Isauna ra'ayi ne wanda sau da yawa ana iya rikicewa, kuma dole ne a bayyana hakan akwai nau'ikan soyayya, kamar yadda aka yi amfani da shi azaman tushensa daga abin da ke ɓata zuciya har ma da wasu nau'ikan masu guba da ke cutar da mutane suma sun taso. Saboda haka, wannan lokacin za mu gwada bayyana ma'anar soyayya kuma sama da duka zamu bincika mafi mahimmancin bambance-bambancen karatu.
Ma'anar soyayya
Da farko zamu fara ne da ayyana soyayya a matsayin gamammiyar fahimta, ma'ana, ba zamu maida hankali kan tantance nau'ikan ba, amma zamu dauke shi ne ta mahangar baki daya, kuma a wannan ma'anar zamu suna magana ne game da wani ra'ayi wanda yake kan dangantakar dangantaka da ke tsakanin halittu daban-daban, Tabbatar da jin daɗin ƙauna wanda zai haifar mana da martani ga wannan kasancewar ta wata hanyar daban idan aka kwatanta da sauran.
A wannan ma'anar, ya kamata a lura da cewa babu soyayya a tsakanin mutane kawai, amma kuma ana la’akari da soyayya yayin da aka kulla alaka tsakanin dabbobi ko ma tsakanin mutane da dabbobi, matukar dai akwai wata alaka a tsakanin su da zata kai su ga samun alaka mai karfi da banbanci.
Tabbas bai kamata muyi tunanin cewa soyayya dole tana nuna cewa akwai dangantaka a cikin jima'i ba, amma zamuyi magana akan daban ji dangane da nau'in soyayya wanda muke komawa zuwa gare shi, domin a sami abin da ake kira soyayya ko rashin jin dadi wanda zai kasance, misali, wanda uba yake ji game da ɗa ko akasin haka.
Haka nan kuma zamu sami wasu nau'ikan soyayya gwargwadon saurin da ake samar da ita, a wannan yanayin zamuyi magana akan soyayya platonic, kuma koda daga mahangar addini zamu kafa soyayya daban.
A wannan ma'anar, mun fahimci soyayya azaman jerin motsin zuciyar da ake samarwa zuwa ga wani mahaluki, wanda zai iya haɓaka ta hanyoyi daban-daban dangane da alaƙar da aka kafa tare da wannan.
San kowane irin soyayya
Dangane da ma'anar da ta gabata, dole ne mu fahimci cewa akwai nau'ikan soyayya daban-daban, waɗanda za mu wakilta a ƙasa don fahimtar ɗan fahimtar manufar soyayya da kuma hanyar da take haɓaka bisa ka'idoji da dabi'u.
Son soyayya
Yana da soyayyar da ake kullawa tsakanin iyaye da 'ya' yansu kuma a kowane bangare, wanda kuma ya hada da wasu nau'ikan kamar 'yan uwantaka soyayya me zai kasance soyayya tsakanin yan’uwa biyuba tare da la’akari da cewa ko ba ‘yan uwan jini bane.
Loveauna mara iyaka
A gefe guda kuma, muna da soyayya mara misaltuwa, wacce ita ce wacce daya daga cikin yake bayar da kansa gaba daya ga wani ba tare da tsammanin samun wani abu ba, kuma kyakkyawan misali na irin wannan soyayyar ita ce mumini yana ji game da Allahnsa, ko ma da soyayya da waɗanda suka amince da juna suka ji dangane da ƙungiyar da aka kafa ta imani na addini.
A wannan halin kuma zamu iya jaddada cewa ƙaunataccen ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacciyar ƙa'ida, tun da yana da kyau uba ya ba da komai ga yaransa ba tare da fatan gaske a dawo da shi ba.
Tonaunar Platonic
El soyayya platonic wata irin soyayya ce wacce take maida hankali akan Ra'ayoyin Plato game da wannan ji, ko da yake ya kamata a lura da cewa galibi yana rikicewa da rayayyar soyayya ko soyayya mara yuwuwa, amma wannan kuskurene tunda Plaaunar Platonic tana mai da hankali kan buƙatar yin tunani game da kyau, sabili da haka idan muka ji soyayya a farko gani, muna kiranta soyayyar platonic.
Kyakkyawan misali shine lokacin da muka ga yarinya da alama tana da kyau sosai a gare mu kuma tana da kyau, kuma duk da cewa mun sadu da ita kuma babu wani dalili na gaske da zai sa mu ji wani abu a gare ta, gaskiyar ita ce wani abu yana faruwa a cikin mu, amma soyayya Platonic ba wai kawai tana mai da hankali ne akan abin da zamu kira eros soyayya ba, amma zamu iya jin son platonic har ma na dabbobi, abubuwa da kusan komai wannan yana kewaye da mu, matuƙar yana haifar da waccan kyakkyawa da ke jan hankalin mu ta wata hanya.
Yana da mahimmanci a sanya hankali a cikin soyayya platonic babu wani nau'in jima'i, Tunda baya nufin mayar da hankali ga wannan mutumin, amma ya karkata ga Kyakkyawan yanayin kyakkyawa daidai.
Eaunar eros
Abinda muka sani da soyayya ta ma'ana, ma'ana, shine soyayya mai dadi wannan yawanci ana fuskantar shi ne ga takamaiman mutum kuma ya bambanta sosai da so ko jin da muke ji game da saura.
Hakan yana nuna tsananin ƙarfi kuma yana turawa zuwa zurfafawa a matakan motsin rai da na jiki, ƙirƙirar abubuwan da suka bambanta da sauran nau'ikan soyayya tun da shima yana da yanayi iri ɗaya, tunda da wuya a ji shi. mutane biyu a lokaci guda.
I mana dole ne mu ba da ruɗar eros soyayya tare da janye jiki, tunda duk da cewa irin wannan soyayyar na dauke da jima'i, baya mai da hankali musamman akansa, amma yana amfani dashi azaman kayan aiki don samun damar zurfafa dangantakar.
Ludus soyayya
Kuma tabbas kuma akwai irin wannan soyayyar wacce take maida hankali akan a m dangantaka, wannan shine, anan zamuyi magana la jan hankali da kuma jima'i keɓaɓɓe, ta yadda ba za a sami ƙaunar eros ba amma a wasan jima'i tsakanin mutane biyu ko fiye.
Sau da yawa, mutanen da ke bin irin wannan soyayyar suna samun matsala wajen kafa abin da ake kira soyayyar eros, kodayake saboda ɗabi'un zamantakewa ya zama gama gari a gare su su yi ƙoƙari su cimma hakan, amma ya bayyana a sarari cewa ba wani abu ba ne da za a iya tilastawa, don haka cewa za mu iya jin sha'awar mutum amma wannan ba yana nufin cewa muna cikin ƙauna a matakin ƙaunataccen ƙauna ba.
Ta wannan hanyar, magoya bayan ludus soyayya gabaɗaya suna da wahalar aikata kansu, kuma a cikin ɓacin rai suna da nesa da mutanen da ke kusa da su.