Impilo igcwele ukuphoxeka. Ukuphoxeka ngento eyenzeka kuwe kuyinto ejwayelekile kunazo zonke emhlabeni, inqobo nje uma wazi ukuthi ungayisingatha kanjani nokuthi ungafunda kulokho okuhlangenwe nakho. Kukhona umusho odumile ohamba kanjena: "Uma ufunda ukwamukela kunokulinda, uzoba nokudumala okumbalwa"… kuningi ongakufunda kula mazwi ahlakaniphile!
Ngalo mqondo, kufanele wazi ukuthi uma kukhona okuthile okungabikezelwa empilweni, kungukuthi uzozizwa udumele ngandlela thile. Kungenzeka nabazali bakho, nothisha bakho, nabantu ofunda nabo, nabangani bakho, nabantu osebenza nabo, nezimo zempilo ... Kunezikhathi eziningi lapho ungazizwa uphoxekile futhi kuningi kakhulu, kungabangelwa ngezinto ezingaphandle kwakho. Ukukhaphela kuvame ukuba umthombo odumazayo.
Izinto ziyenzeka ...
Kukhona labo abacabanga ukuthi ukuze ungaphoxeki akudingeki ube nokulindela, kepha kunzima kakhulu ukungabi nakho lapho uhlala emhlabeni ofuna ngenkani ukuthi kuphendulwe wena kuphela. Mhlawumbe kulindeleke ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi wenze "okulungile" futhi ulwele ukufeza izinhloso zakho.
Lapho ulungiselela ukuthembela kokungcono kodwa ube ungenakho, kuzoba lapho udumala futhi ungaqondi ukuthi kungani kwenzeka kuwe. Ukudumazeka kudala impendulo yomzimba ebuchosheni bakho. Uzizwa sengathi unenkambiso yokudangala, uye ungabi nandaba, futhi ube nobunzima bokuzizwa unogqozi. Ingqondo yakho ikuvimbela ekubeni uphile ... kepha kuyisinqumo sakho ukuhlala uphoxekile noma uqhubekele phambili.
Izinto ziyenzeka, cabanga ngokwenzekile ... Awukwazi ukukuthonya noma ukuguqula okwenzekile. Kuliqiniso ukuthi ungacabanga ngokwenzekile kuwe ufunde emaphutheni noma kokungahambanga kahle. Ungacabanga ngalokho owawungakwenza nokuthi yini ongakwenzi, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi ukwamukele okwenzekile ngoba iqiniso ukuthi uphoxekile.
Ukhiye wokubhekana nokudumazeka ukungakuvumeli ukuthi kukuthinte esikhathini esizayo, hhayi ukukuvimba, nokungakuyekisi ekubeni ngumuntu ofuna ukuba yikho. Ungafihli ngemuva kokwesaba ukudumazeka futhi, ngoba uzoba nale mizwa futhi. Kufanele ufunde ukubhekana nabo ukuze ngokuzayo, babe yisifundo kunokuba babe yisijeziso.
Umbono wakho uyisihluthulelo
Uma uzizwa udumele kakhulu, beka okuhle kukho konke lokho. Thatha isinyathelo emuva ubheke ukuthi kwenzekeni kuwe kube sengathi ubunesihlalo eNyangeni… konke kubukeka kukuncane futhi kungabalulekile kangako! Ukuzizwa udumele akujabulisi kepha ukubona iqiniso kufanele. Mhlawumbe unezindinganiso eziphakeme nokulindela wena. Ujahe into ethile yangasebenza ngesizathu esithile noma esinye. Lokhu kungabonakala njengethuba lokufunda, lokuphinda ugxile futhi uthuthuke.
Lapho abantu bedumele baba nomunyu futhi bathemba ukuthi konke kuzoshintsha ngokwako. Lokhu akwenzeki, uma ufuna izinguquko kufanele uhambise ... Ukudumala kufanele kukufundise ukuthi ungalandela lokho okufunayo ngempela, uqonde okwenzekile futhi ufunde kulokho okwenzile, wenze ukuthula nakho!
Yamukela ukuthi ukudumazeka kuyingxenye yokuphila
Ukudumazeka kuyingxenye yempilo, kuyinto eyenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu emhlabeni futhi kuzokwenzeka nakuwe. Kubalulekile futhi kuwusizo kuwe ukuthi uqale wenze isimo sibe sesimweni ... akukho okwenzekayo ukuhlangabezana nokudumala! Yize kukudalela imizwelo engathandeki ekuqaleni, kodwa ungafunda ezimweni.
Akekho umuntu oqhubeka nempilo engazizwa edumele. Abanye abantu babhekana nokudumala okukhulu kunabanye, kepha wonke umuntu ukubhekana nakho ngezinga elikhulu noma elincane. Yamukela le mizwa futhi ungafuni ukuyibalekela ... yonke imizwa iyadingeka ukuze qonda impilo futhi wazi ukuthi kufanele ushintshe okuthile noma cha.
Shintsha inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho yangaphakathi
Ukuze unqobe futhi ubhekane nokudumazeka, udinga ukushintsha umqondo wakho wesisulu bese usebenzela engqondweni yokukhula. Ukucabanga kwesisulu kuzokushiya ubambelele kulokho konke okubi okwenzekayo kuwe. Esikhundleni salokho, ukukhula kwengqondo kuzokusiza ukuthi ushintshe umbono wakho futhi ubone ukuthi ngomzamo nangesimo esihle sengqondo, impilo ingaba yindawo emnandi kakhulu, noma ngabe kufanele ubhekane nokudumazeka.
Enye indlela yokuqala ukwenza lokhu ngokushintsha inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho yangaphakathi. Esikhundleni sokukhuluma wedwa kanjena kuyinto embi kakhulu engenzeka kuwe, shintsha ulimi lwakho lube yinto enamandla kakhulu (kodwa ibe iyiqiniso): "Kwenzekile futhi manje ngidinga ukuthola izinyathelo zami ezilandelayo." Noma "Ukuba nokudumala kuyinto ejwayelekile futhi lokhu ngeke kungivimbe ukuthi ngiqhubekele phambili." Noma imicabango efana nokuthi: “Ngidumele, kepha ngubani ongitshela ukuthi kufanele ngihlale kulokho? Ngingenza okuhlukile manje uma ngikhetha. "
Uma kwenzeka uzithola usho izinto ezingezinhle ezinjengokuthi, "Angikwazi ukuqhubeka kanjena," vumela leyo mishwana ukuthi ibe yimbangela yokuzidudula ngokuzithandela ukuze ube nengxoxo eyakhayo nawe. Uma ukwenza nsuku zonke, uzokwazi ukubona zonke izinzuzo ezizokunikeza zona empilweni.
Yenza okusemandleni akho ngohlelo!
Lapho usukwamukele ukuthi kungaba nokudumazeka okuningi empilweni, lapho-ke ungaba namandla ngokwanele ukuba necebo. Le yindlela yokuqhubekela phambili lapho uzizwa udumele noma unamathele entweni ebalulekile empilweni yakho.
Akudingekile ukwenza izinhlelo ezinkulu, yazi nje ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo okufanele uzithathe ukuze uzizwe ungcono ngokomzwelo futhi wazi ukuthi le yindlela engcono kakhulu kuwe. Khumbula ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi indlela enhle ayisho ukuthi iyona elula, ingakusabisa kancane ... kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuzoba yisinqumo esihle kunazo zonke esenziwe.
Qala ngokuthatha izinyathelo ezincane, uhamba ngokuzethemba ohlangothini olwenza uzizwe ungcono nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Ngaleyo ndlela uzokwazi ukuthi awenzi iphutha. Beka umgomo ofuna ukuwufinyelela bese uvele uye kuwo! Ukuzwa uhlobo oluthile lwempumelelo kungathumela umyalezo engqondweni yakho nasemizweni yakho ukuthi ungakwenza, ngakho-ke qhubeka ukwenze! Futhi kuthiwani uma uphinde wadumala? Ukuthi kuzofanele ufunde kokuhlangenwe nakho futhi uhambe futhi!