Kwabanye abantu, ukusatshalaliswa kuyindlela yokungahloniphi labo abaphambi kwabo. Kuyindlela yamadoda yokuhlala evule imilenze futhi kwabanye, lokho akubekezeleleki. Kwabanye, kumane nje kuyisikhundla ngaphandle kokuningi. Okucacayo ukuthi ukusatshalaliswa kwamandla kudala impikiswano futhi kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kuyini nokuthi kungani kwenzeka ...
Kwakungu-2014 lapho leli gama laziwa khona, kepha le nkinga yaziwa iminyaka ethile, lapho kubonakala sengathi abesilisa bahlala endaweni engaphezulu kwesidingo sokuhlala, ikakhulukazi ezokuthutha zomphakathi ukusabalalisa noma ukwelula imilenze kakhulu. Lokhu kuziphatha kuphikiswana ngakho kakhulu, futhi kubonakala sengathi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi uma kunesikhala esincane futhi kukhona abantu ababili okufanele bahlale phansi, kufanele uqoqe kancane ukuze wonke umuntu akwazi ukungena. Ngemuva kwalokho, Kuthiwani ngokusatshalaliswa kwabantu futhi kungani kubanga isidumo esingaka?
Ingabe kuyinkinga ngempela?
Kwabanye, kubhekwa njengenkinga, ikakhulukazi ezitimeleni noma ezitimeleni ezihamba ngaphansi. Kubukeka sengathi abantu abangaphezu kwengxenye eyodwa kwezintathu besilisa ababhebhetheka esitimeleni lapho behlala phansi… benganakile. Abakwenzi njengokucasula futhi abafuni ukucasula abanye abagibeli ngezinto zokuhamba zomphakathi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bangu-5% abesifazane nabo abazizwa ngaleyo ndlela futhi abakwenzi 'ukucasula' abantu besilisa. Lokhu kumane kuyindlela yokuhlala.
Kuyini okuyiqiniso, ukuthi uma kunomgibeli ohleli evule imilenze bengekho abanye abagibeli nokuthi uma abanye abagibeli behleli eduze kwakhe abalungisi ukuma kwabo yize imoto igcwele abantu, kusho ukuthi ukungahloniphi nemfundo eyisisekelo kwabanye.
Kunocwaningo olukhombisa ukuthi abesilisa okungenzeka ukuthi basatshalaliswe baphakathi kweminyaka engama-30 nengama-49 ubudala. Eminyakeni edlule iphesenti lingcono futhi ngamaqembu angaphezu kweminyaka engama-50 yehliswa kakhulu.
Njengamanje kube nemikhankaso yokuzama ukuqeda ngokuphelele le ndlela yokuziphatha noma ukuma uma uhleli ezindaweni zomphakathi, kepha kubukeka sengathi lokhu akusizanga ngalutho. Kusekhona abesilisa (nabesifazane) abahlala bewela ekusatshalalisweni.
Kungani kwenzeka
Kukhona labo abachaza ukuthi ukusatshalaliswa kwamalungelo kuyilungelo eligcinelwe abesilisa ngoba bafuna indawo ethe xaxa ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, becabanga ngokunethezeka kwabo bese beyeka inhlalakahle yabanye. Okungukuthi, Banxusa ukuthi abantu abenza lolu hlobo lokuma uma behleli ezindaweni zomphakathi bayazithanda futhi abafundile kahle.
Ngokusho kwabanye, indlela yokuveza amandla abo kwabanye, ngokusho kombono wabesifazane, kuyindlela yokuxhumanisa isikhundla nobukhokho, indlela yokuhlala isikhala esiningi sokuzizwa umdala futhi umkhulu kunabanye, indlela yokuba uphakeme kunabanye futhi lokho futhi kukuvumela ukuthi uzizwe ukhululekile.
Abanye bathi kwamanye amadoda ahleli nemilenze ivaliwe kungaba buhlungu ngenxa ye-physiognomy yesilisa. Kukhona nabaphenyi abenza kucace ukuthi amadoda ahlala kaningi ngaleyo ndlela ngoba ngamahlombe abo ebanzi kunamahips uma kuqhathaniswa nabesifazane, leyo ndlela yokuhlala iphuma cishe ngokwemvelo futhi ayifani nanoma yini yangaphakathi okufanele uyibone ngamandla noma ngokuletha abanye bebheke kubo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi isikhala esisele phakathi kwamadolo sihambisana nesikhala esiphakathi kwamahlombe cishe, ngakho i-engeli ibanzi.
Futhi, ngokuvula imilenze bathatha indawo encane enqoleni ukuze iphaseji likhululeke ukuhamba kunokuthi uma beshiya imilenze ifana ngaphambili, ethatha isikhala esiningi futhi engaphazamisa abagibeli lapho bedlula.
Mhlawumbe kunokuthile okungokwesiko?
Akunasizathu esicacile esichaza isimo sokusatshalaliswa kwamandla, kuyinto nje eyenzekayo futhi eqhubeka nokwenzeka ngoba ikhona. Likhona empilweni yansuku zonke yanoma ngubani osebenzisa izithuthi zomphakathi noma ohlala eduze kwabanye abantu ezindaweni zomphakathi. Kuyisikhundla esivamile emadodeni ukuthi yize ingasetshenziswa ngamadoda ayi-100% ngaso sonke isikhathi, kujwayelekile.
Okwamanje akwaziwa ukuthi ngabe kunemvelaphi yezinto eziphilayo noma uma kunalokho kuyinto ethile engokwesiko. Okuqinisekile ukuthi le nto ayizukuqashelwa yingakho kukhona abantu nabaphenyi abacwaninga isizathu salesi simo ukuthola izimpendulo. Kungenzeka ukuthi inokuningi okuphathelene nezakhi zofuzo kanye namaphethini amasiko ajwayelekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kunoma ikuphi, okusobala ukuthi ukuhlala nemilenze ivuliwe noma kuvaliwe ezintweni zokuhamba zomphakathi, hhayi ngokwesiko noma ngokwebhayoloji, kuzoncika kumuntu ofanayo nokuthi akunakwenzeka ukuthi indoda ehleli nalesosimo ifuna ukuvusa ulaka kusuka kumuntu. Okungathetheleleki yiminyakazo enamandla noma imikhankaso emelene nalesi senzo enobudlova nenenhlonipho encane kulabo abazizwa ngale ndlela, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi ngokuma kwabo babanga noma iluphi uhlobo lwentukuthelo ngamaqembu amancane.
Ukufafaza amanzi noma i-bleach ebhulukweni labesilisa kuphela njengendlela yokungeneliseki ngesimo akusho ukuthi kufanelekile futhi kungashiwo ukuthi ngandlela thile kuyindlela enolaka ekuziphatheni kokungazibandakanyi. Kuyadingeka ukukwazisa umphakathi ngalokhu futhi ukwazi ukuqonda ukuthi isikhundla uma sikhathaza omunye kufanele silungiswe, kepha ngaphandle kwalokhu okudinga ukuthi kusetshenziswe udlame. Imayelana nemfundo nokuhlalisana okusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni, kungakhathalekile ubulili ... Uma welula imilenze yakho esitimeleni futhi bakhathaza abanye abahambi, lungisa ukuma kwakho kuphele lapho.