Ucwaningo olwenziwe yiWake Forest University seluphethe ngokuthi uma unomqondo omuhle wabanye abantu izinkomba zakho zenjabulo zizoba phezulu kakhulu futhi uzoqoqa uchungechunge lwezindinganiso ezinjengomdlandla, izikhulu futhi uzoba ngumuntu onomqondo olinganiselayo. Kuyisiphetho esinengqondo kakhulu ngoba ukubekwa kwakho ekuhlonipheni abanye kuyinkomba yokuthi wanelisekile ngempilo yakho.
Ngokuphambene, Uma ujwayele ukugxeka abantu ozihlanganisa nabo, amathuba akho okungajabuli anda kakhulu. Kulokhu, abantu abagxeka abanye bavame ukuzicabangela bona, banomunyu futhi bavame ukuholela ezinkingeni zokudangala, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa nezinye izinkinga zobuntu.
Ngokwalolu cwaningo, ukucela umuntu oyedwa ukuthi ahlole omunye kusinikeza imininingwane hhayi kuphela ngomuntu ohloliwe kepha nangomhloli uqobo kusukela ifaka imizwa yakho kwabanye.
Yeka ukugxeka abanye
Ngikushiya imibono engu-7 ezokusiza uyeke ukugxeka abanye:
1) Hlakulela ukubaluleka kozwela: zama ukuzibeka endaweni yabanye, uqonde imibono yabo. Akekho owazi ngokweqiniso ezimweni umuntu okufanele abhekane nazo osukwini nosuku. Mhlawumbe ugxeka umuntu ngesimo sakhe esingesihle kanti awazi ukuthi lo muntu unakekela unina imini nobusuku ngoba une-Alzheimer's.
2) Phatha abanye sengathi bangabafowenu.
3) Ngaphambi kokugxeka umuntu, hlaziya ukuthi unjani… Nakanjani uzothola isici.
4) Kungcono ukuthula kunokugxeka umuntu.
5) Gxilisa ukunaka kwakho ezicini ezinhle yomuntu ngaphambili ngezici zayo ezingezinhle.
6) Ungenzi lokho ongeke uthande ukwenziwa kuwe.
Ukuqedela, ngikushiya nevidiyo eyisihloko esifushane somuntu ongusomahlaya nomethuli wethelevishini waseSpain, u-Andreu Buenafuente, isitshela ngalo mkhuba omubi, lowo wokugxeka abanye: