Incwadi entsha ye I-Murray straus, umsunguli nomqondisi-co-co we-Family Research Laboratory kanye noprofesa osafufusa wezenhlalo eNyuvesi yaseNew Hampshire, uhlanganisa ndawonye okungaphezulu iminyaka engamashumi amane yocwaningo ngalokho okubizwa ngokushaywa kwezimbongolo. Iziphetho zezifundo zabo ukuthi lolu hlobo lokujeziswa lubambezela ukukhula kwengqondo, lwenyusa isimilo sokungazithandi umphakathi nokuziphatha kobugebengu.
UStraus ubhale Udlame Olukhulu ('The Primordial Violence') futhi kuyo usikhombisa izizathu zokuthi kungani abazali beshaya abathandekayo babo. Lezi zizathu zibandakanya okungaphezulu kokulungisa ukungaziphathi kahle. Inikeza ubufakazi bomphumela wokushaywa ezinganeni nokuthi yini engenziwa ukuqeda lolu hlobo lokujeziswa.
Izici zencwadi idatha yesikhathi eside evela emindenini engaphezu kwengu-7000 e-US kanye nemiphumela yocwaningo emazweni angama-32. Kusikhombisa izinga okushaywa ngalo isinqe emasikweni ahlukene kanye nemiphumela elandelayo yokusetshenziswa kwalo ezinganeni nasemphakathini.
UStraus usho okulandelayo: Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukushaya kulungisa isimilo esibi. Kepha futhi bakhombisa ukuthi ukushaya akusebenzi kangcono kunezinye izindlela zokulungisa, njengokuncisha ingane amalungelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucwaningo lukhombisa ngokusobala lokho Izinzuzo zokushaya nge-Butt ziza ngezindleko ezinkulu. Bacabanga ukuthi ukuncipha kwesibopho phakathi kwabazali nezingane nokwanda kwamathuba okuthi ingane isebenzise udlame olubhekiswe kwabanye (ofunda nabo, abazali, abanye abantu abadala noma abalingani). Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukushaya isinqe kubambezela ukukhula kwengqondo kunciphise nethuba lokuthi ingane isiqede kahle isikole.
Izifundo ezingaphezu kuka-100 zichaze kabanzi le miphumela engemihle yokushaywa kwesinqe, ngezinga lesivumelwano se-90%. Cishe asikho esinye isici sokuziphatha kwabazali nokuziphatha kwengane lapho imiphumela ingaguquguquki khona »kusho.
Incwadi ikhuthaza izinguquko zenqubomgomo lokho kungadala ukuyeka ngokuphelele ukushaywa embongolweni. Ungasebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zokukhangisa lapho ubona khona ukuthi lolu hlobo lokujeziswa lubi kakhulu. Lokhu kufanele kuhambisane nezinqubomgomo zokusiza abazali abanezinkinga nezingane zabo.
I-Straus ine- Isiphakamiso semikhosi efana nezinsuku zokuzalwa noma uKhisimusi: «Uma ufuna isipho esandisa amathuba okuthi ingane yakho ibe nokuphila okujabulisayo nokunempilo futhi okubandakanya amathuba amaningi okuthi ithole umsebenzi omuhle futhi ibe nomshado ongenalo udlame, Zibophezele ezinganeni zakho ukuthi ungaphinde uzishaye. Kungenzeka bakhulise inhlonipho nothando lwakho ngawe, futhi nakanjani bazokusiza ugcine isithembiso sakho. "
«Amazwe angaphezu kwamashumi amabili avimbela ukushaywa kwezimbongolo. Kukhona ukuvumelana okuvelayo ukuthi lokhu kuyilungelo lomuntu eliyisisekelo ezinganeni. IZizwe Ezihlangene zicela zonke izizwe ukuthi zivimbele lolu hlobo lokujeziswa. Ukuzigwema ngeke kwehlise kuphela ubungozi bobugebengu nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo, kodwa futhi kuzolethela izingane ilungelo lokukhululeka ekuhlaselweni ngokomzimba egameni lokukhuzwa. ' Kusho uStraus.
Ebhekwa kabanzi njengomcwaningi ovelele emkhakheni wakhe, uStraus ufunde ngezimpama Amasampula amakhulu nabamele abazali baseMelika kusukela ngo-1969. Uthole izindondo eziningi nemiklomelo ngocwaningo lwakhe.
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