululo bazama ukubacabanga noma babanikeze ngandlela thile umqondo ochaza imicabango yabo, okwenza lezo zinkolelo ezingamanga abazithathayo ukuze bathethelele ukubandlululwa bakuthathe njengokufanele, kanti empeleni, abakwenzi. Ikona.
Umphakathi kufanele uqale ukuyeka lezi zitethelelo ezingenangqondo zobandlululo ukuze uqale ukubekezelelana futhi uphile ngokuzwana ngaphandle kwenzondo engenasisekelo yabanye abantu edala ukungqubuzana komphakathi. Ukusebenza ngozwela, ukwamukelwa, ukuzethemba nokubekezelelana kungaba yisiqalo esihle senhlalo ukuqeda ubandlululo. Uma sonke besingakwenza, besiyohlala emphakathini obumbene futhi ojabulayo.