Ungayiphatha kanjani imizwa

Kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukulawula imizwa yakho ukuze kungabi yiyo ekulawulayo. Mhlawumbe ngesinye isikhathi empilweni yakho uke waba nokusabela okukhulu ngokomzwelo kunalokho obekulindele, kodwa wehluleka ukukulawula. Kungenzeka ukuthi lokho kusabela kuthinte lokho obufuna ukukufeza ngesikhathi esithile. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphatha imizwa yakho futhi ungabavumeli bakulawule.

Imizwelo ingakumisa noma ithathe izintambo, udinga ukukhetha phakathi kwamasu ambalwa wokunciphisa umthelela kuwe, ukuze ukwazi ukukuqonda kangcono okungaphakathi kwakho nokuthi kwenzekani eduze kwakho.

Ingabe imizwa yakho iyakulawula?

Sifuna ukuqala iphoyinti lokuxhuma ngemisho embalwa echazayo:

• Ungaba ngumnikazi walokho okwenzayo, kepha ungalokothi uzizwe. - UGustave Flaubert
• Impilo iyi-10% yalokho okwenzeka kuwe no-90% wendlela osabela ngayo kuyo. - UCharles R. Swindoll

Awukwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho, kepha ungafunda ukuyilawula. Ungacabanga ngawo wonke umsebenzi owenzeka ebuchosheni bakho njengokungathi ukwesinye sezimo ezine zokuqonda:

• Isimo sokwesaba esiholela ekulweni, endizeni, ekubandeni, noma ekuziphatheni ngokweqile. Ukwesaba kweqiniso kudala ukusabela okungacabangi okuthatha ubuchopho bethu. Ukusabela komzimba kukuphakama kwesilinganiso senhliziyo nomfutho wegazi, ukukhishwa kwe-adrenaline, nokuphefumula okusheshayo. Ungathola umbono womhubhe, izinguquko zamazinga okushisa, nokuzamazama komhlaba. Ukucabanga kwakho kuzophazamiseka.
• Isimo somzwelo asibi njengokwesaba, kepha sisazizwa ngokuqinile. Ungahle ubonakale uzolile, hhayi ngokuziphatha ngokwesabayo, kepha usazizwa unemizwa enamandla njengothando, inzondo, ukudinwa, amahloni, injabulo, ubuze, noma ukunganaki. Isimo esingokomzwelo singanqotshwa isimo sokwesaba okuluhlaza. Isimo sokundiza ngokomzwelo sithatha isimo esinengqondo.
• Isimo esinengqondo kutholakala lapho umcabango ojulile uvela ngaphandle kokungahlaliseki okukhulu ngokomzwelo.
• Isimo sokuhlakanipha siyatholakala lapho sikwazi ukucabanga okunengqondo, unolwazi, kepha awucatshangwa yimizwa yethu nokwesaba. Ukucabanga, lelo khono lokugcina imicabango nemizwa eminingi ngasikhathi sinye, kunikeza amandla okubuka futhi kuvumele ubuchopho bethu obuphakeme ukuthi bunqume ukuphendula okuhle kakhulu.

Isimo sokuhlakanipha yisimo esifiselekayo, ngoba sisivumela ukuthi sizizwe sinamandla ngaphandle kokudela ukuqonda kwethu. Njenganoma isiphi iseluleko, isimo sakho sehlukile futhi kufanele uzame futhi uvumelanise izindlela ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho.

Umugqa wesikhathi wokulawulwa ngokomzwelo

Impendulo yakho engokomzwelo idlula ezigabeni eziningi. Uma imizwa yakho ikweqa noma unempendulo enobuhlakani, kuya ngokulungiselela kwakho. Ngokusemandleni akho, ufuna ukulungiselela impendulo ngaphambi kwesimo, njengoba imizwa enamandla kungenzeka iphume ekulawuleni lapho ungenelela kamuva.

Ngaphambi kwesimo esingokomzwelo, yenza konke okulandelayo:

• Yakha ukuqina kwakho ngokomzwelo.
• Prakthiza amakhono wokululama ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
• Qinisa ukucabanga kwakho nokuqhela kwengqondo.
• Nciphisa imvamisa noma uvikele izimo ezithile zomzwelo ngokuphelele.
• Thola izimo ezivame kakhulu nezinzima ezingenakugwenywa futhi ngakunye, uthuthukise futhi usebenzise izimpendulo ezihlakaniphile.

Futhi-ke kufanele ugcine engqondweni izeluleko ezilandelayo:

• Isimo siqala: isimo somzwelo siyaqala, sibangelwe yisimo sangempela, esikhunjulwayo noma esicabangwayo. Umzimba wakho ungaqala ukuphendula ngaphandle kokwazi kwakho. Ukucabangela kuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa ngaphambili futhi kusiza ukunciphisa ukuphendula ngokomzimba. Ukunciphisa ubuthakathaka kanye / noma isimo semizwa esikhokhiswe kahle kuzonciphisa noma kuvimbele ukusabela.
• Ukunakwa: ukunaka kwakho kugxile esimweni. Imizwelo yakho ingalawuleka ngokushesha kunokuba ungaphendula ngengqondo yakho ehlakaniphile. Ungaguqula ukusabela okungokomzwelo okukhona ukuze uphendule ngokukhiqiza ngokwengeziwe ngokwenza, kufaka phakathi ukunaka kwakho ngokushesha. Amasu wokululama ngokomzimba azosiza ukunciphisa i-adrenaline noma ezinye izimpendulo zomzimba.
• Ukuhlola: ihlola futhi ihumushe isimo somzwelo. Isimo sokuhlela kwangaphambili sikuvumela ukuthi uhlukanise isimo sakho somzwelo. Lapho sesihlukanisiwe, isixazululo esihleliwe senziwa ngokushesha okukhulu.
• Impendulo: uphendula ngengqondo yemizwa noma ngengqondo ehlakaniphile, kuya ngokulungiselela. Ingqondo engokomzwelo ayizilawuli izinhlelo zokuphendula (ngokwengqondo, ngokuziphatha, ngokomzimba, nangokomzwelo). Shiya isimo bese uzijwayeza ukululama ngokomzimba. Ukucabanga kudala ukuqwashisa nebanga elingokomzwelo njengombukeli kunokuba umhlanganyeli, okuvumela ingqondo yakho ehlakaniphile ukuthi ibuke imizwa futhi icabange ngokuqonda.

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Thuthukisa amandla akho angokomzwelo

Ukuba sengozini kwenza ungabi namandla okuqina ngokomzwelo. Ukuba sengozini namasu okukunciphisa kubalwe ngezansi:

• Ukunganakwa ngokomzwelo. Yakha imizwelo eyakhayo. Yiba nemicabango emihle, ukuqinisekiswa, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okusiza ukulinganisela noma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho okunzima. Gwema izimo ezibanga intukuthelo futhi ufunde ukuqaphela intukuthelo njengomzwelo ongakhiqizi.
• Ukungabi nethemba. Yakha ukubusa. Bamba iqhaza emisebenzini ekusiza uzizwe unekhono futhi usebenza kahle. Lokhu kulwa nokungabi nathemba nokungabi nathemba futhi kuthuthukisa ukuzikhandla.
• Inhlalakahle yomzimba. Gcina ingqondo nomzimba wakho uphilile ngokuvakasha njalo kodokotela, ngokudla nangokwenza umsebenzi. Ukuzivikela okuphansi futhi kusengozini yokungenwa yizifo. Hambela njalo ochwepheshe bezempilo abafanele.
• Intukuthelo noma ukucindezeleka. Ungangeni esimeni esisha ngemizwa enamandla. Gwema noma ubambezele, uma kungenzeka. Zijwayeze okunye ukungenelela, kufaka phakathi ukuphumula noma ukuzindla.
• Isizungu. Zizungeze nabangane futhi ube nomusa futhi usize abanye ngangokunokwenzeka.
• Ukukhathala noma ukukhathala. Hlela kusengaphambili ukuthola ukulala amahora angama-7-9 ubusuku ngabunye. Zivocavoca njalo ukuze ube nemiphumela engokomzwelo yokusebenza komzimba.

Kubalulekile ngendlela efanayo ukuthi uyiqambe imizwa yakho, ukuthi uyibhale, ukuthi wazi ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe nokuthi kungani kwenzeka kuwe. Ngale ndlela ungalindela leyo mizwa ngaphambi kokuba yenzeke futhi kuzoba lula kakhulu ukuyilawula ngokusemandleni akho.. Yizwa imizwa ngayinye ukuze ukwazi ukuyibona futhi ngaleyo ndlela uzoba uchwepheshe ngokwengeziwe emizweni yakho nokuthi ikuthinta kanjani ngaphakathi nangaphandle.