Ulimi lomzimba (ulimi olungakhulumi ngamazwi) lubaluleke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokuxhumana. Indlela umuntu asukuma ngayo, indlela ahamba ngayo, akushoyo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa amagama ... konke lokhu kuthumela imiyalezo kwabanye ngokuthi ungubani nokuthi ucabanga kanjani. Ngalesi sizathu, uma ufuna ukusebenzisa lokhu okwengeziwe ekuxhumaneni futhi ukusizakale ukuze uzizwe uzethemba ngokwengeziwe, qhubeka ufunda.
Ulimi lomzimba lubala ama-80% wokuxhumana. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abantu benza izahlulelo nokucabanga ngabanye okungenzeka bangakwazi, ngenxa nje yokuthi baziveza kanjani ngomzimba. Ngamanye amagama, ukuma izingalo zakho ziwele kungabonakala kungeyona into enkulu, kepha ebuchosheni bawo wonke umuntu, kuyindaba ehluke ngokuphelele.
Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi uzibamba kanjani, ikakhulukazi ezimeni lapho uzama ukubonakala uzethemba futhi wenze umbono omuhle wokuqala. Ukushintsha ulimi lomzimba ukukhombisa ukuzethemba kungasiza kunoma ngubani. Ngakho-ke, uzenzele umusa futhi uqhubeke ufunda amanye amathiphu ongawasebenzisa nsuku zonke.
Ukuma kwamandla
Lokhu ukuma kufaka phakathi ukuma nokubeka izandla zakho okhalweni ngendlela ejeke, ubeke isifuba sakho phambili. Lokhu kuphakamisa imizwa yakho namandla akho omzimba. Kukwenza uzizwe uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe futhi ungacindezeli kangako ngenxa yokuxhuma komzimba womzimba. Ungashintsha masinyane i-chemistry yomzimba wakho, ukhulise i-testosterone futhi wehlise i-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka.
Thatha isikhala esithe xaxa
Uma ujwayele ukuzama ukuthatha isikhala esincane lapho uhlala phansi, uma ngokuzethemba uthatha isikhala esithe xaxa ngezinga elifanele, uthumela umyalezo wokuthi ufuna ukuba lapho ukhona, kungabuzwa mibuzo. Lokho kuzobonakala nje.
Iba ngowokuqala ukuxhawula
Uma uhlangana nomuntu omusha, yiba yilowo muntu omangalisayo, ophumayo osukumayo afinyelele kuqala ukuxhawula. Lokhu kukwenza ubukeke uzethemba futhi kuqinisekisa ukuthintana kwamehlo okunenjongo.
Ungafaki izandla zakho emaphaketheni
Abantu abanamahloni bavame ukufaka izandla zabo emakhukhwini. Kepha lokhu kungathumela umyalezo ongalungile. Ukufihla izandla zakho, kungakhathalekile ukuthi kunasizathu sini, kwenza abantu bazibuze ukuthi ngabe kukhona ongakufihla. Ngakho-ke ukwenza umbono omuhle kungcono ukugcina izandla zakho zibonakala.
Beka izandla zakho etafuleni
Gcina izandla zakho ezinhlangothini zakho uma umile, noma, uma uhleli, zibeke etafuleni. Lokhu, futhi, mayelana nokubonakala kuvulekile futhi kunokwethenjelwa. Lapho umuntu engaboni izandla zakho, bayazibuza ukuthi ufihlelani. Ukuze ubonakale uthembekile futhi uthembekile, khombisa izandla zakho.
Sebenzisa ukushukuma komzimba lapho uzizwa unovalo
Ukushukuma kwesandla kungakusiza ukuthi uveze umbono wakho ngokugcizelela amagama athile bese uxoxa indaba ebanga kakhulu. Kepha futhi zingasiza ukufihla ukwethuka, uma unakho. Ukukhuluma ngezandla akusizi nje ukusungula nokucabanga, kepha futhi kuvumela ukunyakaza emzimbeni. Ukwehlisa ukubukeka kokukhathazeka, ukwethuka, noma ukungakhululeki, Vumela izingalo zakho zikhulume futhi uvumele izandla zakho zisakaze okunye kwalokhu kuphazamiseka kwemizwa.
Phrojusa ukuzethemba okwengeziwe ngokuma kwakho
Ukuma kabi kungakwenza ubukeke usolisa, noma ngabe akunjalo. Ngakho-ke khumbula ukuma uvuse ikhanda ubhekise namahlombe emuva. I-pose ayigcini nje ngokuzikhandla futhi ithi ukhona, iqinisa ukuxhumana kwakho ngokwakho. Ngokuphakamisa isilevu sakho, amahlombe akho axegekile, nesifuba sakho sivulekile, Ukhipha ukuzethemba nokuzethemba okuhle ngawe nakubantu ohlangana nabo.
Khumbula ukubheka iso
Ukuxhumana ngamehlo yikho konke. Ukwenza ukuthintana kwamehlo kukhombisa ukuthi utshale imali komunye umuntu nokuthi uyababona ukuthi bangobani. Ngendlela efanayo, Itshela omunye umuntu ukuthi ubalulekile nokuthi unenani nokuthi ufuna ukuxhumana nabo.
Melana nesifiso sokuwela izingalo zakho
Abantu abaningi bame izingalo zabo ziwele phambi kwabo, imvamisa ngoba ithokomele. Kepha, ebuchosheni bethu obuhlola ngokushesha ulimi lomzimba, le pose ikwenza ubonakale ukude kakhulu. Kungakhombisa ukuthi uvaliwe noma awunantshisekelo kulokho umuntu akushoyo. Ukudalula isifuba ngokungahambisani nezingalo kuholela emuzwa wokuba sengozini. Yize lokhu kungasabisa abanye, kukhombisa ukusondelana nentshisekelo kwabanye, ngakho-ke kufanele ukwenze nabantu abafanele.
Qiniseka
Ngokuzayo lapho udinga ukwenza iphuzu noma ukunqoba impikiswano, khumbula ukunamathela kukho. Unganciki emuva, uncike ngaphakathi noma uncike. Gcina ikhanda lakho liqondile, lingatsheki kwesobunxele noma kwesokudla. Lokhu kuzobonisa ngokoqobo ukuthi ikhanda lakho limile… gcina iso lixhumana nawe ngemuva kokwethula udaba lwakho noma ukubuza umbuzo, aze aphendule omunye umuntu… noma ngabe kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani.
Vumela umzimba wakho ukulinganise
Uma usungula ubudlelwano obuhle nothile, naka ukuqondiswa komzimba wakho. Bazise ukuthi uyakhathala ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi izinzwani zakho, inkinobho yesisu, namehlo aqondaniswe futhi akhomba lapho aqonde khona. Ngokuqondanisa lezi zinto ezintathu ngokuqonde komunye umuntu, wenza kucace ukuthi ugxile kubo nasengxoxweni, futhi lapho benaka khona ngokugcwele.
Konke kuzwakala kulula kakhulu, kepha nokho lezi zinyathelo ezincane zingenza umehluko omkhulu ngokuveza ukuzethemba, ukunqoba impikiswano nokwenza umbono wokuqala omuhle. Ngakho-ke, zigcine ngemuva kobuchopho bakho futhi uzisebenzise lapho kunokwenzeka. Kusukela manje usungaba ngungoti wolimi olungakhulumi futhi Ngeke ukwazi ukufunda kuphela umzimba wabanye, kepha uzokwazi ukuhambisa okwakho ukuze uzuze wena.