Izinkinga zobudlelwano zivela ngenxa yezizathu eziningi, futhi ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi akunakugwenywa ukuthi kuvele umehluko omncane ongadala ukuthi singene empikiswaneni, ngakho-ke ekugcineni ingxabano iyaphela. Ngokuya ngendlela esiyiphatha ngayo, sizothola ukulungiswa okungcono noma okubi kakhulu. Ngaleso sizathu sizokunikeza amathiphu athile ukuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano esizozama ukukusiza naye ukuphuma kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwesimo salesi sitayela othola kuso.
Izizathu eziyinhloko zokuvela kwezinkinga zobudlelwano
Eqinisweni, kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani izinkinga zingavela phakathi kwabashadile, futhi ukuthi kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi umbhangqwana ngamunye ungumhlaba, ngakho-ke akukho siphetho noma umbono oqondile ongathathwa maqondana nalokhu.
Kodwa-ke, kunezizathu ezithile esingazibheka njengokujwayelekile noma ezivamile ezimweni eziningi, njengezinkinga ezivela kubantu besithathu, futhi ngalomqondo kujwayelekile ukuthi lowo muntu wesithathu abe ngumuntu womndeni.
Kunezinkinga eziningi ezivela ezinqumweni ezithathwa ngokubumbana maqondana nokusebenzelana nabantu emndenini noma ngisho nangaphandle kwawo, kepha futhi kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kunezinye izizathu ezijwayelekile ezifana nokuthi isimo siyasonteka ngezinye izinkinga, phakathi kwazo esingagqamisa nezifo.
Yize kubonakala kungenangqondo, iqiniso ukuthi kunezifo eziningi ezingagcina zidale izinkinga kwabashadile, ngendlela efanayo nezinye izinto ezinjengokungasebenzi noma ukungabi nemali eyanele zibuthinta kabi ubudlelwano.
Kepha kunesizathu esingasithatha njengesimbangela esiyinhloko salolu hlobo lwesimo, okuyiqiniso lokuthi iminyaka iyahamba, futhi ekugcineni ubukhosi buphela busithathe, ngendlela yokuthi izinkinga ezincane ziqale ukuvela lokho, okuhlelwe kahle, Akudingeki benze okubi, kepha uma sibayeka baqoqane, ekugcineni sithola ukuthi baba udonga phakathi kwethu ngempumelelo.
Kusukela endleleni esihlela ngayo amaholide, ukuphuma noma ukuhlala ekhaya, ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye noma ukuhlonipha ubumfihlo bomunye nomunye, labo bantu abangasifanelekeli omunye nomunye wethu, imisebenzi eyagcina isibambile, njll.
Ngamafuphi, kunezizathu eziningi kakhulu zokuthi kungani lezi zinkinga zenzeka, ukuthi akukho zithandani ezingakaze zidlule kuzo, futhi ngendlela efanayo futhi sikukhumbuza ukuthi yonke imibhangqwana ifinyelela isikhathi lapho kufanele ukunqoba inkinga enamandla lokho kuvame ukuqala enkingeni engabalulekile kangako. Lesi yisikhathi sokujika lapho, uma singeke sibunqobe, ubudlelwano buzophela ngokuphelele, kepha uma siphumelela, buvele buqine kangangokuba ngeke kuze kugcine kuphuliwe.
Yingakho usuvele uyazi ukuthi, eminyakeni edlule, kuzodingeka ubhekane neyodwa noma eziningi zalezi zinkinga, ngakho-ke kuhle ukuthi ufunde uchungechunge lwamaqhinga ukuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano ngenhloso yokwenza inkinga ibe ncane ngangokunokwenzeka nokuthi, impela, singaphuma kukho sinqobile.
Amasu wokuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano
Kunamaqhinga ahlukene esizokwazi ukuxazulula lesi simo ngawo. Sikukhumbuza ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi, ngokuya ngobudlelwano obubodwa, amaqhinga esizoxoxa ngawo ngezansi azoshintshwa abe sezingeni elingcono noma elibi kakhulu, ukuze, ngokususelwa ezinkingeni eziqubuke phakathi wena, sikucebisa ukuthi uzibheke zonke bese ukhetha ngaphezu kwakho konke lokho ocabanga ukuthi kungasiza kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho.
I-Monotony, enye yezinkinga ezinkulu
Akungabazeki ukuthi i-monotony ingenye yezinkinga ezinkulu ezingavela kwabashadikazi, ngakho-ke ilapha impela lapho sizohlasela khona ngemiphumela emihle kakhulu.
Ukwephula isizungu kuzoba inhloso yethu enkulu, futhi ngokwenza lokhu sizovuselela leyo mizwa nemizwa esasiphila kuyo eminyakeni eyedlule, lapho udonga luzowela ngaphansi kwesisindo sayo.
Umqondo kungaba ukuguqula ngokuphelele inqubo yansuku zonke, kepha kusobala ukuthi kufanele sibhekane nochungechunge lwemithwalo yemfanelo esingeke sikwazi ukuyishaya indiva. Kodwa-ke, singahlaziya ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuwashintsha kancane, futhi-ke, kuzodingeka sigxile esikhathini samahhala ngendlela efanelekile.
Kuzofanele silalele umlingani wethu ukuze sazi ukuthi bafuna ukwenzani, noma singamane sibamangaze ngesipho esihlobene nomsebenzi othile owawukwenza esikhathini esidlule futhi esikugcwalisile, ngoba inhloso ngokuyisisekelo ukuqala ukuguqula indlela zithuthukisa impilo yakho, engeke nje izosizuzisa njengombhangqwana, kepha futhi inenzuzo ebalulekile yomuntu ngamunye.
Khumbula ukuthi ngokuvamile singashintsha inqubo ngokwandisa umsebenziNjengoba ukuhlala phansi kuyinto njengokulandela okujwayelekile ngokuzenzekelayo eminyakeni edlule, ngakho-ke kufanele senze umzamo omncane wokukhulisa umsebenzi futhi futhi sikwenze nomuntu esimthandayo.
Inhloso ukuthi nichitha isikhathi ndawonye nenza izinto enizithandayo nobabili, lapho uzobona khona ukuthi izinto zixazululwa kangcono kakhulu kunalokho okungase kubonakale ekuqaleni.
Ukushintsha kwesimo futhi uvuselele ubuhlobo bakho
Ukwephula i-monotony kungenye yezeluleko ezinhle kakhulu esingakunika zona, kepha sifuna ukuqhubekela phambili kancane futhi sikukhuthaze ukuthi ushintshe isimo sakho ngokuphelele ngazo zonke izindlela.
Okusho ukuthi, uma uqinisekile ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka ndawonye futhi izibopho noma isimo asikuvumeli ukuthi uqede ngokuphelele i-monotony, inketho enhle ukuyeka ukuphuma ngezindawo ophuma kuzo bese uqala ukushintsha noma iyiphi indawo oya kuyo, kepha Impela sizohamba ibanga elingaphezulu futhi sihambe, kungaba unomphela noma okwesikhashana.
Le yindlela engcono yokushintsha ngokuphelele inqubo, ukuze siqale iphrojekthi entsha phakathi kwethu sobabili ezosinika amandla amaningi futhi futhi izosikhumbuza ngalezo zinzwa esingakaze sizibone isikhathi eside.
Buyela ekubeni nemininingwane nomlingani wakho
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi siphinde silahlekelwe umkhuba wokuba nemininingwane nozakwethu, futhi lokho kwenza sobabili sizizwe sisodwa. Khumbula injabulo eyamnika yona ngenkathi umnika leyo mininingwane emincane, bese ucabanga ukuthi kunezinto eziningi abasazithanda kodwa agcine esezikhohliwe ngoba wazishiya phambilini.
Kusukela ekunikezeni imbali elula noma isixha noma i-teddy, iholide, ukuphunyuka okuncane, noma ngokujwayelekile noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemininingwane, ngokungangabazeki kuzoba isenzo esizobuthuthukisa kakhulu ubudlelwane bakho, kepha kulokhu kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale Yazi ukuthi isipho kufanele singalindelekile, okungukuthi, akufanele silinde umgubho, usuku lokuzalwa, njll., kepha nganoma yiluphi usuku kufanele uzethule ngalesi senzo esincane, ukwanga okukhulu nokuqabula kulabo unikeze hhayi kudala kungabonakala.
Sekuyisikhathi sokusebenza ukuxhumana futhi
Ubudlelwano buyephulwa ngokushoda kokuxhumana. Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabashadile kubalulekile, ngoba kungenjalo asisoze sazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela, noma ukuthi omunye umuntu uzizwa kanjani.
Ngokuxhumana sizothola imininingwane ebaluleke kakhulu esingasebenzisana nayo ukuze siqhubeke nokugcina leyo nhlansi kanye nomlingo obulokhu usivezile.
Ngalo mqondo, kufanele sibe qotho kozakwethu, kepha sikhumbule ukuthi kufanele sikwenze ngokubona kwalokho esikuzwayo ngaye, okungukuthi, akumele sithathwe yimizwa esinayo ngalesi sikhathi lapho inkinga ikhona isivele ikhona phakathi kwethu, Kunalokho, kufanele sime, siphefumule futhi siqale ukucabanga njengoba besizoba namasonto ambalwa ngaphambi kokuthi konke lokhu kuqhume.
Ngaleso sizathu kubaluleke kakhulu ukusebenza ukuxhumana ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ngale ndlela ngeke nje sigweme ukufinyelela kulolu hlobo lwezinkinga nezinkinga zobudlelwano, kepha futhi, uma kwenzeka sihlangana nabo, kuzoba namathuba amaningi okusombulula ngomphumela omuhle nokuvuselela uthando lwethu futhi, phakathi kokunye ngoba sizobe sesizichaze izizathu zokuthi kungani zenzekile.
Uma kudingeka, zinike isikhathi sokucabangisisa
Futhi uma ngemuva kokusebenzisa wonke amaqhinga wangaphambilini sibona ukuthi le nto ayixazululiwe ngokuphelele, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isikhathi esithile ukuyicabangisisa, okubalulekile ukuthi sihlukanise isikhathi sokucabanga ngokwethu ngalokho esizizwa ngakho ngempela lobo budlelwano.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi wonke umuntu uhamba eyakhe indlela eya ephathini nabangane, kepha kufanele kube yisikhathi sokuzindla ngaphandle kokuzwa ingcindezi yalabo abashadayo, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke yisipiliyoni esizokwazi ukusibona uma sifuna ngempela ukuqhubeka naloyo muntu futhi siyabakhumbula ngesikhathi bengekho, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, sebevele bayekile ukusho ukuthi babeqonde ukuthini kithi.
Noma ngabe yisiphi isinqumo osithathayo, okubalulekile ukuthi ukwenze ngonembeza nokuthi ufunde wonke la macebiso esikunikeza wona ukuxazulula izinkinga zobudlelwano esiqiniseke ngokuphelele ukuthi, uma uzithobela ngenhliziyo yakho nangokukhohlisa Ukuqhubekela phambili Uzodlula kulesi sihlava futhi, njengoba sikutshele ekuqaleni, ubudlelwane bakho buzoqina kakhulu futhi buqine, okuzothuthuka kakhulu kusuka manje.
Ngivumele ngishiye la mazwana, José Miguel, ngikuthole kuyindlela enothisa kakhulu.
Kungani imininingwane ibalulekile?
Bonke ubudlelwano, noma ubuningi obukhulu, bazalelwe ukuheha, umuntu uyabonwa, lo muntu wenza umbono omuhle, omuhle kithi, osivumela ukuthi sicabange ngamathuba okusungula ubudlelwano njengezithandani.
Kusukela kule nqubo yokuheha, abantu bazivulela ethubeni lokuthi bangasungula inqubo yokuhlangana kabusha, egcwele imicikilisho eminingi yenhlalo:
• Izingcingo ziyaqala.
• Ukuvakasha kokuphuza ikhofi noma ama-movie kuhlanganiswa.
• Bayakhulumisana ekuqaleni nasekupheleni kosuku.
• Kwasungulwa ulimi olusebenza ngempumelelo.
• Kukhona ukusondelana okukhulu.
• Izikhala ziyavulelwa ukuhlangabeza umndeni womunye nomunye.
• Kunamakhulu emiyalezo.
Uhlu lukhulu kakhulu, uma lokhu kwenzeka kancane kancane, izinga lentshisekelo nokusondelana kuyakhula, konke kuqala kanjena, kulesi sigaba sokuqala, ngaphezu kwalokho, imininingwane eqhubekayo iyingxenye yale nqubo yokuqala, inhloso yayo enkulu ukwenza umuntu azizwe ethanda umuntu, inhlalakahle, ekhuluma nabantu ngiyakuthanda futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ngiyakuthanda.
Amakhadi, imiyalezo, izimbali, ushokoledi, izilwane ezifakiwe, izincwadi ziyavela, njengoba izithandani zazana, imininingwane yenziwe yaba ngeyakho, ngoba sifunda ukwazi ukunambitheka nokuthandwa omunye umuntu, yonke imininingwane iba ku- "I ngikunake ", ku-" Ngiyakuthanda ", ku" ngilapha "ku" Ngizibona nginawe ".
Ngokudabukisayo ngemuva kwalesi sigaba, uma ubuhlobo sebusunguliwe, sekuba nokuthambekela okunamandla kwendlela ejwayelekile yokusibamba, bese sishiya imininingwane ngemuva. Qaphela! Imininingwane iyindlela ebaluleke kakhulu yothando, manje kungani ngibalulekile? Kulula kakhulu:
• Bazwakalisa ukunaka.
• Omunye umuntu wenziwa ukuthi ezwe ukuthi bakhona empilweni yethu yansuku zonke.
• Ziwuphawu lokuthi siya ngokuya simazi kangcono omunye umuntu.
• Imininingwane yenza izithandani zibone ukuthi sithembisene umshado.
• Bazwakalisa ukuthi ngiyakuthanda, ngiyakuthanda, baveza ukuthi ngilapha futhi siya phambili.
• Bakhombisa ukuzibophezela, ukwethembana, ukungafihli ukwakha ubudlelwano.
Kepha, lapho lezi zinyamalala, ngokudabukisayo umyalezo uphikisana:
• Imibono nemizwa iyavela ebuza izisekelo zobudlelwano.
• Demotivation uyondliwa.
• Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ukudabuka kwenhliziyo kuqala ukuba yingxenye yale nqubo yobudlelwano.
Imininingwane iyisampula esebenzayo yokwakha ubudlelwano:
• Zenza umuntu akwazi ukugcina ukukhuthazeka okusebenzayo.
• Bathanda ukuthambekela okuqinile othandweni, ekuvulekeni.
Kepha uma usuka ekunotheni kwemininingwane, ngokungabikho kwayo, umyalezo uhluke ngokuphelele:
• Kuvela izipoki.
• Imibuzo.
• Ukuthukuthela kuyasithatha.
• Uma lokhu kuziphatha kungaphendukanga, ukuqhekeka kwemizwelo kungabuthatha ubuhlobo.
Ukuboniswa kothando kufanele kube njalo futhi njalo, nsuku zonke ungalindi izinsuku ezikhethekile noma izikhathi ezihlukile, impela lezi zibalulekile, kepha imininingwane ifanekisela ukukhetha okuhle futhi iqinisa umdlandla wokuba ndawonye. Awukwazi ukungazinaki lezi zindlela zothando, ngoba yizo ezinikeza incazelo nokuqukethwe ebudlelwaneni.
Ingabe uyasebenza kule nqubo?
Ngabe unake lokho okubalulekile kumlingani wakho?
Ngabe niyacacelwa ngokubaluleka kwemininingwane empilweni yenu njengabantu abashadile?
Ngabe uyinakile imininingwane ebudlelwaneni bakho?
Yibukeze, futhi uma kunjalo, uma belahlekile kuwe, le nkulumo ngemininingwane idinga ukuvuselelwa ngokomzwelo, manje, sekuyisikhathi sokubuyela kuyo, futhi ukwenze manje, ngoba ukuqaqamba kwenhliziyo kuvela lapho uyeka ukusebenza ekwakhiweni okuhle zothando.