Kwesinye isikhathi imizamo yokukhuthaza ingane ukuthi yenze okuthile ibonakala ingaphumeleli, mhlawumbe uma lokhu kwenzeka kuwe kufanele ushintshe ukugxila. Kunezikhathi lapho ukuzama ukugqugquzela ingane kuba ngumzabalazo wamandla kuphela, ngakho-ke yonke into izokujikela. Kukhona okungalungile ngokukhulisa ingane yakho uma ukhathalela kakhulu amamaki ayo kunalokho okwenziwa ingane yakho noma ukuthi iziphatha kanjani noma izizwa kanjani.
Kufanele uzibuze umbuzo: «Uyini umthwalo wendodana yami lapha? Yini eyami? ”Uma ingane yakho ingawenzi umsebenzi wayo, umsebenzi wakho njengomzali ukuyenza ilandise futhi uyifundise ukuthi umhlaba wangempela usebenza kanjani. Emhlabeni wangempela, uma ungawuqedi umsebenzi wakho, ngeke ukhokhelwe.
Imiphumela
Imiphumela iyithuluzi elihle lokukhuthaza izingane nokugcoba ingane yakho ngomphumela wokukhetha kwabo okungalungile, kepha ungadidanisi isizathu sokwenza lokho ngokucabanga ukuthi kuzokukhathaza ngomsebenzi wesikole wezibalo ngoba bekhathalela. Imiphumela ayikho lapho ukudala ukugqugquzela; Ubanika ngoba wenza umsebenzi wakho njengomzali. Iqiniso ukuthi awukwazi ukugqugquzela omunye umuntu ukuthi anakekele okuthile. Esikhundleni salokho, indima yakho ukukhuthaza nokuthonya.
Njengabazali, sivame ukuzizwa sinesibopho somphumela empilweni yengane yethu, kodwa siyaqonda ukuthi lokhu akunjalo; njengesinqumo sokugcina, indodana yakho inesibopho sezinqumo zayo. Kepha ngoba sikholwa ukuthi impumelelo yezingane zethu incike kithina, singena endaweni lapho singekho khona.
Basifundisa ukuthi sidinga ukulawula izingane zethu ngandlela thile, yingakho sihlala sigxumela empilweni yazo ngaphandle kokucabanga kabili. Sicabanga ukuthi kufanele sigqugquzele izingane zethu ukuthi zifune izinto ezithile empilweni, kepha lokho kuzenza zisebenze kuphela ekuphenduleni wena. Ingane yakho ingahle ihambisane nokwenza umsebenzi noma ukujabulisa wena, kepha lokho akusizi ukuzikhuthaza. Futhi, uma ufuna ukukhuthaza nokuthonya ingane yakho, inhloso iyafana: sifuna izingane zethu zikhuthazwe, yindlela esifika ngayo lapho eyenza umehluko.
Ezinye izingane ziyazikhuthaza. Ezinye izingane azikhuthazi kangako futhi zidinga ukucindezelwa okuncane lapha noma ingcindezi enkulu lapho. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungayikhuthaza kanjani ingane yakho, ungavele ucabange ukuyivuza ngazo zonke izinyathelo azithatha ngendlela efanele bese usebenzisa imiphumela engemihle ngezinyathelo azithathela ohlangothini olungafanele. Empeleni, indlela engcono kakhulu ukuhlakulela isisusa sakho sangaphakathi - sikusize uvule imizwa yokufeza okuthile nokuziqhenya onakho ngomsebenzi owenziwe kahle.
Le yindlela ongakhuthaza ngayo ingane
Uma okufunayo kungukuthi izingane zakho zikhuthazwe endaweni ethile yezimpilo zazo, khona-ke sizokunikeza amanye amathiphu ukuze ukwazi ukukufeza:
- Ukusungula izinhloso. Bacele ukuthi benze uhlu lwezinhloso zesikhashana kanye nomgomo wesikhathi eside. Kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi ziyizinhloso zangempela nokuthi zidinga umzamo othile wokuzifeza.
- Gubha impumelelo. Lapho ingane yakho ifinyelela izinhloso zayo, yazise ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngaye. Gubha lezi zinto ndawonye. Kulezi zimo ungasebenzisa imivuzo ngomsebenzi owenziwe.
- Yenza izinto zincintisane. Ukuncintisana okunempilo nokunempilo kungumbono omuhle wesisusa. Ungashukumisa ingane yakho ukuthi ishaye enye kodwa njalo ngenhlonipho ngomphikisi. Inselelo enkulu ukuzinqoba.
- Kholwa endodaneni yakho. Yazisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyakholelwa kuye nokuthi uzoba eceleni kwakhe noma nini lapho enemibuzo noma edinga ukuxhaswa. Ukuthi ingane yakho izwa ukuthi inokusekelwa kwakho okungenamibandela kuzomenza akholelwe kuye futhi azikhombise ukuthi uyakwazi ukufeza okungaphezu kwalokho ayecabanga ekuqaleni.
- Yiba nentshisekelo. Funda ukuqonda futhi ube nentshisekelo ezintweni ezithandwa yingane yakho. Khuluma naye ulalele ukuthi uthini kuwe. Lokhu kuzokhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyayikhathalela nokuthi ingakhuluma nawe nganoma yini. Izintshisekelo zabo zibalulekile kuwe.
- Thola uthando lwengane yakho. Kwesinye isikhathi izinkanuko zezingane azinakwa ngoba kucatshangwa ukuthi "ziyizinto zezingane", kepha ithalente lengane yakho efihliwe kungenzeka liphambi kwakho futhi kungenzeka ukuthi awukwazanga nakancane. Kungumqondo omuhle futhi ukukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ithole ukuthi yini eyithandayo. Ukuthola izintshisekelo zakho kungaba yindlela ende.
- Yiba nesimo sengqondo esihle. Ukuba nesimo sengqondo esihle kubalulekile enganeni yakho ukuthi ifunde ngokuthembela kuwe. Uma izingane zakho zibona kuwe ngingakwazi noma ngingabaze lapho zizolahlekelwa ukuzethemba kodwa futhi nakuwe. Yiba nokucabanga okuhle ukushintsha umbono wesimo futhi uhlale ubona uhlangothi olukhanyayo lwezinto.
- Ukucindezela kontanga. Kwesinye isikhathi ingcindezi yeRupo ngemithamo emincane ingakhuthaza izingane. Kepha naphezu kwalokhu, kuyadingeka ukuthi kubhekwe ukuthi ingcindezi yontanga nayo ingadala ingcindezi ezinganeni bese kuzodingeka ukuthi ubanikeze amathuluzi adingekayo ukuze izingane zazi ukuphatha ingcindezi noma ukuthi ukucindezela kontanga kubathinta kanjani.
- Dala uhlelo. Ukuze ufeze izinhloso zakho, kubalulekile ukuba nohlelo. Siza izingane zakho zakhe amasu nezinhlelo zokufeza lokho abafuna ukukufeza, okungukuthi, izinhloso zabo. Yenza uhlelo lwesinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuze ufinyelele kubo futhi ubenze bazizwe ukuthi ukuthola izinto kudinga umzamo, kepha ukuthi ngokulandela izinyathelo, noma yini kungenzeka.
- Yiba ugqozi lwakho. Khuthaza izingane zakho mayelana nezinhloso nezifiso, khombisa izingane zakho leyo njabulo yokufeza izinto. Amandla akhayo ne-adrenaline kuzokushukumisela ukuthi uqhubeke nezinhloso zakho futhi ujabule ngemizamo yakho.