Cabanga ukuthi uvalelwe embhoshongweni futhi ufuna ukuphuma. Cha, okungcono kakhulu, ake ucabange ukuthi othile ukhiyelwe embhoshongweni. Ngalesi sibonisi ukhuthaza amandla akho okudala: kuvela ukuthi sinobuchule obukhulu ekuxazululeni izinkinga zabanye abantu kunokuxazulula ezethu.
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Utitjhere U-Evan Polman, waseNew York University kanye noprofesa UKyle emich, wase-University of Ithaca, wenza ucwaningo lokwazi, kancane, ngaphansi kweziphi izimo ubuciko bethu bukhula.
Ukuze benze lokhu, baqhuba isifundo lapho bacela khona abafundi abangu-137 baseyunivesithi ukuba baxazulule le phazili elandelayo:
«Isiboshwa sasizama ukweqa embhoshongweni. Uthole intambo esitokisini sakhe, ubude bayo obuyisigamu sebanga ukufinyelela emhlabathini ngokuphepha. Wahlukanisa intambo phakathi, wabophela izingxenye zombili, wasinda. Wakwenza kanjani lokho? »
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Abafundi bahlukaniswe ngamaqembu amabili: iqembu lokuqala kwakudingeka lixazulule iphazili becabanga ukuthi nabo ngokwabo bayisiboshwa. Elinye iqembu bekufanele lithole isisombululo ukucabanga ukuthi isiboshwa ngomunye umuntu.
Yikuphi ukubona ngeso okusebenze kahle kakhulu? Kusuka eqenjini lokuqala (labo ababecabanga ukuthi yisiboshwa), ngaphansi kwengxenye (48%) wabahlanganyeli baxazulule iphazili. Kodwa-ke, eqenjini lesibili, cishe okubili kokuthathu (66%) bathole isisombululo.
UPolman no-Emich bathole imiphumela efanayo kwezinye izifundo ezihlobene:
Kwesinye sazo, ababambiqhaza bacelwa ukuthi badwebe umfokazi lapho, kamuva, kungaba bona noma omunye umuntu, bezobhala indaba emfushane.
Kwesinye isifundo, bacele ababambiqhaza ukuthi beze nemibono yezipho yabo, umuntu osondelene nabo, noma umuntu abebengamazi nhlobo.
Njengasemgqonyeni wombhoshongo, ababambiqhaza bakhiqize imibono eminingi yokudala kanye nezixazululo ezingcono, lapho begxile komunye umuntu kunokuba babheke bona.
Le miphumela ayibangelwa "amandla okudala okuzidela", kepha iqinisa umbono wokuthi lapho sicabanga ngezimo esizithola sikuzo, sithambekele ekucabangeni ngendlela ephathekayo futhi kubiza thina kakhulu ukwenza imibono emisha. Kodwa-ke, lapho sicabanga ngezimo abanye abazithola bekuzo (ikakhulukazi izimo ezikude neqiniso lethu), sithambekele kukho sandise umbono wethu nokwenza imibono eminingi engaqondakali (okudala ngokwengeziwe).
ULisa Bodell, Umphathi Omkhulu Wenkampani Yekusasa, yenza izivivinyo "zokukhiqiza imibono" kulandela le mbono yobuciko: Icela amaqembu osebenzisana nawo ukuba acabange umuntu oncintisana naye osesimweni esifana ncamashi nenhlangano abasebenza kuyo, (okungukuthi, anamandla afanayo, ubuthakathaka futhi anezimo ezifanayo zemakethe).
Amaqembu bese enza uhlu: ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngazo zonke izindlela angasebenzisa ngazo amathuba okuthuthukisa ibhizinisi futhi, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngazo zonke izinsongo ezingaphoqa inkampani ukuthi ivale iminyango yayo .
UBodell uyakukholelwa lokho Ukukhuthaza lolu shintsho ngombono kukhiqiza imibono engcono kuneyokuzivocavoca kwendabuko.
“Umdlalo” wesizukulwane somqondo kaBodell usebenza ngobuhlakani njengoba kwenza iphazili yombhoshongo: uguqule isimo sangempela sibe esingaqondakali; ngaleyo ndlela kusiza ingqondo ukuthi ikhiqize izixazululo eziningi zokudala.
Ingabe unenkinga yokuxazulula futhi awazi ukuthi ubhekane kanjani nayo? Nweba umbono wakho ngokucabanga ukuthi ngomunye umuntu onenkinga ... Ungasithola isixazululo ngokushesha kunokuba ubulindele.
(Uma usavaleleke embhoshongweni futhi ungazi ukuthi isiboshwa siphumelele kanjani ukuphuma, nasi isixazululo: Uhlukanise intambo ngobude obuyisigamu, wabophela ndawonye izingxenye ezimbili wabaleka).
Uma ngabe uyithandile le ndatshana, yabelana ngayo nabangani bakho!