Hankalin motsin rai - Menene shi, nau'ikan da jimloli

A cikin 'yan shekarun nan, ƙwararru da yawa sun ba da haɗin kai wajen neman bayani mai ma'ana game da duk abin da ya same mu; kamar motsin rai, wanda ke da dalilin da ya sa ake bayyana shi kuma ana kiran amsar da "Ilimin motsin rai", kalma ce duk da cewa an yi amfani da ita shekaru da yawa da suka gabata, ya zama sananne a cikin 1995 godiya ga littafin littafin Daniel Goleman, wanda yake da suna iri ɗaya da taken sa.

Saboda shaharar da wannan takamaiman batun ya samu a cikin lokaci cike da 'yan kasuwa da mutane masu sha'awar haɓakawa da haɓaka ɗaiɗaikun mutane, mun yanke shawarar bayar da gudummawar hatsinmu na yashi tare da cikakkiyar shigarwar. Muna fatan kunji dadin karatu.

Menene hankali?

Ma'anar wannan kalmar ita ce ma'ana, tunda akwai bincike da yawa da ra'ayoyi game da shi. Koyaya, ana iya bayyana shi azaman Coarfin fahimta cewa mutane dole ne su gane, fahimta da kuma sarrafa motsin zuciyar su; a daidai wannan hanyar kuma yana yiwuwa a gare shi ya gane, fahimta da kuma tasiri na waɗansu.

An haife hankali ne (EI) saboda bukatar iya gwargwadon kimanta mutum a cikakkiyar hanya, tunda mitar mitar (IQ) bai kimanta yadda mutum ya fahimta da kuma jin daɗin motsin su ko yadda suke ji ko na sauran mutane ba. Wani abu da Howard Gardner ya ambata tare da littafinsa na "Ma'ana da yawa: ka'idar a aikace", wani littafi ne wanda aka fitar dashi a shekarar 1983.

Ya kasance har sai 1985 cewa lokacin ya sami ɗan ƙaramin ganuwa tare da rubutun Wayne Payne; kodayake a cikin 1964 da 1966 Beldoch da Leuner sun riga sun nada Intelligan Basirar tausayawa. Koyaya, a cikin 1995 shine lokacin da lokacin ya zama sananne sosai ga littafin Daniel Goleman, wanda muka ambata a farkon shigarwar; tunda wannan ya sami matsala sosai.

A cewar Daniel Goleman da kansa, ya zama dole a fahimci yadda kwakwalwa ke aiki domin tantance lamarin ikon da motsin zuciyarmu ke da shi akan tunaninmu. Bayani wanda zamu iya samu a cikin aikinsa:

Nau'in bisa ga Daniel Goleman

Za a iya rarraba hankali na hankali zuwa abubuwa biyar, waɗanda Daniel Goleman ya bayyana a matsayin wayewar kai, kamun kai, motsin rai, jin kai, da sanin makamar aiki.

Waɗannan abubuwa na iya bambanta ƙwarai dangane da halin mutum Kuma ko don jinsinsu, alal misali, a mafi yawan lokuta maza sun fi sanin kansu; yayin da mata suka fi jin tausayinsu.

Kasance mai hankali

Thearfin mutum ne ya san irin motsin rai da motsin rai da suke da shi, tare da fahimtar yadda suke tasiri a cikin tunaninsu ko kuma gaba ɗaya. A wasu kalmomin, sanin kanka ne, kasancewa da masaniya akan duka ƙarfinku (halaye ko ƙwarewar ku) da raunin ku.

Kula da motsin zuciyarku

Wanda aka sani da kula da kai ko kamun kai, Abun shine ke da alhakin sarrafawa da yin tunani akan motsin zuciyarmu ko abubuwan da muke ji, tare da nufin basu iya mallakar ikon tunani da ayyuka ba.

Ainihin, shine ikon da muke da shi don fahimtar dalilin da yasa muke jin waɗannan motsin zuciyarmu da kuma koyon sarrafa su a cikin lokutan da suka dace, tunda galibi idan sun yi lafazi sai mu ƙare da yin nadama game da faɗi ko yin wani abu da ba mu so ba idan ba saboda motsin zuciyarmu ya rinjayi halinmu da tunaninmu.

Motivarfafa kai

Ya kunshi sanin yadda ake mayar da hankali ga motsin rai ta hanyar amfani mai ma'ana, ma'ana, sanya manufa ko manufa da sanin yadda za a ja hankali zuwa gare su; domin mu kwadaitar da kanmu.

Ana iya cewa shi ne "kyakkyawan fata" na yau da kullun kuma mai ma'ana (kodayake wani lokacin yakan yi yaƙi da na yanzu), tare da ƙarfin "ƙirar" wanda ke sa mu ci gaba ta hanyar da ta dace don haɓaka cikin fannoni daban-daban na rayuwa.

Jin tausayi

Shine wanda yake bada damar gane motsin rai da sauran mutane, wanda galibi ake yada shi sume. Hakanan ana iya kiransa "bayanan sirri", wanda ɗayan ɗayan fuskokin da Howard Gardner ya ambata cewa ba zai iya auna alamun masu hankali ba kamar IQ.

Mutumin da ke da ikon fahimta, fahimta da kuma tasiri cikin motsin zuciyar wasu mutane, yana da mafi girman kayan aiki don kafa alaƙa da shi; Bugu da ƙari, ƙwararrun mutane sune waɗanda suka mallaki manyan iko na tunanin hankali.

Kwarewar zamantakewa

da dangantaka tsakanin dangi Abubuwa ne masu mahimmanci kuma masu mahimmanci don ci gaban mutum daidai; tunda waɗannan suna da tasiri mai tasiri akan farin ciki, yawan aiki da ci gaban mutum.

Wannan lamarin yana sanya ambaton kai tsaye, wanda ya zama dole don kafa waɗannan alaƙar; kamar yadda ya zama wani yanki ne da ya zama dole don inganta IE ɗinmu saboda dalilan da aka bayyana a baya.

Gano ƙwarewarku tare da gwaji

Kamar IQ, akwai gwaje-gwajen azanci da yawa waɗanda zamu iya samu a yanar gizo. Duk da wannan, abin da ya fi dacewa shi ne ka je wurin ƙwararren masani wanda zai iya gudanar da cikakken ƙwarewar mutum da na gaba ɗaya kamar gwajin da za ka samu a intanet.

Kodayake idan kuna da shakka, waɗannan gwaje-gwajen na iya ba ku ɗan ra'ayin menene matakinku na IE, don haka yana da kyau ayi hakan. Tabbas, saboda gwaje-gwajen zabi ne da yawa, dole ne ku zama masu gaskiya kamar yadda zai yiwu kuma kuyi ƙoƙari ku binciki ainihin abin da aikinku zai kasance ga wasu lokuta; Ta wannan hanyar kawai zaku sami kyakkyawan sakamako.

Hankalin motsin rai a cikin yara, kamfanoni da hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a

Saboda shaharar da aka samu, akwai bincike da yawa da aka gudanar kan batun a yankuna daban-daban. Daga cikin su, mafi shahararrun sune kula da motsin zuciyar da yara, ma'aikata da masu amfani da hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a ke ciki.

1. Yara

Yara suna buƙatar ilmantarwa ta motsin rai don su iya haɓaka abubuwan abubuwan da aka ambata a baya kuma ta wannan hanyar, su sami ikon mallakar motsin zuciyar su da fahimtar na wasu don alaƙar mutum, wanda, kamar yadda muka gani, suna da mahimmancin gaske.

Duk da haka, da hankali a cikin yara yawanci ana koyo a aikace, ma'ana, tare da ci gabanta a zahiri. Don haka, ana iya tallafawa waɗannan koyarwar tare da taimakon dangi, don haka muna ba da shawarar mai zuwa:

• Koya koya musu kame fushi da sanin cewa akwai halayen dazasu gujewa.
• Nuna masa menene motsin zuciyar da aka fi sani da yadda za a iya gane su a cikin wasu mutane, don su sami haɓaka juyayi.
• Koyar da shi ya ambata sunaye da suke ji a wasu yanayi.
• Nuna masa dabarun da zasu basu damar bayyana kansu da kuma magance motsin rai ko ji.
• Karfafa sadarwa don su sami kwanciyar hankali su bayyana ra'ayinsu, su ba da ra'ayinsu ko duk abin da suke ji ko tunani.

2. Kamfanoni

Karatuttukan EI da bincike da suka shafi yankin kasuwanci sun samar da sakamako mai girma, tunda ma'aikata tare da hankali na motsin rai sun fi samarwa da farin ciki. Dangane da bayanan da aka tattara, waɗancan ma'aikata waɗanda ke iya sarrafa motsin zuciyar su kuma sun fahimci abin da kwastomomin su ke, suna da ƙwarewar sayar da kayayyaki da aiyuka.

Wannan ya haifar da ma'aikata tare da EI kamfanoni sun fi buƙata, tunda suna buƙatar mutane waɗanda ke iya fuskantar yanayi mai wahala tare da azama da haɓaka. Sabili da haka, kamfanoni sun fara gwada wannan nau'in hankali lokacin zaɓar wanda zai kasance cikin ƙungiyar aikin.

3 Cibiyoyin sadarwar jama'a

Cibiyoyin sadarwar jama'a wata hanya ce ta sadarwa, don haka wannan na iya zama yana da wani muhimmanci a wasu fannoni. Koyaya, ba ayi bincike mai yawa akan wannan ba, saboda haka za mu takaita ne kawai ga yin tsokaci kan wasu 'yan fasali.

• Mutane a cikin hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a sun fi zama masu tausayawa, tunda waɗancan wallafe-wallafen waɗanda ke nuna yanayi mai wuya ko rikitarwa suna da saurin yadawa. Hakanan, mutanen da suka yi tarayya cikin nasarar ku suma suna iya samun karɓuwa sosai.
• Ga kamfanoni, fa'idodin EI sun fi bayyane yayin gudanar da hanyoyin sadarwar jama'a. Tunda yana ba su damar sauraron saurarar kwastomominsu, karɓar suka, zama mai kyau da haƙiƙa dangane da yanayin, inganta bukatun masu sauraro, da sauransu.

Kalmomin hankali na motsin rai

A ƙarshe, wani abu da aka nema da wancan a cikin Recursosdeautoayuda koyaushe muna shirye mu tattara, su ne jimloli (Dole ne ku ziyarci rukuninmu!). Don haka muna fatan kun ji daɗinsu.

• Idan kana son yin farin ciki, dole ne ka yi murabus don ganin wasu suna farin ciki. - Bertrand Russell
• Matsalar ita ce, idan ba ku yi wa kanku rayuwa ba, wasu mutane za su yi. - Peter Shaffer
• Nufin shine ni'imar da sha'awar ta so. - Raheel Farooq
• Idan kuna karanta wannan ... Barka, kuna raye. Idan wannan ba abin murmushi bane, to ban san menene ba. - Sugar Chadi
• Mafi kyawun bayanin halin mutum shine yadda yake mu'amala da mutanen da basa iya masa komai, da kuma yadda yake mu'amala da mutanen da basa iya kare kansa. - Abigail Van Buren
• Mutum mai hankali yana iya tunanin komai, mai hankali ma ba ya gwadawa. —Jen Knox
• A hakikanin gaskiya, dukkanmu muna da tunani biyu, tunani mai daɗi da ji da kai. - Daniel Goleman
• Wannan shine abin da ke faruwa da darasi, koyaushe koya koya daga gare su, koda lokacin da ba kwa so. - Cecelia Ahern
• Yin tunani game da wani abu ba ya nufin cewa gaskiya ne. Son abu baya nufin gaskiyane. - Michelle Hodkin
• Kowane irin motsin rai yana da matsayinsa, amma bai kamata ya tsoma baki tare da aikin da ya dace ba. - Susan Oakey-Baker

• Yana da ban mamaki yadda da zarar hankali ya sami 'yanci daga gurɓacewar motsin rai, hankali da bayyane suka bayyana. - Clyde DeSouza
• Jinƙai na gaskiya ba kawai yana nufin jin zafin ɗayan ba ne, amma kuma yana aiki don sauƙaƙe shi. - Daniel Goleman
• Mun manta da sauƙin abin da ke haifar mana da ciwo. - Graham Green.
• Businessan kasuwar Yammacin Turai galibi ba su fahimci mahimmancin gina alaƙar ɗan adam. - Daniel Goleman
• Kowane aiki na ilimantarwa mai hankali yana buƙatar shirye don cutar da darajar mutum. Wannan shine dalilin da yasa yara ƙanana suyi saurin karatu kafin su fahimci mahimmancin su. Karin Szasz
• Sanin kanka shine farkon dukkan hikima. - Aristotle
• Ban damu da abinda zaka fada min ba. Na damu da abin da kuka raba ni. - Santosh Kalwar
• Thewaƙwalwar ƙwaƙwalwa tana amsawa ga abin da ya faru da sauri fiye da ƙwaƙwalwar hankali. - Daniel Goleman
• Canja hankalinka kuma ka canza motsin zuciyar ka. Canja motsin zuciyar ku kuma hankalin ku zai canza wurare. - Frederick Dodson

• Abilityarfinmu na daidaitawa yana da ban mamaki. Ikonmu na canzawa abin birgewa ne. - Liza Lutz.
• Ba damuwa ba ce take sa mu faɗuwa, yadda muke amsawa ne ga yanayin damuwa. - Wayde Goodall
• Hanya guda daya tak da zaka canza tunanin wani shine ta hanyar cudanya dashi ta cikin zuciya. - Rasheed Ogunlaru
• Ragearfin zuciya shine mafi mahimmanci ga duk kyawawan halaye, saboda ba tare da ƙarfin zuciya ba, ba za a iya aiwatar da wasu kyawawan halaye na yau da kullun ba. - Maya Angelou
• Idan kayi fada da kanka don gano hakikanin kanka, zaka gane cewa mai nasara daya ne kawai. - Stephen Richards
• Yi tafiya kamar zaki, magana kamar kurciya, rayuwa kamar giwaye, da soyayya kamar ƙaramin yaro. - Santosh Kalwar
• Hanya ɗaya da za mu ƙara ƙarfin zuciyarmu ita ce sanin yadda za mu sarrafa abubuwan da muke raba hankali maimakon barin su su mallake mu. - Daniel Goleman
• Kada kaji tsoron tsoranka. Ba sa nan su tsoratar da kai. Suna wurin ne don sanar da kai cewa wani abu yana da daraja. - C. JoyBell C.

Abun takaici anan ne shigowar ta shigo, amma ka kwantar da hankalin ka, daga baya zamu ci gaba da zurfafawa cikin wannan batun mai ban sha'awa. Muna fatan kun ji daɗin abubuwan da aka bayar kuma kamar yadda muke faɗi koyaushe, idan kuna son ba da gudummawa ko kuma kuna da wasu tambayoyi, kar ku manta cewa a ƙasa akwai akwatin tsokaci. Ah, muna kuma gayyatarku da ku raba labarin a kan hanyoyin sadarwarku, saboda za ku taimaka wa mutane su koya game da irin wannan hankalin